i met this guy online, I’ll name him Danny (19 M) and my names elysia ( 18 F) Me and danny clicked I felt like we were perfect for eachother he met all my standards and I felt like I fit the description perfectly for what he was looking for. We talk for a good month want to meet up we plan out a date he flakes then ghosts me and deactivated his Instagram account then texts me on tiktok and I text him back we start messaging on iMessage things are going well again and we actually go out and we have such a good time but yet again he ghosts me a couple weeks go by he calls I answer and he says he ghost me because he was petty because I accidentally fell asleep when we had plans he apologized I got over it
we were going so well again we are texting constantly and constant attention and messages then I feel a shift in energy he hardly messages me and I send him a paragraph explaining how I felt like he was neglecting me because although you don’t have to text me 24/7 I expect a message a couple times a day or more even. He apologized and said he’s been busy and it’s not even a paragraph it’s like two sentences and I respond with “it’s okay.” He ghosts me after that I call him a couple times and one day he calls he apologizes and tells me he can’t date me right now he has to focus on school and he knows himself if he gets into a relationship right now it wouldn’t work and he wants to “marry me” so he wants to wait until he can actually handle a relationship
he comes over he leaves me his rosary and he says he wants to marry me he tells me all these beautiful sweet lies I want to believe them SO bad but I tell him every time “talk is cheap you should be more intentional with your words” I don’t understand it at all he’s hurting me I don’t know how he doesn’t want a relationship and he thinks he wants to marry me? He doesn’t understand this hurts me and I don’t want to let him go he’s my perfect man but he makes me feel like im not someone worthy of even his time. I have people sacrifice things to make time for me and he can’t even text me throughout the day right.. my future husband wouldn’t do this to me but is this blatant disrespect should I end things or am I risking leaving something worth keeping behind.
TL;DR
Danny (male, 19) has been texting me, elysia (female, 18) for months and we’ve been out on a couple dates he says he’s ready for commitment but he is a constant flight escape and ghosts me a lot and now doesn’t text me at all but calls me every morning and every night he hurts my feelings and I feel like I make it obvious but he obviously doesn’t care I don’t know if I need to end things or if I should stick it through