Hi all, I am really at a crossroads right now. I (23f) have been dating my partner (23m) for 8 years and we are engaged. About 3 years ago I found out he was paying for and making content, which utterly shattered me. Since then, I have been to therapy for the trauma of that and he has been to therapy (only a short time due to graduating college and moving back home). Last year, I found him engaging in subreddits for porn but nothing like his previous engagements. This most recent time he had made an instagram account where he was talking with another porn account and was sharing content that he liked. He is always remorseful and ashamed. He knows he has a problem and has described his urges to me and he wishes he could stop. I said that he needs to find a therapist and that I need transparency because I can’t support him it he hides it from me. I don’t want to leave because I believe that he’s my soulmate but I can’t keep going through this.
Anyone have any advice or similar experiences?
Tl;dr my partner has a problem with porn and he has continued to use. I am wondering what to do.