I’ve had a FWB for 2 years, when we first started messing around, I made it clear that I wanted a relationship, he told me that we’ll have to see where things go. He told me about his ex and used that as a reason for why he didn’t want to date and I accepted that, two years later, he told me that he wanted us to be in a relationship. This came after I was pretty much over the rejection and sought out other men, I stupidly lied to him about seeing other men and he eventually found out, he was upset and decided that he no longer wanted to talk to me anymore. About two weeks after we argued about my dishonesty and stopped talking, he reached out to me and told me that he’s ‘hurt’ and wanted me to make it up to him by being totally open to him sexually and emotionally, he also decided that he wanted us to be in a relationship. Should I just tell him that it’s best we part ways completely?
What should I do?
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Yes, if you’re not going to entertain his idea of being in a relationship. It’s only fair to him to explain it’s best you both move on.
This is a trap disguised as love, he only wanted you once he felt you slipping away and now he is demanding control as a price for forgiveness. Walk away because real relationships are built on trust not guilt or ultimatums.
Honestly, it sounds like he only wanted a relationship once you moved on, and now he’s trying to use your past lie as leverage to get what he wants from you. That “make it up to me by being totally open sexually and emotionally” line is a big red flag, that’s not how healthy relationships work.
You’ve already been clear about what you wanted, and he dismissed it for years. If you’re feeling like it’s best to part ways, I’d listen to that instinct. You don’t owe him your body or your emotions just because he’s “hurt.” You deserve someone who respects you and wants to be with you without conditions.