So ive been with my partner 10. year
The sex is so god awful … he never gives any foreplay and just expects me to be ready.
It’s got to a point I’m repulsed when having sex with him. I’ve tried talking to him explaining what’s lacking.
I’m more than generous I give oral and dress the part and put effort in.
We’ve not had sex in almost a year because I don’t want to. But im also sat here wondering if maybe I need to leave because I’m having thoughts of sleeping with someone else.
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I’m not one for ultimatums, but one seems warranted. I’m also not one to say leave him on a whim but if he’s just adamant about not putting forth effort, I don’t know what other alternatives you have. He’s not interested in taking a baby step to improve so you’re definitely not overreacting on wanting to be desired and touched.
Maybe a final sit down before?
What does he say when you talk to him about it?
Not had sex in a year is pretty wild as guy I’m wondering is if he’s had his hormones checked.
I just can’t fathom after a week I’d be wondering what the hell I can do.
If you’ve had talks and he’s not changing, then he’ll never change.
Next, I’d be sitting him down and having an explicit and direct conversation with him about it.
Then I’d go to therapy with him if you don’t want to get divorced.
If you don’t want to do anything of that, seperate, divorce, and then sleep with whoever you like, but don’t cheat. I don’t recommend divorce however.
That’s officially a dead bedroom.