Basically I struck out with a girl that was initially super interested in me and I haven’t been able to stop thinking about how I messed up.
Honestly I didn’t see here as anything serious but I’m just annoyed because it keeps happening to me and I can’t figure out why.
I’ve been doing sports, I’ve been hanging out with my close friends I’ve been distracting myself with tv/movies but I cant fully get over this.
I know it’s not a big deal but I’m really struggling to move on from the feeling because I’m scared I’m just going to do the same thing again with the next girl.
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So you’re bothered by the fact that you’re comfortable dating someone whilst knowing that their interest in you does not match your interest in them? If I’ve understood this correctly then the fact that you’re bothered by it is at least somewhat redeeming – having your ego bolstered at someone else’s expense is at best unprincipled and I think deep down you know this. Whilst for you it “shouldn’t be a big deal”, chances are that you’ve left the other person confused and possibly also upset. You might begin to feel better when you communicate your interest more clearly and hold off getting into situations or giving impressions that you might be serious before you know whether you’re actually interested or not. All the best OP.
OP, most people aren’t meant for each other, or interested in each other, and that’s the reality of dating and mating. It’s something we have to accept and live with, and we can’t object because that would mean objecting to people’s right to decide who they get with. That’s what makes dating so hard, OP, because nothing happens, unless two people choose each other at the same time.
So you are upset that a girl you didn’t even seriously like rejected you?
You’ll have better luck when you grow up and realise that women and girls are real people with their own thoughts, plans and ideas. We aren’t just NPCs for you to nut in.