I absolutely hate helping w anything related my girlfriend’s business, the whole thing is just way too much physical work every week but I do it out of love of course without getting a single penny off of it and spending hours and hours doing the work. It’s getting to the point where I don’t want anything to do with it but I feel like telling her I won’t help her would change a lot of things, she wouldn’t be able to carry heavy things and whatnot but I don’t know how to move forward considering all things. What should I do?
What should I do with my relationship?
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Just say no? She can put you on payroll or hire somebody else.
How committed are you to the relationship?
My sincere opinion is that if you love this woman and you see yourself with her long term you should keep helping her, but maybe set a goal that will allow her to hire someone else.
So, you can say to her that you want to help her and you will, but that you need to see a light at the end of the tunnel, so set a benchmark like once you are earning $X/month you will hire someone to do this work. If the business is infinitely at the point of failure without free labor then it’s just not a viable business. A hard truth but eventually a necessary one if that’s the case.
With the info we have I don’t know if you working your ass off 80 hours a week or you are put out by having to carry groceries in from the car. You will know what your limits are, but if you care for her then try to give her a runway to find other help and don’t just quit on her.
Is she doing plenty of physical work herself, as well as you?
What sort of business is it, and what assets does it have?
I would casually say something like ‘I think this business of ours could be a winner’ and see how she reacts.
Relationships are not contractual business entities, well at least not until you’re married..i recommend you do everything to separate the two and ofc, explicitly write out everything including responsibilities, expectations. If she’s unwilling to do so, then divulge urself from said investment…And if she gives u a hard time for doing so, then you have an easy out of an eventual disaster…
Just do what you do, you get your rewards latter ,anything else and you’ll change the dynamics of the relationship, and you could be out the door
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