What struggles did you have to face from family, marriage, or society when you decided to work or build your career ?
What struggles did you have to face from family, marriage, or society when you decided to work or build your career ?
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What struggles did you have to face from family, marriage, or society when you decided to work or build your career ?
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Nothing weird from family or spouse, but I was disappointed in how confused a lot of people were when I returned to full time work after the birth of our children while my partner (male) chose to be a stay at home dad for the first year. I got told I worked too many hours by male colleagues who had young children as well and worked thesame hours. He got sent job applications by people we vaguely know ‘because of his unemployment’.
Didn’t face any struggles from family, but faced a lot from society
I work in cybersecurity, a branch of IT, 80% Of workers are male and often women are only employed to balance out work diversity in the office, I wasn’t taken seriously in the slightest at first purely because I am a woman, was given very tiny tasks and given an “assistant” To watch over me despite none of the other new male employees getting one and also despite me having multiple degrees AND certifications in the field
Clawed my way up the ladder and now I’m in a leadership position at a large company here in Singapore
And best part is I make more money than every guy I know, and it feels fucking awesome.
None from family or marriage. We talked about it beforehand and knew I was going back to work and he was stay at home/part time work. We need a lot of balancing since we don’t have help with baby so we communicate about that a lot. From my own family also none, my mom was a working single mother with a heck of a career. Her whole generation including those that married in were career women. Grandma had feelings about that but she got used to it by the time my generation was born.
Society is a bit varied. I get women who congratulate me on scoring a wonderful husband who is willing to stay at home and is an excellent father. I don’t tend to attract people into life that would frown upon our family set up. But I do see it on social media sometimes. I also don’t feel a lot of guilt for going back to work. Sometimes I miss my kid at work but I don’t worry about missing parts of her life, she’ll share that with her father and he’ll share it with me and I dont feel like i missed anything. BUT I do find when I talk to other moms I keep this a bit quiet. It’s like I have to pretend to feel some mom guilt or I’m not a good mother. Or maybe that’s just my form of mom guilt or anxiety. Not sure about that one yet