All of a sudden, being expected to figure it all out on your own. Like everyone was taught the same tools to learn and cope growing up, and we all know we weren’t.
a significant increase in responsibilities, such as managing finances, working a job, and caring for others, which can be stressful and leave less time for leisure and social activities
If you’ve ever had to do group projects in high school or college, adulting is like that but with even fewer team members willing to pull their weight.
Friends and loved ones dying off. In particular, I’ve lost some childhood friends that I thought would be by my side my whole life. It forces you to live with an uncomfortable contradiction of preserving memory and love for those you’ve lost, while still letting go enough to move on with life. This is not easy to pull off. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do.
The people who should lead usually don’t want to. So the people who absolutely shouldn’t lead , usually take up that beacon. Has made every job in every industry I’ve worked awful for me.
This one is a bit more male specific but no one cares about you. If you are single and childless and don’t keep in touch with your parents for whatever reason there’s no one. No one checks up on you or asks how you’re doing. Sure you might have some friends but they never stick around because they got their own lives. Alone, unwanted, invisible unless you’re somewhere you shouldn’t be. It really sucks tbh
Bills.
Basically loss of free time because you have to be responsible, pay for a place to live, necessities, try to save so you can retire before your body gives out, etc.
No One gives a fuck about your emotions/ mental health, everyone expects you to just clean your shit up and move on, and if you don’t, too bad. Your fallbacks and mishaps are treated like a personal failure on your part by others around you, because you’re supposed to be an adult and do adult things and grow up, and when you don’t do it on other people’s timelines they don’t understand.
also-getting to a point where you are looking for a job and no one wants to hire you because you are too expensive. Age discrimination is rampant-especially in education.
Realising that, mentally, theres no real delineation between being a child and being an adult. It’s all just experiences changing the way you look at the world.
You used to look at adults as almost infallible protectors as a kid. Wise. Powerful. But when you get there you see that many of them, at least in some ways, didn’t really change mindsets from when they were children themselves.
I know 70 years olds who act like old wise men and tantrum throwing eight year olds in equal measure. I’m sure I’ve been judged the same myself.
Limited opportunities to socialize. You go to work and head home. There isn’t much to life. In school and university you are around people your age and you make friends easily. It’s all gone once you are working. And especially in the west you don’t live with family so there is often no one to come home to.
If you don’t do it, no one will. Being an adult is to get up and take care of it even when you don’t want to, and when you don’t, it’ll just wait for you. Continuing to not be taken care of. It’s looms over you, the long you wait to do it the more it invades causal thought of literally every thing with grim portraits of everything you’re not taking care of.
I have to work my ass off to feed my kids and also to pay the goobermen so they can do shit that I would never in a million years even consider doing with my money.
No one is coming to save you. It’s up to you and only you at the end of the day to save yourself, better yourself, or to force change. It’s hard sometimes
Your mistakes are usually far more permanent then when you are a kid. You can ruin your job, your car, your relationship your credit and so on. I destroyed my future for a long time by not seeking help when having a bipolar episode and it spiralled .
I want to left alone for the most part but, I also want people that I can reach out to when the loneliness begins to cripple me. Although I understand that they’re probably experiencing the same as me, I expect other to cheer me up and get more depressed when they cant.
Time is taken over by responsibilities. As a kid, bills are paid, dinner just shows up, the house is clean. As an adult, you have to work to pay those bills, you have to cook dinner, clean the house, etc. Meanwhile, the kid just goes on playing, having fun.
Unless you’re extremely wealthy, time is such a fleeting resource as an adult.
Having to stay because I don’t want to affect the people in my life. My mental health has been horrible but I stay to not destroy my family, but yet I feel like I can’t go back to mental health care because I’ll be the “weak broken one” all over again.
Almost everything nowadays because its all designed to suck the most money & time out of you.
When I was a kid in the 90s and teen in the 00s it felt like life was a lot more cheap & price weren’t crazy, not many cellphones. My rent was like $600 a month in 09.
Having experienced horrible things in life, knowing that your children will experience horrible things as well, and not being able to do anything about it
Working all the time and missing out on things because you’re working all the time. Then when things are planned you have to work more so you’ll have money for the things planned and then when you’re done with doing the things planned you have to work more to make up for the money spent on the planned things. Vicious cycle.
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Everyone is so busy, it gets tougher and tougher to get together with friends.
We are alone in our issues… hardly anyone gives us a hug or comforts us
Responsibility overload
Paying bills
Tackling problems alone. Not being around family and friends all the time.
It’s hard to make friends.
Loneliness even when surrounded
Must have work experience to get work experience. Also many unexplainable ouchies at random times
The loss of grace automatically given to younger people. You no longer have the cute and adorable cards to play.
People rely on you and expect you to make decisions for them, which can be difficult to adjust to.
Realizing that there will soon be fewer days ahead than behind.
Everything
Work 24/7 so I can afford to rest for 7 days
Emotional health sucks
Having to deal with a changing world that prevents me from moving forward.
Deciding what’s for dinner every night
The consistency of never being done. There is ALWAYS something that needs your attention, time, and/or money.
Everything?
Learning that nobody really has it all figured out, not even adults
Being alone
All of a sudden, being expected to figure it all out on your own. Like everyone was taught the same tools to learn and cope growing up, and we all know we weren’t.
a significant increase in responsibilities, such as managing finances, working a job, and caring for others, which can be stressful and leave less time for leisure and social activities
When you buy new trainers and no one asks how fast you can run in them
Endless amounts of responsibility
taxes
Fighting the bureaucratic government erratic nonsense for program
Making friend as an adult is much more difficult.
You come to find out your life is basically work.
Find something that fulfills you so adult life doesn’t suck.
Making new friends
Being an adult
Literally everything
Money 💰
Just when you think you have it figured out, the universe sends a brand new problem that has never been an issue for you before.
Bills, bills, bills.
This thread just made me realize that even though I’m an adult by age, I am not truly an adult
Bills
Everything..
Bills.
there is never enough money
Work and lack of days off
Paying bills and not having enough money to even do that.
Bills, never ending bills
Bills. Like heat and water.
Loneliness and navigating others trauma, but feeling like you yourself never get the same care and grace you grant others
When summer comes, you continue to work through it. No summer offs.
This is it, this all there is.
Being.
Work
Everything.
If you’ve ever had to do group projects in high school or college, adulting is like that but with even fewer team members willing to pull their weight.
When I go to the park and try to join the children running around after each other playing tag the police are called
You’re going to outlive your parents…. Typically
Criticism from non-adults who think they know it all.
All of it
When you look for an adult and realize it’s you. That sucks. It gets me every time.
Life.
You have to figure out what to eat every day for the rest of your life.
Bills
Loss of freedom, and more importantly, loss of time. Especially with your loved ones.
Everything.
Regret for mistakes made and opportunities missed when younger.
Bills bills bills
It’s lonely.
You get less time for yourself.
Back aches, as well as other aches.
When adulthood hits you, it’s pretty tough at first. The world would seem cold, demanding, and unforgiving.
Bills
Friends and loved ones dying off. In particular, I’ve lost some childhood friends that I thought would be by my side my whole life. It forces you to live with an uncomfortable contradiction of preserving memory and love for those you’ve lost, while still letting go enough to move on with life. This is not easy to pull off. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do.
I have no friends and constantly feel alone
Having to work
The shit is exceedingly lonely unless you seek out community.
It’s you vs the world.
The stress of my wife asking me what I want for dinner and I have no idea.
no more rubber bones
Paying to exist and working a day job to a point I don’t find the things I used to as enjoyable.
Money.
For me it’s gotta be….. Paying taxes :/
The need for a job and money. My bills constantly remind me of it.
Having to figure out what you want to eat every day.. also seeing friends becoming increasingly difficult.. watching your parents get even older.
Having to hear and read so many other adults problems.
Stupid people
Being an adult sucks in overall
working
Bills
Being one serious illness or accident away from losing everything.
I got no friends and I’m addicted to clonazepam but I’m doing good now tho I’m tapering real slowly and I’m stable and I’m really happy rn
The people who should lead usually don’t want to. So the people who absolutely shouldn’t lead , usually take up that beacon. Has made every job in every industry I’ve worked awful for me.
I hurt. Easily, and constantly. Just fucking HURT.
urge to have sex
Dealing with the consequences of dumber adults.
Can’t blame anyone but yourself.
Everything really
When you’re a kid, you look forward to being an adult. When you’re an adult what do you look forward to?
being an adult.
Back pain.
Back pain.
Snow is an inconvenience rather than a joy
Learning the world is selfish and ignorant.
Spending money on things that simply allow you to continue with no additional benefit.
Bills…. F Bills man…..
And needing money… And never having enough of it…
This one is a bit more male specific but no one cares about you. If you are single and childless and don’t keep in touch with your parents for whatever reason there’s no one. No one checks up on you or asks how you’re doing. Sure you might have some friends but they never stick around because they got their own lives. Alone, unwanted, invisible unless you’re somewhere you shouldn’t be. It really sucks tbh
Adulthood is the worst kind of hood. So ghetto here.
Almost everything lol
Watching your family members get older and dying
The complete impossibility of retirement
Bills.
Basically loss of free time because you have to be responsible, pay for a place to live, necessities, try to save so you can retire before your body gives out, etc.
Nothing! Get your shit together hahah life is what you make it!
No One gives a fuck about your emotions/ mental health, everyone expects you to just clean your shit up and move on, and if you don’t, too bad. Your fallbacks and mishaps are treated like a personal failure on your part by others around you, because you’re supposed to be an adult and do adult things and grow up, and when you don’t do it on other people’s timelines they don’t understand.
income tax and constant bill paying
also-getting to a point where you are looking for a job and no one wants to hire you because you are too expensive. Age discrimination is rampant-especially in education.
Realising that, mentally, theres no real delineation between being a child and being an adult. It’s all just experiences changing the way you look at the world.
You used to look at adults as almost infallible protectors as a kid. Wise. Powerful. But when you get there you see that many of them, at least in some ways, didn’t really change mindsets from when they were children themselves.
I know 70 years olds who act like old wise men and tantrum throwing eight year olds in equal measure. I’m sure I’ve been judged the same myself.
Limited opportunities to socialize. You go to work and head home. There isn’t much to life. In school and university you are around people your age and you make friends easily. It’s all gone once you are working. And especially in the west you don’t live with family so there is often no one to come home to.
Being alive
there’s never a true break from it. not really anyway. unless you happen to be extremely wealthy.
Losing your parents
If you don’t do it, no one will. Being an adult is to get up and take care of it even when you don’t want to, and when you don’t, it’ll just wait for you. Continuing to not be taken care of. It’s looms over you, the long you wait to do it the more it invades causal thought of literally every thing with grim portraits of everything you’re not taking care of.
Honestly? Just about everything.
Living costs money.
I have to work my ass off to feed my kids and also to pay the goobermen so they can do shit that I would never in a million years even consider doing with my money.
Everything
No one is coming to save you. It’s up to you and only you at the end of the day to save yourself, better yourself, or to force change. It’s hard sometimes
When you fall asleep on the couch you have to get yourself to bed.
When something goes wrong I have to fix it. I miss the days when I was in over my head, all i had to do was ask my parents for some help.
Dealing with bullshit.
The realization that no one actually has their shit together and is just winging it everyday.
Finding out that some adults are completely stupid and idiotic. When you’ve become an adult you can see that much more clearly
Your mistakes are usually far more permanent then when you are a kid. You can ruin your job, your car, your relationship your credit and so on. I destroyed my future for a long time by not seeking help when having a bipolar episode and it spiralled .
Everything.
It’s expensive
Knowing your best time in your life has passed
You’re asking the wrong question.
Realizing that age means nothing, and the vast majority of people you deal with on a day to day basis have the maturity of a trained dog
Making really big life decisions and realizing how little we have control over.
Almost everything…
Sure, you can eat cookie dough ice cream for breakfast, but you know you shouldn’t, and feel bad if you do.
Everyone always seems too busy, for anything. But doin nothing.
Realizing nobody knows what they are actually doing and thoughts of regret and never ending failures
Everything
Damn near everything
Paying bills…
I want to left alone for the most part but, I also want people that I can reach out to when the loneliness begins to cripple me. Although I understand that they’re probably experiencing the same as me, I expect other to cheer me up and get more depressed when they cant.
Everything
Every single thing
Bills
Gestures broadly
Most of it.
Death and taxes.
All the insurances. Life, home, not, car, health
Time is taken over by responsibilities. As a kid, bills are paid, dinner just shows up, the house is clean. As an adult, you have to work to pay those bills, you have to cook dinner, clean the house, etc. Meanwhile, the kid just goes on playing, having fun.
Unless you’re extremely wealthy, time is such a fleeting resource as an adult.
Taxes. And getting funny looks for watching Saturday morning cartoons.
No recess
Having to stay because I don’t want to affect the people in my life. My mental health has been horrible but I stay to not destroy my family, but yet I feel like I can’t go back to mental health care because I’ll be the “weak broken one” all over again.
Almost everything nowadays because its all designed to suck the most money & time out of you.
When I was a kid in the 90s and teen in the 00s it felt like life was a lot more cheap & price weren’t crazy, not many cellphones. My rent was like $600 a month in 09.
Endless bills
Having to be around other adults.
there is literally always something I either need to do or should do and it’s exhausting
You’re excited about buying a new sponge. That’s the highlight of your week.
Yes it is closer to death and parents get older
Seeing how stupid we all are before beoming an adult
Less hope that “one day everything will be better.”
As a child people told me not to lie, I now realize how much people really hate the truth.
Realizing that most friends aren’t actually friends.
Bills 😑 . When you feel like you catch up. Something else happens
The realization that no one really cares.
I can admit that I may be cynical in it yet most people in my experiences are faking it with no intent of ever making it.
You have to figure out what for dinner, every day, forever
Responsabileries
Thinking of what to eat
Having experienced horrible things in life, knowing that your children will experience horrible things as well, and not being able to do anything about it
Working all the time and missing out on things because you’re working all the time. Then when things are planned you have to work more so you’ll have money for the things planned and then when you’re done with doing the things planned you have to work more to make up for the money spent on the planned things. Vicious cycle.
Being aware of how terrible the world is.
i can’t go back and redo my childhood
Everything
Bills
Seemingly never enough time
Gotta act responsibly all the time
Life!!!!
Not a lot of backup to save you if you run into problems.
Nobody gives a shit about you and if you can’t pay you die
Always on the brink of doing too much work and never having enough money
Judged
Declining health
How much time you got buddy?
The adult part
Knowing the generations above you decided to fuck the planet and gobble up at the property and wealth for themselves. Looking at you boomers.
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The perpetual sense of failure and wasted potential.
Everything
Getting mail, 98% of the time.