So I recently met a guy on bumble and posted about it like a week ago.
Since then I’m so confused/over it?
Basic context: we both don’t want anything serious, we had a good vibe, fucked the first meet, after that he desperately wanted to know if I was seeing other people which at the time I wasn’t, only to then clumsily text me when he meant to text his other girl so I know he has a roster, then he says he wants to be exclusive.
I said we should talk in person which we did eventually and I said I didn’t want to be exclusive. all good conversation went well.
So why is this man so needy? Texts me everyday, constantly wants to “confirm our connection”, is seeming insecure. He said it’s been hard to reconnect with me physically since we first met, I said yeah dude I got really fucking sick. He was so desperate to see me when I was sick I said sure but don’t blame me if I get you sick, so he came over, I obviously had no voice and was coughing and we still ended up having sex.
The next planned meet was tonight but I got my period a few days ago and so I told him yesterday I don’t want to have sex. He got weird about how we weren’t on the same wavelength and said of course it’s okay we don’t have sex but me not being horny for him is maybe not a good sign? Idk I just said I was trying to give him a heads up in case he didn’t want to come but that I am still happy for him to come over. He seemed really happy about this and said he definitely still wanted to see me.
Cut to today and he’s sick apparently. I’m assuming he’s found someone he can fuck tonight.
I just don’t get it. I’m literally so chill. I don’t care if he has a roster. I don’t care if he mostly wants sex and doesn’t want to cuddle me when I’m on my period. If he wants to, great, if he doesn’t I’m all good on my own. I don’t want a boyfriend.
So why does he constantly want reassurance of how much I like him? He has a fucking roster. He needs so much attention and communication.
I don’t understand why he wants to act like bf/gf when I said I don’t want exclusivity and then lie so he can go fuck someone but act like that’s not what’s going on. I literally don’t even care so why the lying and weirdness around this?!?