My girlfriend and I was making out earlier, joking around as we do, and I mention our upcoming trip. We are going a few hours away and staying in a hotel by the beach nothing special. But I asked if there was anything she wanted to do because I’d like to know so I can prepare.
She giggled a little and said maybe she had something planned. So I of course asked what it could be. So she responded with another smile and told me that she was thinking of maybe going all the way.
We have barely gone past playfully slapping eachothers asses and chests so I of course was a bit surprised and asked if she was sure. She said yes and that she wasn’t sure if she’s 100 percent there but she thinks she will be by then.
I’ve never even seen her with her shirt off before. I’m nervous and my chest is going into a blend of hyperdrive and brrrrrr. I don’t even know how to explain how I feel. I also have been accused of SA before, multiple times (some girls thought that cause I’m a nerdy person it would be funny) and now I’m petrified of making people uncomfortable because it might happen again. I trust her a lot but I’m nervous that I’ll make her uncomfortable and ruin her first time. It’s not my first but I’m scared I won’t be good. Scared that she will lie about it being good and settle for no joy.
Idk what to do. Idk what I want help with. I just want some advice if possible??? Idk if it’s a big ask but yeh
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As a woman, I would say just make sure everything is consensual. “Is it ok if I touch your…?” “Do you want me to …?” It is very sexy to have a man who asks first! And if she says “maybe” then let her know that’s a hard stop. You will not do anything with her unless she has ENTHUSIASTIC consent. If she says she wants to get drunk and just let you have your way with her, that’s a hard no. Explain that she will be in charge, only go as far as she is comfortable, and if at any time she wants to stop, you will stop. Willpower and if it comes down to it, please make sure you have and know how to use condoms. No mistakes. No babies. Please.