My MIL has shown her crazy to us but in more passive ways, and recently her best friend (who is like my husbands second, healthier minded mother) shared some insight on what has been said and done, and just how deep the disrespect and craziness goes.
We were considering not allowing her to meet our baby when he arrives in a few months, and after hearing all of this we’re both on the same page about that not being an option.
We plan to communicate this to her in the coming days so that we can hopefully mitigate some of the drama right at the time we’re trying to enjoy being parents for the first time. It’s hard though, when sharing what we were told and the examples of why this won’t be happening, would implicate her friend. Not that it matters because at the end of the day, it’s our call… I just don’t want to get the “WHY” a million times and not be able to state why. I guess part of me also wants her to know that we know just how fucked up she is.
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Eh, you don’t need to throw your source under the bus to pull this off.
You can keep it at a high level, “because of your toxic attitude, and refusal to respect clearly stated boundaries, we will be doing XYZ.
Don’t let her drag you into the drama weeds. This is the boundary, it’s not up for discussion, thank you for playing, buh bye.
You do not have to explain yourself. Just state that you are not allowing access due to her behavior. When she starts whining about “why”?! just tell her that her behavior is unacceptable and this conversation is over