What are topics or experiences do men find it easier to discuss with women compared to other men?
What topics are harder to talk to other men about?
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What are topics or experiences do men find it easier to discuss with women compared to other men?
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How big my dick is.
Trying to undo red/black pill in my personal experience. It’s like seeing someone descend into a black hole
politics
Emotions and vulnerability. Most lack the emotional intelligence and comfortability with their own feelings to discuss them.
Feelings and mental health. You’ve got to be pretty damn confident in yourself to have those conversations, whether it you who starts them or another dude comes to you with one.
Anything emotional. It seems like a lot of men physically can’t process it
Pride
Relationship struggles
Hard to talk about with men? Serious sexual topics.
Easier to talk with women? Emotions, vulnerability, etc
Emotions, I have found that trying (and failing) to describe what I’m feeling to another man can result in awkwardness and surface level platitudes like “it’s going to get better” or some shit. When trying to describe emotions to women they have been able to hear me and repeat back to me what I am feeling with better wording, more concise, and sometimes even informing me of what emotion I am describing.
Obviously this is very anecdotal, and I have had the inverse happen as well but as a generalization I find women can translate emotions into words better.
How we treat women and why? Everyone handles women differently based off of what they’ve learned(or lack thereof), what was told to you by friends and family, and what the tv says you should do.
Wives and girlfriends. It’s not a good look to complain about what you have. If you have issues, you should work it out with your partner.
Fear
Things about your relationship
Peeing on your balls
I can’t explain to men that a woman being hot isn’t enough for me. Yes her ass is fat or whatever but if I don’t feel like she’s a sweet down to earth person I don’t really want her.
Broken hearts. I got, dude it’s been 3 weeks and you still aren’t over her? You only dated 2 years and she gave you back the engagement ring, what’s your problem?
Mental health. It’s getting better but still
I have a bit of experience where this is concerned. For context, i work and volunteer within various male targeted programmes. So I’ll be generalising based upon they guys I’ve met and worked with, as there are common themes.
What men struggle to say to other men – usually if it’s an intimate problem or sexual related problem. As many of them fear looking “less of a man” in front of male peers. Also, talking about topics or interests they may see as more feminine.
What men usually struggle talking about to women. Politics, social trends, and personal experiences. The justification is because these are usually topics that end up in arguments or feel attacked talking about them to women, ergo they avoid talking about them.
Notice I haven’t really mentioned feelings and emotions. To get men to open up is incredibly difficult to a man or a woman. Whether it’s they think that’s not how a man acts or afraid of it being used against him or being g disregarded. For this, I think it’s more a societal attitude change towards men that needs to happen for this to change.
On the opening up front, even though the schemes im a part of. Have a variety of techniques to get men talking or coping healthier. Do still offer your traditional counselling/therapy services. We have both men and women therapists, so they can choose who they feel more comfortable talking to. Overwhelming men will talk to the male therapists over the women. We have 2 female therapists, and they are lucky to get maybe 3 regulars a month. All the therapists are incredibly talented and good at what they do. Also, are very passionate about working specifically within mens mental health.
But the male therapists are just incredibly more popular. I have my opinions why but the facts remain.
Honestly gender doesn’t play a role. I have friends who I can talk to about emotions and depression just fine and I have other friends who can’t handle it at all. It’s usually the ones who have dealt with depression and mental health issues that I can talk to just fine as they understand what I am saying.
Chinese algebra.
How’s the sex life at your age.
I find it easier expressing my feelings (emotions*) with women, although it’s usually with women that I’m either not particularly interested in or are like twice my age or something.
But expressing my emotions in front of men? That’s gay! /s
Marriages and finances
Being a (multiple) cat dad.
No problem talking to women about it though.
For me (43M) it’s been relationships, sex and marriage…or rather, trying to explain to them why I have never been in the first, never had the second and dont want the third.
I’ve been a virgin all my life, always believed in “no sex before or outside of marriage” and never agreed with or accepted the stigma of male virginity.
A lot of men I have encountered in real life and on reddit have been confused but accepting at best and outright belligerent and dehumanizing at worst.
While I have had a few women give me flack about it, most have just been curious about “why?” without going on a tangent which often involves insulting, vulgar name calling and saying I have no right to live.
Mind you, I have spoken to few women (including one therapist) about my….issues, with relationships, and why I have never approached or tried to meet women.
P.S. I’m not gay, asexual or whatever, I just have very strong beliefs and stick to them.
Sex honestly. Contrary to popular belief men dont talk in detail about sex with their friends apart of “oh I hooked up with that girl” “ oh nice, congrats!”
Talking about the sadness you feel over how the world reacts to you. Any expression of how you feel weird or awkward sometimes can just reaffirm that you’re weird and awkward and they’ll use that to momentarily feel better about themselves.
Messi or Ronaldo….
IMO, the toughest topic to bring up to other men is circumcision. At least in the US, where 70-90% of guys are mutilated.
Emotions, most men I know would just call me a pussy for being emotional or something along those lines, most woman I know always try to comfort me when I get emotional
The non-sexual part of a relationship that I want. Yes, obviously I’d love sex to be great with a girlfriend, but I also need them to be smart and emotionally on the same wave length.
Grief