I had a girl in college who I had been dating for a month or two. For some reason, she decided to do one of those “pay me to test your bf” setups. It was so obvious and insulting. I broke up with her that night and ignored the incessant calls and texts for a couple days until she gave up
The end of my 17 year marriage. We had had our ups and downs over the years. But that last year. The worst. Short story.
It was November and I was watching my small business fail as hard as my marriage. My wife decided that she needed to go on a kind of sabbatical with her sister, to Mexico for a couple weeks, and then to visit her father for a couple more in New Mexico. This would’ve meant I was alone for all of December as well as working my business alone. But honestly, I was in favor of it, because she made it clear that She wanted the space to clear her head and do the work on how to get back to doing her part to make our relationship strong again.
It was a rough December. But I made the best of it and I’m proud of how I handled it. I didn’t bother her. I trusted her intentions and wanted the results she was seeking. She came back home and I gave her a day to get settled back in. And then I sat her down and asked her to tell me what she had learned and what progress she had made toward her goals.
She said “I never said I was going to do any work on us. You just assumed that.“
Straight up gaslighting and the cold revelation that she just plain old-fashioned abandoned me for a month to go on vacation for all of the Christmas holiday while I managed the home and business. She made it seem like it was my stupid stupidity and my fault for even thinking she was going to do anything else. And at that moment, I knew that the two decades we had spent together had come to an end. I asked for a divorce within the week
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My ex-wife asked for a divorce and I could feel stress melting off of me. I wanted a divorce for years, but was too afraid to say anything.
The moment she became manipulative, was deceiving, didn’t take responsibility for her actions, and was sneaky.
“Oh hi, I’ve noticed you text her every morning. Just wanted you to know I’ve been sleeping with her every night this week”
I had a girl in college who I had been dating for a month or two. For some reason, she decided to do one of those “pay me to test your bf” setups. It was so obvious and insulting. I broke up with her that night and ignored the incessant calls and texts for a couple days until she gave up
When I found myself walking on eggshells all the time and having to explain my reasons behind existing.
The end of my 17 year marriage. We had had our ups and downs over the years. But that last year. The worst. Short story.
It was November and I was watching my small business fail as hard as my marriage. My wife decided that she needed to go on a kind of sabbatical with her sister, to Mexico for a couple weeks, and then to visit her father for a couple more in New Mexico. This would’ve meant I was alone for all of December as well as working my business alone. But honestly, I was in favor of it, because she made it clear that She wanted the space to clear her head and do the work on how to get back to doing her part to make our relationship strong again.
It was a rough December. But I made the best of it and I’m proud of how I handled it. I didn’t bother her. I trusted her intentions and wanted the results she was seeking. She came back home and I gave her a day to get settled back in. And then I sat her down and asked her to tell me what she had learned and what progress she had made toward her goals.
She said “I never said I was going to do any work on us. You just assumed that.“
Straight up gaslighting and the cold revelation that she just plain old-fashioned abandoned me for a month to go on vacation for all of the Christmas holiday while I managed the home and business. She made it seem like it was my stupid stupidity and my fault for even thinking she was going to do anything else. And at that moment, I knew that the two decades we had spent together had come to an end. I asked for a divorce within the week
When I was Ignored for a year