What words saved your marriage?
Things have been in bad shape since my son was born 10 months ago. Now we are relationship is in crisis.
What words or actions changed your marriage for the better?
What words saved your marriage?
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What words saved your marriage?
Things have been in bad shape since my son was born 10 months ago. Now we are relationship is in crisis.
What words or actions changed your marriage for the better?
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my marriage never needed saving so i wouldn’t know – one thing that makes it go so smooth?! – equal contribution. bring as much to the table as your partner and they should do the same, being it effort, care, show of love, care, empathy, etc. (i noticed i said care twice but i’ll leave it be).
You’re letting this crack become a canyon, stop now before the distance swallows you whole. Fight for connection like your family depends on it because it does.
“Divorce” was the magical word that didn’t save my marriage, but the relationship between my son, his mom and myself. My ex-wife and I divorced amicably, and everything has become a thousand times easier. Our son is thriving, because he is being raised by three loving adults (including my new partner), and everybody gets along and is happy. Highly recommend.
I would go to couples therapy
Many, many words. Communication is key. Good luck my friend 💚
Whatever words are needed for you both to communicate your needs. More than words, you need actions to play out what you communicate.
This is the hardest time you will go through.
You both very likely need snacks and naps.
If you’re both willing its fixable. If the ty re willing and you are that’s great.
Just start today and decide to be extra kind for a whole week. As best you can treat them like someone you love. Go the extra mile. Lots if time they’ll reciprocate.
I second the counseling to get on a schedule of fixing little things.
My grandpa told me the words that saved their marriage were, “Remember when things get really tough, it’s you and her against the problem, not you against her.”
Well first and foremost you’d have to explain more. What’s the problem? What caused/causes them? Surely she vocalized her views and concerns before. Did you listen? Did you vocalize yours?
Actions save marriages. Do the thing you say you’re going to do. Otherwise it’s only talk and that won’t save your marriage
“I’m half of this relationship too”
We’re on the same team, I promise