I was watching a show like kitchen nightmares but for hair salons, the episode I was watching happened to be a barbershop and my fiancee was in the room when they were discussing special touches during a cut/shampoo and a comment was made that “men like to be pampered too but don’t ask/seek it out like women do” on the show. My fiancee made a really simple ‘that’s true’ comment and that was it.
Got me thinking though that it may be nice to surprise him with a spa-like/pamper session (at home by me, not referring to going to a spa.)
Of course I know massages and things along those lines and would include that but curious to know if there are other things that would potentially be liked but not typically stated. And also if there are things that for sure most guys wouldn’t that may be too cheesy/”girly” for a lack of better words (like is it too much to get calm music/candles/facial/massage oils, that sort of thing)
Thanks in advanced!
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Peace and quiet
Blowjobs.
A really good massage is the shit. Like, deep tissue, massage oils, professional masseusse, calm music, for an hour.
Dry sauna, steam room, cold plunge, pool, lounging, maybe some exfoliation, and a relaxing day lounging around all of the above.
Not girly as long as it’s a place that’s very clearly for both men and women. Bonus points if they do couples massages where you’re in the same room together.
It can be a simple thing really, maybe something as simple as “I ordered us pizza” and you cuddle with him and watch whatever thing he wants to watch.
Blowjob, dinner and a movie, in that order.
Good massage.
Good food.
Good drink or herb.
If sexual activity is on the table, doing all the work.
Good cuddling with someone they love.
Peace and quiet. Maybe a little talk.
Obviously I’m a very small sample size here but my 2 cents would be this. (42m btw)
Few years ago now we stayed in for a quiet New Year’s Eve. SO ran me a bath, gave me full body scrub and a face mask, then a neck/shoulder rub.. one of the best nights I’ve had, lol.
Personally I find scented candles etc to be too overpowering, so that side of it depends on your chap’s tastes.
I wouldn’t really be into spa treatments or anything like that. A fancy dinner and some intimacy and snuggles would be perfect though.
Getting ridden is quite a pamper experience 😂
Blowjob, sammich, cartoons, solitude
I’m addicted to my own misery and discomfort, so I can’t imagine a pamper session meaning much of anything to me
Beef jerky
That would be nice for both of you. But out of curiosity, why is it ok for you to go out and get a massage but he can only get one from you? Again, it would be a nice experience as a couple, just sounds like a double standard
hard workout
a sports massage
sauna/steam room/plunge pool
Beer and some beef jerky and alone time, cant beat it
Scrap the idea, take that effort and intent that you want to put in, multiply it by 10 and spread it out over the course of the entire year, seriously, any tiny bit of extra slack and understanding you can give on the regular will make a MUCH bigger impact on his health, stress, and comfort than a few hours of you making yourself feel like you’ve done something awesome and praiseworthy to “pamper” him.
I’m not saying ya gotta treat him like a king at all but I can guarantee you are able to give a bit more breathing room, understanding, and affection than you already are and it will have a greater impact on both of your daily lives than a one off.
Free drinks at a bar and somebody else picks up the bill
Nothing fancy, just a good ole fashioned pole polishing.
Sounds like your fiance is into the idea, so great!
I would consider just asking him what he wants, it wouldn’t be a surprise that way, but then you can also surprise him in the future
Or you can talk about it without the context of something you want to gift him, just say you were thinking about his comment and wanted to know more!
Personally I don’t think I would really be into a “pamper session”
Assuming my wife is doing the pampering, this would be my ideal scenario in this order:
Light, feather physical touch across my entire body. She takes her time touching my hair, face, neck, back, chest, arms, hands, legs, and feet
Deep tissue massage on my back, hands, and feet.
If she is willing, light feather touch on my penis, followed up with heavier stroking and then a BJ, keeping me on edge until I explode.
Of course I would want to do the same for her once she is finished, with step 3 involving her genitals instead of mine. I like giving her touch as much as receiving it.
i had a Female barber who did a hot towel shave… massaged the face while doing it. i was in there for a shave all the damn time. i dont need that many shaves. she put some kind of cedar oil in the towel too… then she moved states a away.
got hot towel shaves elsewhere… while nice. just not at all the same.
A deep tissue massage followed by a great back scratching and then a head scratching.
Buy his fav fast food, Chinese, or pizza whatever he likes
Buy his favorite drink, alcoholic or otherwise, I know I have one that’s a bit expensive.
Then do the massage and cuddle part.
I like candles so know your partner there.
We also have some tool that rubs off the callouses on feet and my wife will do that occasionally to me . I enjoy that.
But I love being touched by her. I can lay in bed and she can rub my scalp or mess with m y ears and I’ll be happy as can be.
look up some barber shop asmr videos. they’re the only ones that actually give me the asmr tingling feeling
Every guy is different-lots of great suggestions in responses to your post. Massages are wonderful but not everyone is comfortable with them. Personally I was uncomfortable with some strange woman being paid…my wife can barely touch me and it’s the best feeling in the world. Anyway, we’re all different. Just something to consider
Bourbon, a comfy chair. some like a good cigar, some good mj, some music, some just silence.
A massage to the neck and shoulders is nice. You don’t need to speak, just silently be present.
Candles are a fire hazard. Especially to long hair kitties.
Men shouldn’t use the word “pamper”
Google search for “massage happy ending”.
Snacks, comfort, and entertainment.
A massage while watching a movie would be peak.
should probably find out from your guy.
I like baths, massages, cold beverage in a cold glass, snacks. Wouldn’t say no to a face mask or something. Dim lighting / candles. Some of my friends would probably prefer a steam session and a nap or something.
Having the stylist offer to trim my eyebrows without me having to ask.
Simultaneous neck massage and blowjob while watching Redzone
There are times where I don’t necessarily want to be pampered, but I do want my wife to spend some time on me. Not in a sexual way..
I like it when she trims my hair, I like it when she cuts my nails, I like it when she gives me a back massage, I like it when she shows me she’s thinking about me or wants me to look my best. They’re about 1 million things you could do.
Nice back massage would be nice. At home from my fiance. I don’t want random people touching me. I give her full head to toe massages, she loves them. I use oil and everything. My brothers wife took her for a spa with massage last year and she came back annoyed and disappointed because she paid to get a massage that wasn’t half as good as mine. Can’t remember the last time she gave me a back massage that lasted more than a minute and I literally take over an hour to do her whole body, front back, face, legs, feet, everything.
For me, it would be a golf and spa combo day. Workout in the morning, yoga, stretch, sauna, etc – catered healthy breakfast, smoothie, coffee. Hit the course. Lunch and hydration on the course. Ice cold mango towels at the turn and 19 with infused THC products after the round. Shower, then masseuse for two hours. Then small spa treatment. Dinner by a body of water. Repeat until death, please.