What would you tell your 14 year-old self about your adult life right now to convince her that you’re as interesting as she hoped?
What would you tell your 14 year-old self about your adult life right now to convince her that you’re as interesting as she hoped?
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Honestly, nothing. I’m not trying to impress a mentally ill child. She hated everything, there’s nothing I could say to her that she wouldn’t also hate. Also, she hoped we’d be dead by now, she didn’t have hopes of becoming interesting.
Err nothing
I am 29 so why the hell would I care about my 14 yo self
How do you define as interesting? I don’t need to be interesting. Just need to push through day by day
I’d honestly warn her instead. Stop living to please your abusive parents. Either way, they’ll disown you over the smallest thing. Choose the career you actually want. Although I love my husband and house, I wake up every day hoping I get hit by a car on my way to work.
Oh god lmao
‘You know how you never thought about work because youre 14? Aint shit changed. But you have some coolass music equipment and a gf who loves you, and six cats because you like cats now.’
I am not at all what I would have called “interesting” back then. The only think that would impress my 14 yo self might be “I speak 3 foreign languages now”.
Otherwise, I am not the cool lady that still parties, goes to concerts, I didn’t become a tattoo artist, I don’t live a life free of the trappings of society, I am not a artist.
But my 14 yo self might be impressed that I did travel a lot and not as a tourist either. Lived in a bunch of countries.
She would be super disappointed to learn I am married and have kids lol. That I own a home that I clean and that I cook and worry about things like clean bedsheets and be excited about a new vacuum cleaner.
I have always been a deeply spiritual person. So, I’d honestly tell her to not doubt herself or her abilities. Be it in any sphere.
Because we end up doing it all and achieving it all, albeit much later in life but God does bring it all together for her in a way she never even hoped it would be.
I’m way more interesting than she hoped😂, she was never the cool kid in class, popular for grades but not cool, now I’m both (23 btw), she’d just be happy to know I drive, i run 5k, I write beautifully, and I go on trips with my friends, and much more!
My 14 year-old self didn’t think life past 30 would be interesting at all, much less at my current age of 46. My parents weren’t even 40 yet when I was 14! I am basically ANCIENT, so I have nothing “interesting” to tell her that she would consider as such.
My 14 year old self would be heartbroken to know that I’m single at 31. However, she might feel better about it knowing I live in a completely different country (albeit one of the lesser-known ones of Europe), with a cool job, my own apartment, and a reputation for being “the hosting friend.”
And then she would also be absolutely shocked/sickened, but also secretly excited, to find out that I’m pretty heavily woo-woo now, given that I came from a very religious family and was fully into it as a teen (as only teens can be).
So I’d say my 14 year old self and I would be pretty happy to talk and it wouldn’t take much convincing that her life going forward wouldn’t be boring. I might not mention the crippling depression though.
Last year, we pitched a mad idea for a tv show to a network. It got picked up, and we ended up presenting it.
Since then, we’ve moved to a different continent, and are about to head off to live on another.
We still don’t like coffee. Stop trying, never gonna happen.
I would tell my 14 year old self primarily that she doesn’t need the validation of that woman, who biologically is her mother, to be a decent person.
But to answer your question more specifically, I’d tell her that by the age of 19, she will be able to call the prettiest and most wonderful human in this universe her girlfriend.
Is there a better way to understand you are interesting, at least for the person who matters?
I don’t think I hoped to be interesting at 14. I hoped to be happy. So I’d tell her I am.
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“Thank you for staying true to yourself, it pays off”
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That “You’re not someone’s constant” but you know what? ” You got a boyfriend who’ll do things with you”
I would just straight tell my 14 year old self to be outgoing a bit more, socialize. If a parallel world exists, I would want my other self to have at least three friends in high school and in college.
You’re the class clown now. Congrats. You survived being the quiet kid. Also your coworkers adore your quirky ass. Mostly.
I’ll tell her that she finally has friends, enjoys life without anxiety, overthinking or insecurity. She is finally fulfilled and content with her life now and she is calm and expressive. Life is worth living.
You actually DO get to make art for a living! And you’re covered in rad tattoos. Don’t start drinking though.
Hm. I would congratulate her for where she has gotten and who she has become. Also, don’t eat too much Nutella and do more yoga.
That all the nerdy interests you are feeling pressured to abandon are going to explode into pop culture legitimacy, and all the weird crafting skills your mom is teaching you will come in handy when you move to New Orleans and join some parade krewes and have more fun than you can imagine. And you will make so many people happy by giving them something you made with your own hands, from your own imagination and recycled bric-a-brac.
I would tell her to figure out what her authentic interests are and stop emotionally investing and trying to keep her toxic, abusive family together. I would tell her she managed to meet a wonderful man who takes care of her and listens to her yap all the time, who never makes her feel like she’s not enough, who LOVES her empathy and kindness (things her birthgivers resented her for) that she will finally find friends who take her side and don’t compete with her. Her life looks peaceful now, she would find that interesting. She would also find it surprising we lived past 18.
I don’t know about interesting. But I’d tell her she would be confident and happy, and that would be like unimaginable to her at the time.
“You’re gonna get hot, have money, and still be in to cool music… just keep going”
I’d tell her that we didn’t kill ourselves and that we have a legitimate career and have save up enough money to buy a home in the next few years. Also that we’ve live out our biggest kinks lol
I get to do whatever I want without anyone yelling at me now.
I’d tell her that you have your independence, a banging handbag collection, a sense of style that would make those bullies green with envy, a razor sharp wit, memories of seeing Japan twice and that she’s going to learn to love herself and put herself first
Babe theres gonna be a lot of stuff that sucks but where you end up is a beautiful place. And it’s only going to get better.
Hi 14 year old me.
All I have to say is that I have an extreme lack of bitcoin.
Also, dont eat the kebab from that one food truck.
That is all.
“That wonderful, kind, empathetic, caring woman you imagine? One day you grow up and realize that you get to be her.