What would your reaction be if you inadvertently found out your SO had a an additional Facebook profile that you didnt know about?
What would your reaction be if you inadvertently found out your SO had a an additional Facebook profile that you didnt know about?
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depends…
are they still active on the account or not?
what are they posting/looking at?
how did you find out?
either way this needs to be a healthy conversation with no attacks, it could be good and fine or not. line your ducks up first then communicate.
We’d be having a conversation.
He’s never had a Facebook account, and I’d be absolutely shocked if he’d been hiding in the entire time.
Really all depends if they’re active or not
It might be alarming at first but I think I would just try to find out what he’s using it for. I personally have a second instagram account where I follow people I don’t know—medical/fitness professionals, recipe bloggers etc. because otherwise all of my friends’ post get mixed in with these and pushed to the bottom bc my friends are not necessarily trying to follow an algorithm to get views, they are just posting family pics. it’s easier to keep them separate. So it’s possible a spouse doesn’t have bad intentions. I would try to find out without being confrontational. If they act sheepish or guilty or won’t show you anything, that would be cause for some red flags and some deeper digging!
I would first gather my data, then have a very serious conversation
Crash the fuck out
If it’s a very old account that they haven’t been active on in years I wouldn’t care.
If it’s a recent account that they’re active on, I’d be pissed. Regardless of what theyre saying or looking at on there, I’d feel lied to for the ommission of this information.
None of my business.
I’d feel a mix of confusion and immediate mistrust. If there’s no innocent explanation, it raises the question: Why would someone need to compartmentalize their identity online? Transparency is foundational in a relationship. I’d definitely bring it up — calmly but directly.
idk I have multiple instas and I have tumblr and reddit accounts that I’m assuming he doesn’t know about. it’s not that I’m hiding them but he’s never asked and I’ve never had anything special on them to show him. I wouldn’t be surprised if he has Twitter or Facebook or something that I’m not following since I’m not active on those apps. unless he was going out of his way to hide them, I wouldn’t care
My husband doesn’t have Facebook, so if suddenly it was me clear to me that he had an account I would absolutely ask him why he was using it. It would be surprising since he has not had a Facebook account since 2014.
I’d think it’s probably an old account, and if not, I’d ask about it.
I guess it depends. I’ve had a few because I used them for games or something. I can’t remember now. I have an account that got hacked so it looks like I have two full accounts. But I only have access to one because Facebook sucks ass.
Some people have alternate profiles to post in groups about confidential things like medical issues. There’s not necessarily a problem to have an additional profile.
Just ask if it worries you.
One could be a “finsta” type account where they post/share nonsense and don’t want mom or grandma to see it.
Heavily depends.
Is it an old account? Are they still using it actively? If it’s an old account, I do not care. People abandon Facebook accounts and create new ones all the time.
If it’s an active account, we’d be having a conversation at the very least. Next steps would depend how that convo went.
One for party, one for business?
It depends on what the profile is. Like I have an alt, only because I used to get 30 day suspensions all the time existing in shitpost groups.
I don’t use it, it’s there in case I get permabanned.
But given I just discovered my cheating ex had a Bumble profile I didn’t know about, my trust in humans is at an all time low. I’d expect to comb it and check messages.
Depends a lot on what it’s used for. I keep separate online presences for personal vs. professional life, and I have a variety of accounts from different times that have just been long abandoned.
Generally, I’d assume there’s about 10 different normal/non-toxic reasons for having a side account before assuming it’s something suspicious.
I’d ask about it.
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I guess it depends on if they use it. I know people with a couple Instagram accounts because they forget their password. However, if they had one and were using it… Even then I guess I wouldn’t jump to conclusions. Trust guys!! It’s so important in a relationship.
I think I’d want to know why, certainly, but it isn’t immediately suspicious. For example in some jobs your employer wants new hires to provide their socials and monitors them. I wouldn’t want my boss to see every crazy thing someone I knew thirty years ago posts and I interact with. So I could see keeping a separate account that is only for work. Where you interact with clients and coworkers but not your actual friends and never post anything personal.