What you like in porn is not necessarily what you like in reality right?

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For example a guy that likes watching femdom porn. Doesn’t necessarily mean that he will actually want a woman to dominate him and humiliate and degrade him in real life right?

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  1. Zennyzenny81 Avatar

    Generally, yes the person would like that, or at least want to try it, otherwise they wouldn’t be vicariously getting sexual pleasure from seeing others engage in it.

    That doesn’t mean it’s the ONLY thing they like, but you’d have to assume they nevertheless do like it or are at least curious about trying it. 

  2. DMmeNiceTitties Avatar

    Sure. Otherwise, there’d be a lot of incest going on out there.

  3. tolgren Avatar

    Sure, but it’s also indicative of something they MIGHT be into in meatspace.

  4. Decent-You1288 Avatar

    I agree cuzz I watch bbc gb and I’ll be damned … so I agree

  5. Turnip_Time_2039 Avatar

    Yes. Fantasy and reality are two different things.

  6. Kitfaid Avatar

    I guess it could be, but I believe if you keep watching that kind of porn, eventually you’ll end up rewiring your brain to start fantasysing about that kind of sex, and then looking for it. I don’t know, I’m no psycologist so I could be completly wrong, feel free to disagree.

  7. Amazing-Shake1958 Avatar

    A kink is a kink, whether you practice it in real life or not you are still getting off on what to choose to watch.

  8. Monkai_final_boss Avatar

    Everyone has their personal opinion in this one, pretty much all the stuff I watch I want to try at least once

  9. BigDong1001 Avatar

    Why not? lol.

    Why separate the two? lmao.

    Some men don’t separate the two. Some men do. It depends on the man.

  10. Remote-Whole-6387 Avatar

    I remember the story about the dude who thought he had a scat fetish and then the shit touched his tongue and he was like “yeah, nope not for me”

  11. GenXellent Avatar

    Right. If you want that you have to get married.

  12. Admirable-Dish6697 Avatar

    I think the popularity of the mom/sister porn genre is proof of that. Do some people actually fantasize about family members? Most definitely. But I imagine the majority of people choosing those genres are interested in something more subtle/nuanced.

  13. Some-Pain Avatar

    No, it’s what you would like if you could get it.

  14. OnlyAssignment4869 Avatar

    Sometimes. Other times I wish monster girls and goblins were real sigh.

  15. Alternative_Rent9307 Avatar

    Cuckolder here but my wife isn’t into it. So far. I keep showing her pics of those gigantic fucking things she’ll come around. Get it?

  16. bold-fortune Avatar

    My belief is that most people watch a kind of porn so that they DON’T act it out in real life. Most people meaning single, early 20s, with nothing to lose.

  17. MonoBlancoATX Avatar

    Asking for a friend?

    Jk

    You are correct.
    Just cuz something turns you on doesn’t mean you want to engage in it.

    But if you do, that’s ok too.

  18. SureSentence9001 Avatar

    I watch what turns me on at the time. Today might be lesbians pissing or Daddy/stepdaughter and tomorrow might be a twink getting their back blown out.

  19. gigashadowwolf Avatar

    Yes and no.

    It means they are aroused by the idea of it, but they may not be aroused by the reality. For example, many women, especially rape survivors, end up with rape fantasies. This in no way means they want to be raped, but generally there is something about the experience that was sexually arousing. Also very often people who have scat fetishes have zero interest in the reality because there is no smell in the porn or fantasy, but in reality, there is. They are still “really” aroused by the idea, but the reality isn’t attractive to them.

    With the fantasy you are describing, chances are pretty good that they would be into it in reality, but they might have a very difficult time actually giving up control. They might not be able to engage in the reality.

  20. VendaGoat Avatar

    It would have to be right? I mean, explain to me the appeal of VORE in real life.

  21. BensonOMalley Avatar

    Watching porn can affect what a person is into, especially when they get too dependent on it as a form of stress relief, and if a person needs to constantly up the ante on what they need to consume to reach climax then their tastes in porn can split from what they may actually be interested in irl, as what we do in private is largely independent of what we do with others.

    This is why many asexual people still watch porn and masturbate while having no interest in actually having sex or engaging in sexual activity with other people.

  22. LivingEnd44 Avatar

    Yes. I’m 100% gay. But get turned on watching guys go down on women in straight/bi porn. I am certain it is not going to be hot in real life though. I have no desire to do it myself.

    This is why I believe straight guys when they say they’re not interested in gay sex even if they like watching gay porn. It’s not the same in real life. 

  23. jimb21 Avatar

    Not necessarily, alot of men watch porn because they are missing things they don’t receive irl

  24. shaftranlov Avatar

    Well depends. I am all for trying out all the kinks mutually agreed upon, but at the same time mindful of result may vary.

  25. dontlikecakefrosting Avatar

    What I watch in porn is 100% what I like in real life. I don’t understand how you can watch porn and get super turned on by it and not want to do that in real life.

    I understand that in reality the logistics of things aren’t always safe and perfect for kinky fantasies however if you could be assured that what you fantasied about could happen in real life without anyone being hurt and everyone involved would be clean and no one would be hurt or jealous or anything like that, would you not take the opportunity to do it?

    The best analogy is if you’re trying to lose weight and you’re on a diet, you see a big piece of cake and some pizza, they look good but you know you can’t eat it, however if you could eat it without gaining any weight or it affecting your health, wouldn’t you take the opportunity and eat it?

  26. Attack_the_sock Avatar

    Incredibly correct

  27. darksider63 Avatar

    I like war in movies but not in real life

  28. EnvironmentalPack451 Avatar

    It’s like watching superhero movies.  It’s fantasy. It’s fun. I’m not going to try to make it happen in real life.

  29. valentinakissx Avatar

    not true, i love having sex whilst stuck in a dryer somewhere. 

  30. Corgsploot Avatar

    Jesus christ, I hope so… it’s fantasy land.

  31. phobug Avatar

    Generally correct. But keep an open mind, with the right partner anything can fly. Just take a chance and ask, you might be surprised.

  32. fermat9990 Avatar

    Sex IRL seems to have more sensuality and affection than porn sex. Less incest as well (jk)

  33. Aggravating_Kale8248 Avatar

    Porn is a terrible representation of reality. Amateur porn is probably as close to realistic as you can get. It’s still pretty far off.

  34. JamesLastJungleBeat Avatar

    Yep absolutely true, I mean I don’t even like nuns, midgets or labradors IRL…

  35. PrometheusAborted Avatar

    I’m pretty sure part of the appeal of porn is that you’re watching stuff that you don’t have access to in real life.

    For example, if you’re married to a beautiful, thin, fit woman – you might have a fetish for women that are voluptuous or have giant tits/ass. Doesn’t mean you love your wife any less but you’re also probably fantasizing about fucking Sara Jay or someone similar in dimensions.

  36. CrimsonDemon0 Avatar

    Yup. Like you know how many men say “I wish that was me” to news off boys getting assaulted by girls? That is in that lane. They(the sane ones) dont actually wanna get raped but just fantasize about it

  37. xdarion9 Avatar

    I do not even have a stepsister

  38. Jayu-Rider Avatar

    Dunno, I like hot Asian women in porn, my wife is a hot Asian woman, seems like I’m pretty much one for one.

  39. Asynchronous-Rondo Avatar

    Could be 2 things:

    1. You’re a vouyer and enjoy people doing certain things even tho you’re not into it cuz you’re just a pervy guy. It’s just your brain giving you that rush of excitement or curiosity

    2. You might be curious about it but that doesn’t mean you have to do it. Personally in my opinion you can try out certain things even tho you know you might not like it but one never knows till they try it

  40. BasimIbnIshaq3000 Avatar

    As a guy who loves femdom porn, yes I would like to be dominated by a girl physically but only in private and I would not like to be humiliated in public by her.

  41. ChickenXing Avatar

    I’ve never had sex with a pizza delivery person before. And they have never asked me for sex

  42. Proof-Letterhead9380 Avatar

    Well do you watch movies that you dislike? Not usually.
    Yes, the 2 generally coincide.

  43. Repulsive-Dealer7957 Avatar

    I don’t crank it to extreme shit so yea it’s what I like . Big butts , deep throat , and anal . I think if you watch the extreme stuff you’ll end up only being able to get off to that .

  44. SlavLesbeen Avatar

    I don’t fully understand this, if something turns you on then it turns you on… porn is not a different reality, it’s still real people (usually)

  45. Kitfaid Avatar

    Thanks everyone for their input, like I said, I’m no expert, so it was more of a wild guess hypothesys.

  46. autistic_midwit Avatar

    wrong

    If guy watches femdom its what he wants in real life.

    If someone watches porn with big butts its what they really want.

  47. Different-Bet-7100 Avatar

    Correct mostly because of the logistics can destroy the fantasy. I like anal porn until the girl im seeing shits all over the floor

  48. MisterTalyn Avatar

    Yes, absolutely. There are things in porn that I find exciting that I absolutely have no interest in trying in my bedroom in real life.

  49. DO5421 Avatar

    Porn lets me explore various taboos and kinks from a distance so yeah I think I can safely say I probably don’t actually want to do most of the stuff I jerk off to.

  50. ApprehensiveTrash876 Avatar

    I would sure hope so, otherwise the “step-sibling/parent” category in porn just became a whole lot more unsettling.

  51. Dramatic-Dog9396 Avatar

    I love cuckold porn yet I’ve never tried it in real life… not that I know off ….

  52. jairom Avatar

    100%

    There’s shit I’m into that only applies to porn and I’d be hella disgusted at if I were to try irl

    Idk why, just is

  53. rescue_inhaler_4life Avatar

    IRL you either need to pay for it or find people to do it with. That alone makes it radically different to porn.

  54. VG_Crimson Avatar

    Because there is a very well-defined border of “this is on a screen and entirely fictional” you can’t shake off, there is no way it can accurately reflect tastes.

    Especially with professionally made pornography, where acting is over the top.

  55. Pristine-Brief-1763 Avatar

    I think it’s pretty obvious.
    And if you need clarification, you are probably into it.

    For example, I can watch incest porn like a movie and not imagine myself in the same scenario or if the thought comes up, the thought disgusts me. Whereas there is no question in my mind that I am into t-girls and femboys, because when I imagine myself in a real life scenario, I am not turned off by it.

  56. Legal_Delay_7264 Avatar

    Correct, it’s performance art. We watch ultra violent movies,  but don’t want to be involved in that type of situation. 

  57. Sir_wlkn_contrdikson Avatar

    Depend on how big you like it in porn. Cuz big in real life is different than big on screen. And I’m speaking of a woman’s body.

  58. Trey-Thrall Avatar

    I dont like porn of the things I like in real life 🤷🏾‍♀️

  59. RedactedRonin Avatar

    I watch all types of porn. I dont mastrurbate and certainly can’t get off on more than half the porn ive come across. The one a person masturbates to is exactly what they like in reality.

  60. TheAlmostGreat Avatar

    If that weren’t true then a lot of step siblings need to watch out

  61. LovesickInTheHead Avatar

    It’s a fantasy. Nobody can blame what you like in fantasy. There are things I enjoy in theory that I would never in a million years want to happen irl

  62. AmeriSauce Avatar

    Most people have no problem separating fantasy entertainment with what they do with their real partners in real life. You only hear about weirdos who can’t cope because people who live normal lives are boring.

  63. TheMaskedHamster Avatar

    Things can be different when reality hits, but remember that sexual experience is formative.

    You are what you eat.  Eat healthy, or your health will suffer for it.

    The people who tell you “I did x, y, and z and I’m fine” are often not as fine as they think.

  64. SpAzo13 Avatar

    I’m unsure cause I haven’t found a suitable candidate to test my cannibalism kink. But for real, porn can just be a fantasy escape, but you can also like to do what you see. Just before open minded and remember consent is sexy

  65. Otherwise-Remove4681 Avatar

    okay watching gb, but fuck if would be actually able to ”share”

  66. FoolishDog1117 Avatar

    The two often do not align.

  67. Possumnal Avatar

    Plenty of people in monogamous relationships like watching orgies, doesn’t mean they actually want to be swingers. Sometimes a fantasy is just a fantasy.

    Me on the other hand, I definitely want gingers to pee in my mouth. I’ve seen all the videos and that’s just my jam. If any foxy gingers are reading this right now I will absolutely chug your piss. DMs open.

  68. ChryPhantom Avatar

    lol literally the post under this one was from /guro. no, i don’t want to do that irl. you sound like you should try getting femdommed though

  69. FireTheLaserBeam Avatar

    I’m a single guy, not interested in dating. I stay plenty busy and I rarely, if ever, get lonely. But I do get a little horny like everyone else. I’ll use porn to facilitate the deed, but as soon as it’s over, I’m done, my desire to look at it is over, and my brain has cleared itself to move onto the rest of the day. I do not think about porn at all any other time. When I was in a relationship, I just didn’t feel the need to look at porn, period.

  70. Zenfudo Avatar

    Nobody gets stuck the way they do. And when someone gets stuck its they’re usually claustrophobic and need help no a fucking.

    I dont watch those specifically but i always found those incredibly stupid

  71. MicrosoftSamsHands Avatar

    Porn addiction can desensitize one and take them to watching things they’d never agree with in person. The thought of even watching that after being porn free makes me sick to my stomach. It wasn’t even a fantasy or kink, it was just being so desensitized nothing “did it”.

    Heres an interview of Billie Eilish about porn that she explained this very well in. 
    https://youtu.be/xRAchxIzh7U?si=h9OuH2D6pUVr9ZYW

  72. Paladinlvl99 Avatar

    I’ll put it like this: I love war movies, I would pee myself if I’m drafted

  73. MyAnonReddit2024 Avatar

    Definitely not for me.

  74. RandeKnight Avatar

    I like sci-fantasy, and also sci-fantasy porn.

    So there’s no real way to determine if I’d actually like sex time-stopped, cloned, sex-swapped, android or alien/monster featured.

  75. SirOk7983 Avatar

    Is for me 😭

  76. matande31 Avatar

    Exactly. And the same thing works too. I, for one, and into pegging in real sex, but not in porn. I like the idea of a woman penetratiing me, but I hate seeing another man’s ass in that position.

  77. TheLion920817 Avatar

    I’ve gone full circle and came back to holding hands

  78. JohnTomorrow Avatar

    Absolutely not.

    My porn tastes are very much not in the realm of reality. But my wife and I have a very active love life, and the thought of sleeping with another woman makes me feel sick.

    But, when the kitchen is closed, you sometimes have to get fast food. And fast food is nasty, not good for you, but can scratch an itch like no other.

    That said, if you know his preferences, have a chat to him about it. You may forge new connections over it.

  79. RegisterUpbeat2449 Avatar

    I mean…a lot of times, yes. Unfortunately my wife is rather conservative in bed. She’s indulged me a few times though