Okay so, im transgender, and my parents hate it. Like hate hate it.
And last week I needed to do the dishes, but I forgot. I went to go upstairs to call my girlfriend, but then he really shouted at me. Like ive never seen him shout before. It was really scary. so, I go down to do the dishes. but its too hot outside, so apparentley now i have to take off my hoodie?? I really didnt want to, because I had scars on my arm from last night because my mum was saying her usual “youre not a boy you never will be you dont even look like one” blah blah so i felt bad. But she said it again. I got really angry and called her a bitch. and my dad shoved me in the corner of kitchen, and got really up in my face. He said that “if i catch you saying that again, he woudnt be afraid to get the bet out on me”
I really dont know what to do. I feel like i should proabably tell someone but idk. I feel like i kinda deserved it. Also he kinda touches my ass sometimes. not a lot. but sometimes to the point where its noticable?? and whenever were sitting close on the couch hell put his hand on my thigh and stuff. I feel like im overreacting. I really dont know.
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You’re not overreacting. None of this is okay. You didn’t deserve to be hurt or threatened not for being yourself, not for anything. What your dad is doing (the belt, the touching) is abuse. Please, tell a trusted adult a teacher, school counselor, or call a child protection line. You’re not alone, and there are people who will believe you and help you. You deserve to feel safe.
I’m so sorry this is happening to you! You don’t deserve this at all. You’re not overreacting — you’re under reacting by far.
You need to tell someone. A school counselor or teacher. If it’s easier, you can just print out this post and say “I have something to tell you” and hand them the post. They will know what to do.
You are strong to put up with this, even if you don’t feel that way. I’m proud of you.
Don’t call your mom a b*tch if you want to be a boy then that’s what happens
CPS immediately! He should not touching you inappropriately or threatening you with physically violence. Also, your parents suck. I am so sorry that some humans act this way. Even worse that they would do this to their own progeny. Be you, no matter what!
honey i’m so sorry. i know it may feel “cringey” to seek professional help, but please talk to a school counselor. you need to be protected from this poor treatment you’re getting at home. if you have more than one school counselor, maybe try both and see who you feel safest with! if you can trust your gfs family, or any other family of yours, lean on them a bit for support. i don’t know where you’re located, but i guarantee that there is at least one organization for trans youth that can provide you with more expert help and support. even if you don’t reach out to them (i get it can be scary), looking into it is a good starting point into navigating your options here.
most importantly:
you do not deserve this.
your father should absolutely not be touching you in a way that makes you uncomfortable, and your mom sure as hell should not be okay with it.
true family supports and loves you for who you are. family does not have to be blood, you can create your own. my family is the family that i created through my friends and their families.
and as a biologist, NEVER let ANYONE tell you that being trans is “all in your head” or anything of the sort. folks like you and (intersex folks) have existed since before the dawn of civilization, and in a lot of cultures, y’all had crazy high status!
you’re valid, you’re loved, and you’re not a burden. i really hope you find the help you need kiddo. the world needs you! <3
Without knowing much about the entire situation, I’m going to bet that your parents like to present themselves as religious bigots. Probably a good chance they’re even down with MAGA… I recommend trying to focus on graduating (definitely going to college) and then deciding if you even want to maintain a relationship with them at all… As someone that has cut all the bigots out of my life, it really feels a lot better.
MMA training, bro. Do it on the DL and give him the proper surprise when the time comes. 😈
You’re more of a man than that prick is. 🖕