Kindness and patience in situations where it’s most needed, like waitstaff trying to take care of people in a busy restaurant, holiday employees trying to get used to working the register during Christmas shopping, etc. A little kindness in stressful situations goes a long way.
idk but those who don’t try to fit in and be their own self without causing a scene like using profanity while talking out loud for the whole world to hear. They are in touch with their intuition and wisdom.
Classy people can be sad, self-obsessed, depressed, and confused at times but never obnoxious. I mean like why are you trying to be a man in a men’s world.
An ex of mine told me that the following incident really elevated his opinion of me:
We were at a nice enough restaraunt, famed for its fishbowl soup. So we ordered that
I bit into one of my balls, it was yummy, with a little bit of crunch.. I then looked down at the remaining half ball, and to my dismay and disgust, there was half a baby cockroach visible in the ball. Half.
I said ‘Oh shit’ and showed my date. Made a joke about extra protein, and motioned the waiter over. He immediately understood, whisked it away and I ordered another (different, I’m not that brave) dish.
He didnt offer a discount or say much beyond a brief apology. I didn’t say much at thr time, I figured id see if they at least comped he dish before complaining further. And we continued a very nice date.
After, he told me that the way I stayed calm, handled the situation and didn’t freak out, or take it out on the waiter really impressed him.
He also said that his mother is essentially a massive, nightmarish Karen, particularly in restaraunts, so he was surprised to see a reaction that wasn’t screaming, crying, possibly vomiting or fainting, and shrieks that the restaraunt be shut down immediately.
(Note- the restaraunt comped the entire meal and added complimentary desserts and drinks. Its a good restaraunt, and generally clean, and I didn’t want to potentially fuck over multiple people/and entire business over something that’s probably just bad luck.
Also, the country I live in has a shitload of roaches, and food hygiene standards are simply not the same as in the west. 2 roaches or a repeat experience and I would have made a more serious deal- but I try to give the benefit of the doubt on a one off thing.)
speaking kindly even when she’s annoyed, or subtly fixing her posture when she walks into a room. It’s quiet elegance that says a lot without trying too hard
To be unbothered by the opinions of others. When a person is truly secure in life, they tend to not get offended easily. As getting offended easily, is often a sign of being easily manipulated. Carrying oneself with grace when you don’t agree with a controversial or loud opinion, speaks volume of the internal security of that person.
I think if they show patience and respect even when a mistake happens that inconveniences them in someway. Yeah that would score major brownie points in my book. Because those moments will inevitably happen and are made so much worse by an overly critical and reactive person.
Grace. Able to roll with the punches, and doesn’t jab back verbally, but dances around inappropriate and harsh conversations, responding in a way that disarms rather than engages. Not a doormat at all, but commanding of a room once people see how she behaves.
A fine young women I knew once stood up and said quite firmly, “Don’t speak about him like that, particularly not when he is in room”. I thought that was unbelievably classy, and after resigning myself to just largely ignore such idiotic behaviour it was heartwarming to hear someone else call people out on it rather than just join in.
My first thought is how someone treats the people around them: cashiers, waitresses, meat counter workers, coworkers, in-laws. I am unfailingly polite, joking, friendly, warm, WHATEVER. I will absolutely change a persons day if I am able. A smile, a nice compliment, small talk if warranted, it’s all free. As a middle aged white woman, people expect <one thing> and I LOVE to deliver the complete opposite every time. Tip LARGE.
I was given this sage comment years ago and it still holds true today: the difference between a classy and non-classy woman is simple—the classy woman returns calls that she doesn’t want to.
Even in today’s techno/texting age, it still holds truth. Basically, the classy woman will seek discomfort if it means better relations.
When she’s able to hold a good conversation without constantly checking her phone or dominating the talking. Someone who genuinely listens, asks thoughtful questions, and contributes without interrupting
Comments
When the heart makes a cheek
Respectful
Being good with kids
Can cook
When she’s unbothered, polite, and chooses peace over drama, that quiet confidence hits different
Lift the pinky finger whilst drinking a cup of tea
When she spells classy with an l that looks like a dick and connects to the y
Having branded lube to hand for anal rather than a quick ‘hawk tuah’ on the little soldier.
She should have a prayer life… but modesty and humility
Leading a revolution with one titty out.
Crossing her legs at the ankles
When she gives me 100 dollars
ATM
Pearls
I think when a woman is a good communicator and has her boundaries set it’s very appealing. It shows confidence and self respect.
Holds wine glass properly, good table manners, and good posture. Also ensures to say hello and good bye to everyone if it’s a party
No drama, bullshit, attention/validation seeking behaviour
Being fluent in more than 2 languages is always a hit in my book
When she puts her chopsticks up her nose and claps like a Walrus
When she shows up on date night ordering wine while wearing that LBD.
a wider sence of accountability…
She’s open to trying new things at a restaurant for example. i.e. not plain Jane
Kindness and patience in situations where it’s most needed, like waitstaff trying to take care of people in a busy restaurant, holiday employees trying to get used to working the register during Christmas shopping, etc. A little kindness in stressful situations goes a long way.
When she doesn’t stop speaking when a man interrupts her mid-sentence.
When she humbles a mansplainer with a clever line and whit.
When she stands up for people who are afraid to stand up for themselves.
Made me think of my teacher in university who always ordered a glass of champagne when she was out. I found that extremely classy.
Spits.
Kind gestures or actions without fanfare.
idk but those who don’t try to fit in and be their own self without causing a scene like using profanity while talking out loud for the whole world to hear. They are in touch with their intuition and wisdom.
Classy people can be sad, self-obsessed, depressed, and confused at times but never obnoxious. I mean like why are you trying to be a man in a men’s world.
An ex of mine told me that the following incident really elevated his opinion of me:
We were at a nice enough restaraunt, famed for its fishbowl soup. So we ordered that
I bit into one of my balls, it was yummy, with a little bit of crunch.. I then looked down at the remaining half ball, and to my dismay and disgust, there was half a baby cockroach visible in the ball. Half.
I said ‘Oh shit’ and showed my date. Made a joke about extra protein, and motioned the waiter over. He immediately understood, whisked it away and I ordered another (different, I’m not that brave) dish.
He didnt offer a discount or say much beyond a brief apology. I didn’t say much at thr time, I figured id see if they at least comped he dish before complaining further. And we continued a very nice date.
After, he told me that the way I stayed calm, handled the situation and didn’t freak out, or take it out on the waiter really impressed him.
He also said that his mother is essentially a massive, nightmarish Karen, particularly in restaraunts, so he was surprised to see a reaction that wasn’t screaming, crying, possibly vomiting or fainting, and shrieks that the restaraunt be shut down immediately.
(Note- the restaraunt comped the entire meal and added complimentary desserts and drinks. Its a good restaraunt, and generally clean, and I didn’t want to potentially fuck over multiple people/and entire business over something that’s probably just bad luck.
Also, the country I live in has a shitload of roaches, and food hygiene standards are simply not the same as in the west. 2 roaches or a repeat experience and I would have made a more serious deal- but I try to give the benefit of the doubt on a one off thing.)
Apologises for mistakes or not afraid to admit they were wrong.
Genuine compliments
speaking kindly even when she’s annoyed, or subtly fixing her posture when she walks into a room. It’s quiet elegance that says a lot without trying too hard
If she takes a dump on my bed 😂 Amber Turd style!
Good posture clean clothes no chipped nail polish clean shoes
To be unbothered by the opinions of others. When a person is truly secure in life, they tend to not get offended easily. As getting offended easily, is often a sign of being easily manipulated. Carrying oneself with grace when you don’t agree with a controversial or loud opinion, speaks volume of the internal security of that person.
I think if they show patience and respect even when a mistake happens that inconveniences them in someway. Yeah that would score major brownie points in my book. Because those moments will inevitably happen and are made so much worse by an overly critical and reactive person.
A soft, sweet voice is the first thing that comes to mind
Grace. Able to roll with the punches, and doesn’t jab back verbally, but dances around inappropriate and harsh conversations, responding in a way that disarms rather than engages. Not a doormat at all, but commanding of a room once people see how she behaves.
A fine young women I knew once stood up and said quite firmly, “Don’t speak about him like that, particularly not when he is in room”. I thought that was unbelievably classy, and after resigning myself to just largely ignore such idiotic behaviour it was heartwarming to hear someone else call people out on it rather than just join in.
My first thought is how someone treats the people around them: cashiers, waitresses, meat counter workers, coworkers, in-laws. I am unfailingly polite, joking, friendly, warm, WHATEVER. I will absolutely change a persons day if I am able. A smile, a nice compliment, small talk if warranted, it’s all free. As a middle aged white woman, people expect <one thing> and I LOVE to deliver the complete opposite every time. Tip LARGE.
Self control.
When her life isn’t about men.
I was given this sage comment years ago and it still holds true today: the difference between a classy and non-classy woman is simple—the classy woman returns calls that she doesn’t want to.
Even in today’s techno/texting age, it still holds truth. Basically, the classy woman will seek discomfort if it means better relations.
When she’s able to hold a good conversation without constantly checking her phone or dominating the talking. Someone who genuinely listens, asks thoughtful questions, and contributes without interrupting
when she swallows. oh, well pardon me my beloved
Grace under pressure. When she stays calm, kind, and composed even when things get awkward or tense, it radiates class instantly.
Not seeking attention or validation.
Doesnt laught out loud, doesnt seek eyecontact with others.
When she reaches over and opens the driver’s side door after you open the passenger side door, let her sit down, and then close the door for her.
Having her own goals and ambition.
Optimistic and pramatic.
Respectful.
Doesn’t make all the things about herself.
If they like me.
when she stays calm while someone’s losing their mind and just sips her drink like it’s none of her business… that’s peak elegance to me lol
posture!
Spitting on that thang. Shows a considerate and practical side as well.