I ‘22F’ have been talking to this guy ‘19M’. He’s moved out of his house, pays his own bills, owns his own car, and has a good paying job in the trades. I am working towards my degree and have a really good paying seasonal internship i have during the spring/summer months. Basically trying to say we are both adults.
Some of my friends are saying that this age gap is weird and that he is too young. I do think i like him. Is this weird?
What’s a good age gap for relationships?
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22 and 19 is not a big age gap. I don’t see how that’s weird at all
IMO, age is just a number when you’re adults. If he’s mature, independent, and treats ya right i guess it will work. Your friends need to chill out.
If you like him and he likes you, a 3-year gap isn’t weird at all. Your friends might just be imagining some stereotype but reality’s way more nuanced. The only thing you might wanna keep in mind is stage-of-life stuff. You’re in college, doing your degree, juggling internships, he might still be early in figuring out his future path. But if you guys communicate and respect each other’s goals, that doesn’t have to be a dealbreaker.
A 3-year gap at your age is basically nothing, especially since you’re both independent adults. The “too young” stuff usually matters more when one person’s still a teen or just out of high school and the other’s way older. You’re good, if the vibe is right, don’t stress the numbers
It’s how young people think. Once you get out of college 3 years is nothing
There’s no gap. Your friends are jealous that you found a nice young man, having his life in order, while they didn’t.
Don’t listen to others.
As long both are adults and consent…and are real and not second intentions
it’s not just about sex but also about the secrecy and her parents’ influence. Try talking with her openly about how this impacts you and what you both want long-term.
One of the girls I dated back in the day was in a relationship with a guy before me who was 3yrs younger. Same as you, 22 and 19. Later she broke up with him thinking he was immature. But she dated 3 guys after and went back to him after. 3yrs is all good.
You are 3 years apart. In 5 years you won’t care at all. In 10 you won’t even consider it a gap. Don’t let other peoples stupid hangup ruin a good thing.
Half plus seven
1/2(Age)+7=appropriate
Half of 22 is 11.
11+7 is 18.
That’s the youngest a 22 year old should date
Me and my boyfriend have 4 yrs age gap . I’m older than him , as time passes you’ll not think about it anymore and just think that you’re just the same age.
Your friends thinks it’s weird because they are still in high school mode.
I don’t think 22-19 is a weird age gap, especially since he’s doing all the things you described. I think your friends are overreacting
Predator.
No this is not weird. You need to get off reddit or something if you think 19 and 22 is weird.
If anything he’s honestly more mature and has more life experience than you do right now. He’s moved out, pays his own bills, and has a career.
If you’re happy with him then there’s no need to overthink or worry about what your friends are saying. I’ve seen plenty of people here on Reddit who have a bigger age gap with their partners. And strange thing is that if it was the other way around (if he was 22 and you were 19), no one would think twice.
From my experience i can tell that 5 years is the sweet spot for me.
Nothing wrong with 2 to 3 year age gap as long as yall are actually adults and weren’t together in a “He’s not legal yet, but-” sort of situation.
The only weird thing is that he is only 19 and yet has all the things you mention. I would be more focused on seeing if what he says is actually the truth………
Three years? What the fuck?
Come on. Your friends are fucked in the head, delusionally uptight.
If it fits it fits. Age doesn’t matter then.
There is a formula. Half the older person’s age plus 7. Younger than that is pushing it.
22/2=11 + 7= 18. You’re good!
Seems crazy, but give the math a shot – pretty much works from 10yrs old to 70!
22 and 19 can be a weird one, depending on maturity level, as that age gap is generally separated by those who have just started out on their own or are entering college with those who could be starting their post-grad and are entering the workforce.
However, in your case, he seems like he has already hit a number of milestones that someone in their early 20s would be hitting.
In that sense, you are similar in experience.
Ultimately, though a 3 year age gap isn’t too big, and it won’t matter as much in the long run
Your friends are weird. 3 years is nothing.
The most important part is that the both of you are in roughly the same stage of life, which you are. If you’re in university, you shouldn’t date someone in high school even if they’re of age.
If you’ve pretty much settled into a life style and a city and started your working life, you shouldn’t date someone who is in university and still discovering the world and where they would want to live and work in the future.
Being at different stages in life is a recipe for disaster. The both of you need to be aligned on the plans for the near future – like where you want to live, if you’re gonna stay in the area or move away to follow higher education etc. If the guy turns out to have the wish to go somewhere else for an education, you need to discuss that and see if you are gonna move with him, or stay behind and do long distance (which i do not recommend, long distance is absolutely heart breaking).
If you decide you want to move away after graduating, that must absolutely be discussed beforehand because does he see job opportunities where you want to go? Do you want to stay where you are? Can you find a job related to your degree where you are?
If it’s purely for hookups, anything goes provided both parties are over the age of consent and there’s no way one person can exert power over the other (like a 20yo gay guy kicked out of the house for being gay who is struggling, to get by getting picked up by a 45 year old well off guy offering to help financially).
What age gap , 3 years is nothing . Don’t worry what others think , even if it was 20 years it’s got nothing to do with anyone else . I’d say they are jealous Cougar lol
It’s not weird. And if you are together long term, in a few more years you’ll basically be the same age.
22 and 19 is not a gap at all. You are memebers of the exact same generation.
Your friends are far too influenced by tiktok nonsense. 3 Years is super normal and lots of people are in happy, fulfilling relationships with much larger age gaps.
If sex is good and otherwise you would not mind stuck in the desert island with him for 3 months without cell coverage why do you mind what other people think
It’s not weird
my (34m) wife (37f) thinks this is a silly question
edit: the numbers get smaller with time, 3 years may seem like a lot now but you could easily grow together as peers
I promise you this is fine.
A lesson.
But if they are wrong in this matter, what else are they wrong in.
It’s worth taking a step back and reasoning by and for yourself in future matters. And share less with them before your opinions start to clash, leading to discomfort.
22 and 19 isn’t weird at all!!! As long as you have the same maturity level, age isn’t a huge deal when it comes to adults. My fiancé is 24 and I just turned 21 and no one has batted an eye!
It’s only a little bit awkward when it comes to minimum age rules like drinking age or casinos. But it won’t be for long and it’s your life. Enjoy it and don’t worry about other people’s opinions.