My fiance and I are in the middle of planning and we’re stuck on the guest list. We started with the idea of something “small” but when we actually wrote out names it shot up to 90 people like just from close family and a few friends each. We both want the day to feel personal and not like a conference, but we also don’t want to offend anyone by not inviting them. It’s honestly stressing me out more than any other part of the wedding so far. Thoughts on this?
What’s a good guest list number for a wedding?
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You’re going to offend people. Your venue, your ceremony, all of choices will offend someone somewhere because people are ridiculous about weddings. Plan what you want and don’t worry about others.
A good number is the number of people you can afford to invite to have the kind of wedding you’d like to have. A wedding lasts one day. Debt can last much longer.
event planner and also MOH here for my best friend getting married next year – i agree with what has already been said about only hosting as much as you’re comfortable affording and paying out of pocket for.
When the guest list gets too long, my best idea is always to have a private ceremony with your loved ones and closest friends, then have a huge reception instead – that way people don’t feel “left out” and you and your fiancé don’t have to shell out so much for a bunch of people to just watch you guys get married – if they wanna celebrate, throw an actual party instead.
A lot of the weddings I’ve been to recently had about 25-30 people to the wedding and main meal and then more of an open invitation for everyone in the evening.
These 90 people do you know them well and interact with them lots or is it that you feel you should invite them. How many of those people have you not actually spoken to in the last year or 2.
Think about what you want, not want everyone else wants or what you think is expected.
Two. They’re your witnesses. Those are the only guests you need.
Depends on your budget. Post on r/wedding