Making the effort to be clear and well kept and not just the obvious aesthetic grooming.
Things like trimmed nails and no stubble. Basically, if you are going to touch someone with a part of your body or have a part of your body touched, make the effort to make sure it isn’t going to cause discomfort.
men who don’t panic when they orgasm quickly (especially when they get angry!) it’s so much better if they’re like “what can i do for you now?” and try to make you cum as well / when they say they’re already getting ready for round 2
Bluntly (in a respectful way ofc) asking about preferences. You can’t expect everyone to have enough experience or social competence to pick up on small nonverbal cues.
Even if it can be a mood killer sometimes, it’s way better than ignoring the other person and shows an effort to improve.
When you’re making up sexy scenarios to turn on your partner and they get really into it. Even if it’s ridiculous or odd. And if it IS ridiculous you can both just laugh and have a fun time
I was shocked that my ex had never been eaten out by any of her previous partners. They never once offered. How are so many guys still not enthusiastic about pleasing their women this way?
When the person actually gives a flying fuck about making you feel good even if it’s not something they particularly like. I have a guy who loves eating me out (or just generally make me feel good) cause he says he loves watching me squirm with pleasure and unlike past times we’ve been together (like a thing), he’s been really into listening me. Asked me if I was gonna make “those cute little whines”. Sooooo yeah. It’s nice to have someone who really cares about if I’m enjoying myself or not.
(Disclaimer: I am asexual, so my green flags are different)
When he doesn’t expect you to orgasm and doesn’t force you to. I can’t orgasm with men anymore and when I did with my ex, it was really unpleasant afterwards and put me off sex. My current partner treats sex the way I want him to, a quick foreplay, sex, he’s done, I’m good, we shower. Nice. He’s satisfied, I’m happy the job is done.
Also, when they are able to just kiss and cuddle without wanting sex. Makes me feel more than just my body.
Trying new things without talking it beforehand but always asking if this is fine during the moment. I probably wouldn’t like half the things i do if my partner would’ve asked me before Sex. If I’m horny i’m a lot more open about trying new things
When its okay for you to laugh, cry, stop, change your mind halfway through. Being able to do something stupid. Feeling safe enough not to be embarrassed if it doesn’t go to plan
Actually having fun with your partner. She loves to joke around when I finish too fast or too take too long. It’s great n all having romantic sexy time, but it’s the ones where we end up in a laughing fit that makes it special
If you start crying and that kills their boner.
I know it’s a bit more of a downer answer, but seriously, it means they are tuned into you, and they really care that you are okay, more than they care about their own gratification.
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Respecting boundaries
Considering what your partner actually enjoys.
getting more horny off the enjoyment of your partner about what you‘re doing with them
FOREPLAY
Like knowing anatomy
Grooming.
Making the effort to be clear and well kept and not just the obvious aesthetic grooming.
Things like trimmed nails and no stubble. Basically, if you are going to touch someone with a part of your body or have a part of your body touched, make the effort to make sure it isn’t going to cause discomfort.
When sleeping with your partner keeps your nightmares away you know they’re the right one.
She makes a strong cuppa tea
Consent
Guys love a girl that initiates
Actually listening to your partner and vice versa telling your partner what you like.
men who don’t panic when they orgasm quickly (especially when they get angry!) it’s so much better if they’re like “what can i do for you now?” and try to make you cum as well / when they say they’re already getting ready for round 2
Bluntly (in a respectful way ofc) asking about preferences. You can’t expect everyone to have enough experience or social competence to pick up on small nonverbal cues.
Even if it can be a mood killer sometimes, it’s way better than ignoring the other person and shows an effort to improve.
Reciprocation
WASHING YOUR HANDS BEFORE GETTING HANDSY
Communication and attention.
ASKING FIRST AND LAST NAME
Communication
Checking your reaction.
So rather than blindly Do Step A -> Do Step B -> Do Step C
Good lovers; Try Step A, see how you react, adjust -> Try Step B, see how you react, adjust -> etc
Kasha?
Afterplay
When he brushes away or tucks in your hair so he doesn’t lean on it accidentally later.
Praise
When you’re making up sexy scenarios to turn on your partner and they get really into it. Even if it’s ridiculous or odd. And if it IS ridiculous you can both just laugh and have a fun time
When they like to cuddle.
It’s a British car breakdown service that sucks
checking in to make sure it’s not too much
Finishing at the same time or making sure both got off.
The tightness of the pussy
Actually showing up. Talk is cheap but actually putting in the time to BE there is huge.
A nice clean washed penis that doesn’t have that lethal fragrance of sweat, piss and cum so many straight men love to wear.
Her coming in chains, and no limits
Eye contact. Holy fuck. Eye contact.
Especially for the first few times, when they constantly make sure you’re comfortable with what’s happening.
BRAZILIAN FLAG AS A BLANKET
The three Cs, comfort, communication, consent.
No bumps = more humps
Laughter. 🙂
If someone understands difference between making love and just having sex
I was shocked that my ex had never been eaten out by any of her previous partners. They never once offered. How are so many guys still not enthusiastic about pleasing their women this way?
Consent
Communication
When you shift positions and they try to get you a pillow right away so you are more comfy
Providing a pen to sign the consent forms
Ask again several times if all is well during and if it was good after
Spit on it
Checking in to make sure they’re having a good time
When she share enough of the sheets for you to sleep well !
Latex. Latex is a big green flag in beds. Latex mattresses are so amazingly comfortable. They’re very heavy and quite pricey though.
When the person actually gives a flying fuck about making you feel good even if it’s not something they particularly like. I have a guy who loves eating me out (or just generally make me feel good) cause he says he loves watching me squirm with pleasure and unlike past times we’ve been together (like a thing), he’s been really into listening me. Asked me if I was gonna make “those cute little whines”. Sooooo yeah. It’s nice to have someone who really cares about if I’m enjoying myself or not.
Communicating. Simply that. Asking if someone is alright, what they want, if you can make it go better somehow. The same goes both ways.
(Disclaimer: I am asexual, so my green flags are different)
When he doesn’t expect you to orgasm and doesn’t force you to. I can’t orgasm with men anymore and when I did with my ex, it was really unpleasant afterwards and put me off sex. My current partner treats sex the way I want him to, a quick foreplay, sex, he’s done, I’m good, we shower. Nice. He’s satisfied, I’m happy the job is done.
Also, when they are able to just kiss and cuddle without wanting sex. Makes me feel more than just my body.
Getting tested regularly and sharing that information before getting jiggy
Not snoring.
Trying new things without talking it beforehand but always asking if this is fine during the moment. I probably wouldn’t like half the things i do if my partner would’ve asked me before Sex. If I’m horny i’m a lot more open about trying new things
When its okay for you to laugh, cry, stop, change your mind halfway through. Being able to do something stupid. Feeling safe enough not to be embarrassed if it doesn’t go to plan
Having fantasies and being able to talk about them
Consideration and effort on both sides
Not expecting everything to end right after they cum.
Actually having fun with your partner. She loves to joke around when I finish too fast or too take too long. It’s great n all having romantic sexy time, but it’s the ones where we end up in a laughing fit that makes it special
If you start crying and that kills their boner.
I know it’s a bit more of a downer answer, but seriously, it means they are tuned into you, and they really care that you are okay, more than they care about their own gratification.
You don’t ask but she still gargles the balls
I also have sex
Then fwb now bf helped me change the bedding after sex and put on new bedding for me, he’d then set up the pillows how I liked them