I had a roommate who always refolded his laundry immediately after someone touched it, even if it was still folded. Turns out he grew up in a super strict household where that was a control thing.
I have a habit of helping wait staff. Like i will properly put my utentsils and properly folded napkins to make it easier for them. Also if their hands are full, ill pick up the plate and hand it off. My fiance finds it endearing; “you’re such a big teddy bear”.
And yes tipping culture in general in US in absolutely insane.
Saying they’ll do something and they actually follow through, or if something comes up where they can’t, they don’t ghost you but apologetically let you know immediately
I’m responding to some of the comments about cleaning. The ideal world would have all of society keeping a clean home, yard, garage, and car. For disabled people, people who work so hard to put food on the table that they’ve no physical energy left, and those suffering from depression or anxiety, this isn’t always a top priority. I’m not saying dirty dishes and junk everywhere but some clutter and things not being put away. Some people will keep piles of clothes, magazines, or other items in piles near them because it’s the only thing they feel that they can control. I have an “invisible” disability that also includes chronic fatigue and bouts of anxiety and depression. I struggle with keeping my clothes picked up and putting away my mail. When I do put everything where it belongs, I do a very thorough job of it. I don’t have dirty dishes lying around or half-eaten food all over nor do I have a dirty bathroom. It’s mostly just the bedroom that is an issue and its just picking up my clothes and sorting through the mail that struggle with. I
A “harmless” habit like talking to yourself out loud or making strange noises when no one is looking can say a lot: that person is probably creative, a little distractible, and definitely never bored with themselves!
Leaving grocery items that they changed their mind about on random different shelves instead of putting them away or handing them to the cashier. Leaving their grocery cart in a parking space rather than the cart corral.
how they handle their nasal secretions. Snot rockets, hawk and tuh, a loud skuuuunk and spit, all of those. It turns my stomach immediately. Even blowing loudly into a tissue, inspecting the results and commenting on the results. Gawn nah
I went to a baseball game last night with my dad. It was delayed for an hour due to rain. We were fortunate enough to stumble upon a towel giveaway in the concourse and were able to dry our seats before the game started.
As towel-less fans trickled in to our section, my dad was going out of his way to bring them our towels. Probably about a dozen or so fans, and he’s springing up from his seat — at 70, having worked a full day on his feet — rushing to help them dry their seats.
His harmless habit is being hyper-aware of what’s going on around him because he feels some incessant duty to help. I admire it deeply.
Willingly offering to pick someone up/drop someone off at the airport. For me it’s an act of love, regardless of when the flight is. I never ask for money, but rather an energy drink 😂
This might sound cheap but when people Venmo you within less than a day of buying something they know they owe you for. It just goes a really long way in my book of saying 1) I see you and acknowledge that you bought something on my behalf, and 2) I appreciate you doing such. It drives me crazy when people take forever to Venmo you or “forget” to altogether.
People who initiate any form of something indicating that a relationship is meaningful to them… be it initiating a hangout session, a conversation, or making some sort of effort to maintain contact, even if it’s been a while.
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Cutting people off and talking over them in conversation.
Always having alcoholic drinks. Like every day… having a drink
Cleaning up after themselves. Leaving things cleaner than you found it. Helping wait staff.
I had a roommate who always refolded his laundry immediately after someone touched it, even if it was still folded. Turns out he grew up in a super strict household where that was a control thing.
Spending too much time on Reddit
Forever driving in the left lane… No matter who’s behind them or whether they are passing anyone
I have a habit of helping wait staff. Like i will properly put my utentsils and properly folded napkins to make it easier for them. Also if their hands are full, ill pick up the plate and hand it off. My fiance finds it endearing; “you’re such a big teddy bear”.
And yes tipping culture in general in US in absolutely insane.
Being decision-impaired.
Consistently being late and laughing it off. Says a lot about how much respect (or lack there of in this case) they have of other people.
Having to check doors twice to make sure theyre locked before you leave or go to bed.
Peer pressuring others to drink with them
Interruption.
Saying they’ll do something and they actually follow through, or if something comes up where they can’t, they don’t ghost you but apologetically let you know immediately
Not keeping their word .
“ I’ll etransfer u the $ I u owe tonight “ etc
Putting carts back at the grocery store after use.
Using ChatGPT to communicate with people….
I’m responding to some of the comments about cleaning. The ideal world would have all of society keeping a clean home, yard, garage, and car. For disabled people, people who work so hard to put food on the table that they’ve no physical energy left, and those suffering from depression or anxiety, this isn’t always a top priority. I’m not saying dirty dishes and junk everywhere but some clutter and things not being put away. Some people will keep piles of clothes, magazines, or other items in piles near them because it’s the only thing they feel that they can control. I have an “invisible” disability that also includes chronic fatigue and bouts of anxiety and depression. I struggle with keeping my clothes picked up and putting away my mail. When I do put everything where it belongs, I do a very thorough job of it. I don’t have dirty dishes lying around or half-eaten food all over nor do I have a dirty bathroom. It’s mostly just the bedroom that is an issue and its just picking up my clothes and sorting through the mail that struggle with. I
Never ever wasting any amount of food, even if they hate the meal or the ingredients are a bit past use-by
Always being late.
How they joke about themselves
Flaking on others last minute
I had a coworker who would apologize after every question. After 2-3 months of asking them to stop apologizing I learned why they did that
Facing all the boxes and jars in your fridge and pantry. Replying for a friend.
Walking their dog off-leash in places that aren’t explicitly off-leash. “It’s ok, he’s friendly” you know what, I’ll tell you if it’s ok.
People who constantly talk about themselves and rarely ask you questions about yourself.
Shopping a lot and constantly.
After meeting the folks I have in the past year, stealing. Seems to be OK to do that these days.
Continuing to shop after the store is closed, instead of immediately heading to the registers to check out.
A “harmless” habit like talking to yourself out loud or making strange noises when no one is looking can say a lot: that person is probably creative, a little distractible, and definitely never bored with themselves!
Holding the door for more than just your partner.
Leaving grocery items that they changed their mind about on random different shelves instead of putting them away or handing them to the cashier. Leaving their grocery cart in a parking space rather than the cart corral.
Not leaving the house without makeup, like ever
how they handle their nasal secretions. Snot rockets, hawk and tuh, a loud skuuuunk and spit, all of those. It turns my stomach immediately. Even blowing loudly into a tissue, inspecting the results and commenting on the results. Gawn nah
I went to a baseball game last night with my dad. It was delayed for an hour due to rain. We were fortunate enough to stumble upon a towel giveaway in the concourse and were able to dry our seats before the game started.
As towel-less fans trickled in to our section, my dad was going out of his way to bring them our towels. Probably about a dozen or so fans, and he’s springing up from his seat — at 70, having worked a full day on his feet — rushing to help them dry their seats.
His harmless habit is being hyper-aware of what’s going on around him because he feels some incessant duty to help. I admire it deeply.
People who pickup fruit in a supermarket that has fallen to the floor. I do this, so always wash your fruit.
Not reading books
Pushing in your chair when you get up.
naturally waking up early & starting your day well before you have to be
People that judge someone’s character based on innocuous habits
using ai for everything
Willingly offering to pick someone up/drop someone off at the airport. For me it’s an act of love, regardless of when the flight is. I never ask for money, but rather an energy drink 😂
Littering.
Being late and expecting everyone to be ok with it
Saying please and thank you
Returning the cart. That is a sign that they are capable of self governance and will typically do what is right even when nobody is looking.
Trying to enter an elevator before everyone on it has exited.
perfect health people who just chronic illness people for ways we cope. “omg have you cut out sugar??” sarah i have cut out everything and you’re next
This might sound cheap but when people Venmo you within less than a day of buying something they know they owe you for. It just goes a really long way in my book of saying 1) I see you and acknowledge that you bought something on my behalf, and 2) I appreciate you doing such. It drives me crazy when people take forever to Venmo you or “forget” to altogether.
People who initiate any form of something indicating that a relationship is meaningful to them… be it initiating a hangout session, a conversation, or making some sort of effort to maintain contact, even if it’s been a while.
Believing “if it’s meant to be, it’ll happen” about things important to them, doing nothing about it, and then them and others missing out