When everything they say is a question? Like when they’re just making a statement but it goes up at the end into a question sound? And you’re all ‘that wasn’t a question’?
One upsmanship. Can’t I just have a story about something and that’s it? It sneaks in too. At first it seems like just continuing the conversation until it presents itself with every response to everything
Someone once told me I have an annoying habit of interjecting myself into conversations with my own experiences of whatever thing they are discussing, rather than just listening. I’ve since made a conscious effort not to do that, and now I notice when others do so.
So hey, step back, listen and then if you have something to add do so when the other person has had their moment!
People who say something and you didn’t quite catch what they said so you ask them to repeat it and they say “nothing”. Especially if they’re naturally soft spoken and it happens a lot.
Lying about things that don’t matter. To either one up someone or just for attention.
I have several examples but just off the top of my head I used to work with a woman that brought her dog to work (he was delightful, she was not). We’re all dog lovers and I was having a conversation with another coworker about foods that are toxic for dogs. Every food we mentioned (onions, garlic, grapes, coffee, etc) she chimed in to tell us she feeds those to her dog “all the time”. Umm no the fuck you do not. It was like that with her daily.
Ppl who canât make a decision. Where you wanna eat? I donât care. When you wanna hang out? I dunno Iâm free whenever. What movie you wanna watch? Doesnât matter. Like omg can you pick anything!?
Itâs even worse when itâs their idea! Iâm hungry letâs go eat! Ok what do you want? I donât care
Iâve met people that Iâve almost instantly âclickedâ with and you form a bond quickly – too quickly. You feel like something is off but you canât put your finger on it, they may be new to your office, or class or whatever but suddenly seem to know everyone. Theyâre hanging out with people all over the place, crossing groups, friends, enemies, doesnât matter. Everyone just loves them. Why? Because they show an interest in people and people love to feel seen.
Then they start to share little things here and there and you want to build trust and a deeper connection so you reflect that and share some things too. Until one day you realize they are âcasuallyâ dropping very private and personal things about other people in your conversation while asking things about you and it clicks that this person has boundary issues, is insecure and needs validation from everyone but doesnât know how to be an actual friend. If theyâre talking shit about others to you, theyâre talking shit about you to others. Iâm getting better at spotting it sooner and setting my own boundaries. Thereâs a reason these type of people always have drama.
Then someone responds to every single thing I say with âthatâs fairâ and âfair, fair.â Iâve met people who only respond with this and no other words and it happens enough to notice and kinda pull me out of focus. I canât think of a legit reason Iâm annoyed tho
Telling me youâll do something then either not doing it or doing something completely different. At first I thought it was âquirkyâ, he had ADHD. Over time I realized that a relationship canât be maintained if I canât rely on his word. No matter how good your intentions, actions matter more imo.
Itâs hard to have conversation with people who are chronically hasty/impatient/jump to conclusions. They love to interrupt you when you are in the middle of answering the question they asked – and the worst part? They donât even realize theyâre doing it.
Leaving random half drunk cups all over the damn place, claiming that they aren’t done with it even though every cup they’ve used was completely left alone for days.
Never ever agreeing with you no matter how trivial or inconsequential. You will make a point and they will go “well actually…” It’s like they have to be right all the time and it’s exhausting to talk to people like that.
Iâve seen a trend of people speaking as if theyâre talking to a child⌠âokay?â âRight?â âDo you understand?â And while this may be a confirmation of reception on their end, to me, this is very condescending
When you tell them about someone doing some fuck shit to you, they automatically agree with/defend the other person, even making up wild hypotheticals to justify their behavior, and when called out claim they’re “only trying to play devil’s advocate”
My ex did this whenever a man did anything bad to me
When they ask: “what are you doing on Tuesday?” instead of saying what they want first. You don’t know if it’s “I have an extra ticket to a concert” or “I need you to help me move a sofa”.
I have a friend who always want me to guess stuff. “Guess who I saw?” “Guess what I did?” Etc. And not like in a rhetorical sense, she ACTUALLY wants me to guess. No, just tell me.
I got on bumble bff looking for other female friends since all mine moved out of state. And I noticed that the vast majority of other women on there do not ask questions back, nor will they initiate plans. It’s like they’re treating finding female friendship the way they’d approach dating with a man I guess. I instantly unmatch with them now once I realize they’re not asking questions back. Like I’m not your boyfriend, a friendship should be reciprocal. IDK why they’re like this.
Constantly one-upping your misery. You say you’re tired, they havenât slept since 2014. You say your coffeeâs cold, theyâve been drinking regret for years.
People who complain and always have a reason why ANY solution you offer wonât work. Or they donât try to solve the problem and just keep complaining like itâs a hobby or something.
I’ve scrolled pretty far and not seen it yet: people who only talk about themselves, and who pivot conversations to always be about them and their life.
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Hinting instead of asking direct questions
People who cant stand to go a minute without hearing their own voice.
Staring. Casually observing you, and you notice in your peripherals.
Noisy chewing, even worse if their jaw clicks when eating đ
anything once you’ve fallen out of love with them
Never asking questions back.Â
Making constant “Mmm” noises as they eat food
Speaking like everything is a question.
When people use the word âlikeâ a lot . Once I hear it. ..Itâs the only thing I can hear!
When everything they say is a question? Like when they’re just making a statement but it goes up at the end into a question sound? And you’re all ‘that wasn’t a question’?
One upsmanship. Can’t I just have a story about something and that’s it? It sneaks in too. At first it seems like just continuing the conversation until it presents itself with every response to everything
One-uppers.
People who constantly sniffle instead of, you know⌠getting a tissue and BLOWING THEIR DAMN NOSE!
Not being able to sustain a length of time without mindlessly being on their phone.
Complaining constantly
Loud eating. Nothing makes me angrier than hearing mouth smacking noises like a llama
Pity party/woe is me/ Debbie downer/ eeyore/ martyr complex – whatever you want to call it
Over confidence.
Slurping beverages.
Someone once told me I have an annoying habit of interjecting myself into conversations with my own experiences of whatever thing they are discussing, rather than just listening. I’ve since made a conscious effort not to do that, and now I notice when others do so.
So hey, step back, listen and then if you have something to add do so when the other person has had their moment!
Telling you stuff twenty times a day, with nothing new added.
Yeah, I got it the first time you told me.
Always feeling like they have to play the devil’s advocate
I’m just here wondering which of these apply to me and how insufferable I possibly am.
Interrupting during a conversation.
people who say “you know what I’m saying” every third sentence.
gum snappers.
People who say something and you didn’t quite catch what they said so you ask them to repeat it and they say “nothing”. Especially if they’re naturally soft spoken and it happens a lot.
Lying about things that don’t matter. To either one up someone or just for attention.
I have several examples but just off the top of my head I used to work with a woman that brought her dog to work (he was delightful, she was not). We’re all dog lovers and I was having a conversation with another coworker about foods that are toxic for dogs. Every food we mentioned (onions, garlic, grapes, coffee, etc) she chimed in to tell us she feeds those to her dog “all the time”. Umm no the fuck you do not. It was like that with her daily.
Posting every single thing about your day on snapchat
When someone says, “I’m just sayin…’” at the end of a sentence.
Ppl who canât make a decision. Where you wanna eat? I donât care. When you wanna hang out? I dunno Iâm free whenever. What movie you wanna watch? Doesnât matter. Like omg can you pick anything!?
Itâs even worse when itâs their idea! Iâm hungry letâs go eat! Ok what do you want? I donât care
Iâve met people that Iâve almost instantly âclickedâ with and you form a bond quickly – too quickly. You feel like something is off but you canât put your finger on it, they may be new to your office, or class or whatever but suddenly seem to know everyone. Theyâre hanging out with people all over the place, crossing groups, friends, enemies, doesnât matter. Everyone just loves them. Why? Because they show an interest in people and people love to feel seen.
Then they start to share little things here and there and you want to build trust and a deeper connection so you reflect that and share some things too. Until one day you realize they are âcasuallyâ dropping very private and personal things about other people in your conversation while asking things about you and it clicks that this person has boundary issues, is insecure and needs validation from everyone but doesnât know how to be an actual friend. If theyâre talking shit about others to you, theyâre talking shit about you to others. Iâm getting better at spotting it sooner and setting my own boundaries. Thereâs a reason these type of people always have drama.
People who comment on your body
Being chronically late or inviting you out then asking you where you want to go. Bruh, youâre inviting me, you decide.
Then someone responds to every single thing I say with âthatâs fairâ and âfair, fair.â Iâve met people who only respond with this and no other words and it happens enough to notice and kinda pull me out of focus. I canât think of a legit reason Iâm annoyed tho
Asking a question, not listening to the answer, then later contradicting what you just said.
I still run up the stairs on all fours and some people hate me for it
Telling me youâll do something then either not doing it or doing something completely different. At first I thought it was âquirkyâ, he had ADHD. Over time I realized that a relationship canât be maintained if I canât rely on his word. No matter how good your intentions, actions matter more imo.
Contrarians. I donât think a lot of them even realize what theyâre doing. But it is so damn infuriating.
Interrupting you while you are talking
Itâs hard to have conversation with people who are chronically hasty/impatient/jump to conclusions. They love to interrupt you when you are in the middle of answering the question they asked – and the worst part? They donât even realize theyâre doing it.
Leaving random half drunk cups all over the damn place, claiming that they aren’t done with it even though every cup they’ve used was completely left alone for days.
Put the damn cups in the sink. Holy shit.
Never ever agreeing with you no matter how trivial or inconsequential. You will make a point and they will go “well actually…” It’s like they have to be right all the time and it’s exhausting to talk to people like that.
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Never having a preference and thus making the responsibility of choice not their problem
Wanting others to notice their needs, without ever actually expressing them. we aren’t mind readers
Iâve seen a trend of people speaking as if theyâre talking to a child⌠âokay?â âRight?â âDo you understand?â And while this may be a confirmation of reception on their end, to me, this is very condescending
When you tell them about someone doing some fuck shit to you, they automatically agree with/defend the other person, even making up wild hypotheticals to justify their behavior, and when called out claim they’re “only trying to play devil’s advocate”
My ex did this whenever a man did anything bad to me
I hate unsolicited advice, especially when it’s constant or judgy in nature.
When they ask: “what are you doing on Tuesday?” instead of saying what they want first. You don’t know if it’s “I have an extra ticket to a concert” or “I need you to help me move a sofa”.
Always bringing the conversation back to themselves
I have a friend who always want me to guess stuff. “Guess who I saw?” “Guess what I did?” Etc. And not like in a rhetorical sense, she ACTUALLY wants me to guess. No, just tell me.
I got on bumble bff looking for other female friends since all mine moved out of state. And I noticed that the vast majority of other women on there do not ask questions back, nor will they initiate plans. It’s like they’re treating finding female friendship the way they’d approach dating with a man I guess. I instantly unmatch with them now once I realize they’re not asking questions back. Like I’m not your boyfriend, a friendship should be reciprocal. IDK why they’re like this.
Constantly one-upping your misery. You say you’re tired, they havenât slept since 2014. You say your coffeeâs cold, theyâve been drinking regret for years.
When you chew? Close your fucking mouth. I do not need to hear you eat.
Oof are the ADHDers ok after reading through this thread?
Smugness.
always finding a way to be the victim
People who speak in a roundabout way instead of getting to the point. This would also include people who add too many unnecessary details.
People who complain and always have a reason why ANY solution you offer wonât work. Or they donât try to solve the problem and just keep complaining like itâs a hobby or something.
I’ve scrolled pretty far and not seen it yet: people who only talk about themselves, and who pivot conversations to always be about them and their life.
People who can’t stfu for even 10 seconds
Constantly interrupting people when they are talking
Constantly one-upping everyone. Feels harmless until every convo turns into a competition.