Atheism (not to be confused with agnosticism), though its more of a yellow flag, proceed with caution
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Being extremely analytical about a relationship and having a checklist you won’t budge on. If you truly fall in love your checklist is gonna go out the window but it also seems weak and non adaptive.
one big red flag that’s weirdly become normal is people joking about being “toxic” like it’s cute or funny.
stuff like “lol i’m so clingy” or “i always stalk my exes” gets laughs, but it’s lowkey not okay. turning real emotional issues into trends just makes unhealthy behavior seem fine, when it’s really not.
General flakiness, like not responding to messages in a reasonable timeframe, making plans and cancelling numerous times, cancelling at the last minute, being really late to agreed meetings. Everyone has stuff happening and I’m not saying I’m
never late or that I never cancel
plans but it seems like more and more people just never follow through and that it’s totally fine to waste other peoples time. It’s not.
people pushing their religion into others and making everything about god god god this seems to become more and more normal while they actually belong on an asylum
Also being very quick to ‘conform’ totally to a partner’s beliefs and outlooks, political or elsewise. And being ‘supportive’ by being spiteful towards people you don’t get along with. I’m not sure how socially acceptable these are generally when recognized, but they’re very easy not to recognize or take issue with for a myriad of reasons
The expectation of getting a hot take from everyone about everything based off of scarce information and holding dogmatically to that opinion in spite of new evidence.
“Dating” multiple people at the same time. By “dating” and don’t mean real dating, I mean something that looks like dating, smells like dating and feels like dating, but is not official. Bonus points for ghosting somebody after a third date cause you found somebody better, followed up by “I owe him/her nothing”.
Misanthropy. It’s been common since at least the 90s for people to joke or just say that they hate people, and I’m Gen X so I’m on that wavelength to a certain degree, especially when I was younger, but often I’ve found when you actually get to know people who say that, they’re kind of not kidding. They often tend to be pretty selfish and jaded and hateful even on a non-surface level.
Taking video or pics of random people in public. Usually because they’re wearing something that is made fun of or using gym equipment wrong or something. I’ve even seen posts where someone took a pic of the screen of someone else’s phone at a baseball game. It’s absolutely insane to me, yet people act like it’s a completely rational thing to do.
It’s not. It’s weird.
Influencer culture. That includes creating content just for likes, expecting things for free because of your follower count, and disrupting public spaces with elaborate set-ups and/or dances.
Signalling their religion with an adjective as a virtue.
(Sorry Christians I am going to use Christianity for this example)
“I am a good Christian” is almost always said before saying/doing something probably against the religion, and therefore they’re only saying it to soften the blow of doing something horrible.
Just as an example: How many heinous criminals have used the defence in court that before they did the crime they lived a “good Christian life” and should probably have a lesser sentence because of that?
“I’m a Christian” however is usually only said by people who have been asked, or it’s come up naturally in conversation.
It’s declaring that it might be something you have to navigate when knowing me, I was just making you aware of it.
And that’s fine. And unobtrusive. And polite.
Posting your child’s entire life on social media, making money from it and having very few laws protecting those kids.
There is just documentary after documentary about it. If the labor of the minors was under any other category (filming formal tv, modeling, sports) then children would have so many protections. But monetized social media doesn’t seem to have those restrictions
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Possessive relationships, like claiming that a man or woman belongs to you. It’s incredibly toxic and only leads to a lot of fighting or cheating.
Having too much partners maybe? Even in the recent past it was considered differently
Atheism (not to be confused with agnosticism), though its more of a yellow flag, proceed with caution
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The Arrogance of Tesla Drivers.
After marriage a women has to ask and take permission from her husband and in laws
Using your phone during a date/conversation.
Being extremely analytical about a relationship and having a checklist you won’t budge on. If you truly fall in love your checklist is gonna go out the window but it also seems weak and non adaptive.
All of the last 4 generations of america
Habitual, intentional lying!
one big red flag that’s weirdly become normal is people joking about being “toxic” like it’s cute or funny.
stuff like “lol i’m so clingy” or “i always stalk my exes” gets laughs, but it’s lowkey not okay. turning real emotional issues into trends just makes unhealthy behavior seem fine, when it’s really not.
Practicing toxic behavior (I think the kids these days are calling it “bad bitch” or “boss bitch” or something like that), or supporting those who do.
too touchy too fast.
General flakiness, like not responding to messages in a reasonable timeframe, making plans and cancelling numerous times, cancelling at the last minute, being really late to agreed meetings. Everyone has stuff happening and I’m not saying I’m
never late or that I never cancel
plans but it seems like more and more people just never follow through and that it’s totally fine to waste other peoples time. It’s not.
Hating the other gender, except for boy-/girlfriend. Unless they do something incels/femcels claim all men/women do.
Being racist, fascist, sexist, or all of the above.
Drinking too much.
people pushing their religion into others and making everything about god god god this seems to become more and more normal while they actually belong on an asylum
In most cases talking badly about an ex.
Also being very quick to ‘conform’ totally to a partner’s beliefs and outlooks, political or elsewise. And being ‘supportive’ by being spiteful towards people you don’t get along with. I’m not sure how socially acceptable these are generally when recognized, but they’re very easy not to recognize or take issue with for a myriad of reasons
Just being fucking rude.
The expectation of getting a hot take from everyone about everything based off of scarce information and holding dogmatically to that opinion in spite of new evidence.
Posting every aspect of your life on a public platform. Seriously insane.
“Dating” multiple people at the same time. By “dating” and don’t mean real dating, I mean something that looks like dating, smells like dating and feels like dating, but is not official. Bonus points for ghosting somebody after a third date cause you found somebody better, followed up by “I owe him/her nothing”.
Fascism
Selfishness.
Getting all your relationship advice from Reddit
The Nazi flag
Always needing to take a photo of the table food before eating. 😑
Being a teen parent
An Entrepreneur is just someone who will eventually ask me for money.
Pranking people in a way that’s basically assault for views.
Seriously, go with the rules of pranking and don’t commit crimes doing so.
Talking about your religion in public, especially in regards to politics.
Being mean or rigid as a first response to social interaction.
Donald trump
Getting your significant other to dress up as a school girl
Misanthropy. It’s been common since at least the 90s for people to joke or just say that they hate people, and I’m Gen X so I’m on that wavelength to a certain degree, especially when I was younger, but often I’ve found when you actually get to know people who say that, they’re kind of not kidding. They often tend to be pretty selfish and jaded and hateful even on a non-surface level.
Publicly rating the opposite sex’s appearance from 1-10. Huge red flag and a sign of extreme immaturity.
Taking video or pics of random people in public. Usually because they’re wearing something that is made fun of or using gym equipment wrong or something. I’ve even seen posts where someone took a pic of the screen of someone else’s phone at a baseball game. It’s absolutely insane to me, yet people act like it’s a completely rational thing to do.
It’s not. It’s weird.
Influencer culture. That includes creating content just for likes, expecting things for free because of your follower count, and disrupting public spaces with elaborate set-ups and/or dances.
Signalling their religion with an adjective as a virtue.
(Sorry Christians I am going to use Christianity for this example)
“I am a good Christian” is almost always said before saying/doing something probably against the religion, and therefore they’re only saying it to soften the blow of doing something horrible.
Just as an example: How many heinous criminals have used the defence in court that before they did the crime they lived a “good Christian life” and should probably have a lesser sentence because of that?
“I’m a Christian” however is usually only said by people who have been asked, or it’s come up naturally in conversation.
It’s declaring that it might be something you have to navigate when knowing me, I was just making you aware of it.
And that’s fine. And unobtrusive. And polite.
Filming people who are unaware for social media likes
Unsure exactly what OP means by red flag given the spray of answers but:
child pageants
nonchalance in a relationship, family or friendship
gender wars inflamed by social media, reddit, actual media (issues are bigger than individuals but it takes individuals the change concepts)
blanket opinions i.e. “all x is trash”
saying someone is “one of the good ones”
people who share nudes (without consent) whether it’s celebrity or other.
people who take zero accountability
keyboard warriors
people who hate reading and think it’s gay to eat a banana
Enforcing that your partner isn’t allowed to have friends of the opposite gender
Ghosting
Posting your child’s entire life on social media, making money from it and having very few laws protecting those kids.
There is just documentary after documentary about it. If the labor of the minors was under any other category (filming formal tv, modeling, sports) then children would have so many protections. But monetized social media doesn’t seem to have those restrictions
“I’m such a crazy driver, LOL”
Red hat.
Being an unhealthy kind of obese.
Cheating ….in exam ?
Apparently, lying
At least in the US
Ignoring science and experts in favor of “alternative facts” that favor your viewpoint regardless of how outlandish or absurd.
Weekend alcoholism
Speaking about politics openly in public amongst strangers