More foreplay that is not directly sexual. Kisses on the lips, on the neck, nice words, cuddling with fingers that delicately slide down my neck, back… basically, that everything progresses more slowly to the sexual part. Ngl he is excellent anyway, and I also have a variable character between tender vs wild that even I can’t foresee.
Not much! He’s amazing. Only thing I could say is that I’d like him to talk to me a bit more. Doesn’t have to be dirty talk (although I do like it), he just has such a nice voice. It also helps to keep me present as that’s something I struggle with sometimes. I’ve told him this and he does sometimes but he says he doesn’t know what to say lol
Not much really he is fantastic, I just we both could somehow match our desire for it lol, he somehow loves finishing a long day with some love making while I rather just sleep and there are times in which I want to get busy with him during day time he preffers it at night lol
These comments make me sad because I felt the same way about my ex of six years. Dead bedroom and very, VERY little intimacy in general. It was crushing my soul tbh but my current partner of a year is absolutely amazing in bed and makes sure I am taken care of every single time and I do the same for them and that shit is life changing. Y’all deserve better!!!
Be more vocal. Eat me out more than once every 6 months. Listen and do when I ask him to try something. Less tongue kissing. Kiss and caress my tits more. Actually screw me in my favorite position the way that I want it 😮💨
Sleep well… I sleep great. He doesn’t. It makes me worry about his health (and puts a slight damper on our sex life). I wish I could give him some of my good sleep.
Make some noise moan sigh do something! Let me know what I am doing is working or not. Respond to the stimulus. Don’t be so stoic! I have one constant lover he is really good at pleasing me but when it comes to doing to him what he does to me it is hard to get a reaction…and also while I am at it, also do let me know when you’re going to cum i hate surprises.
Well if you’re foreplay is limited to the bedroom it’s not done right. It should be done hours before, if your partner is not mentally or emotionally engaged you can’t expect a lot
Put me in the position he wants when foreplay is over and it’s time to do the thing. It would be hot if he “manhandled” me a bit more, flipped me over, etc. He used to, but I think he forgot cause manhandling during pregnancy is not happening. This post made me realize I should ask him to do it again. He always just lets me choose the position.
Partner always thinks he’s gonna hurt me when I’m asking for a little roughness. It’s really sweet and I appreciate it but sometimes you just want to be spanked
Take a pause. I often feel like when sex begins, I have to just hold on until the guy finishes. If they stopped and just focused on kissing a bit I’d feel really cared about. And like it’s more about the experience than the finale
MOOOAAAAN!! He’s so god damn quiet he doesn’t let me know at all if my bj is good or not so I’m asking everytime and he nods and just says “yes” lol. It’s getting boring to pleasure him because I have nothing to really go on if its nice or not, if he’s getting close or not? I’ve asked him to though and during sex now I’ve heard him trying to moan a little in my ear but it’s so obvious its just for me hahhahaa but it’s cute tho, he’s trying at least.
Why are men so scared of being vocal, its an amazing release itself.
Slow down. Please don’t go straight to grabbing my boobs like a handsy toddler. Don’t just try to go down on me without any warm up. I want you touching and kissing the rest of my body before my genitals are involved!
Him initiate sex. But it doesn’t matter anymore. Because now I just tease him until he is literally furious lol and make him pound me because I’ve driven him mad 😆 Gotcha Daddy 🥴😮💨
everything is perfect except he won’t look me directly in the eyes for more than 10 seconds. I personally don’t like excessive eye contact in and outside of the bedroom but it made me wonder why he didn’t. when I mentioned it to him he said it would make him finish too quickly if he kept the contact longer than he does.
I wish he could last more than 30 seconds… 😔 His premature ejaculation is really affecting our intimacy, and it’s hard for me because I can’t even express my feelings or sexual frustration without the fear of hurting him deeply. I love him so much, and I know it would crush him… 😔 as a high libido woman it’s soo hard.
I always communicated what I wanted. Sex is the final step for my boring self so by that time, I’m comfortable with everything else. I’d feel extremely vulnerable if I had sex I didn’t find satisfying.
Just make me feel desired. There’s hardly any initiating on his part. When he does, it’s so short lived. Like you can’t last more than 5 minutes? Even when I initiate, he doesn’t last long and I’m rarely fully satisfied.
I rarely get any foreplay. He always gets oral but I never do. I’ve had oral from him a small handful of times. I’m clean and healthy, so I know it isn’t a hygiene thing on my end. This ties into the lack of satisfaction most times. If there was more foreplay, shorter actual sex wouldn’t be as disappointing.
We don’t have sex often anymore either and it’s just… taking a toll kind of =/
Foreplay, talking during sex, and just being rougher overall. He’s a gentleman and I love it any other time, just wish he was more dominant in the bedroom
Nipple play. I love it when he bites, licks, pinches, twists my nips. It’s not like he doesn’t do it, but I wish he did it more because it makes me go crazy. Especially if he pinches them when he’s going down on me… omg. I love it. I actually got nipple clamps for that reason but it’s not quite the same. That being said, not every girl likes nipple play. My sister says that she feels nothing so it’s pointless, my friend says that hers are too sensitive and it hurts, and my other sister is like me and loves it lol.
To everyone who posted a desire. Communicate with your partner. You have nothing to lose but so much pleasure to enjoy. And perfect time to talk to him/her? When you are in the grocery store or out for a walk and holding hands anywhere.
“Honey (insert your own term of endearment) the next time we are intimate together will you please consider ________ ”
Then look into their eyes, smile and whisper “thank you”. And continue on holding hands.
I’ve never had that experience to be honest. I’ve been compatible with the few I’ve been with.
Its important also to guide a Man at the beginning if he isn’t doing something you want him to do and or something you do not like.
It’s also important that he shares it with you…In the BEGINNING.. Not years or months later either.
I think many Women or Men are hesitant about saying/asking for what they want..In fear of being looked at differently and or making the other feel not good enough etc
However every woman is different. Women cannot expect a man to just know.
Men for the most part like to be guided…not in a “do better” type of way..But in a “let me help you to help me get there” type of way.
I know women who call men “awful” in bed..Expecting them to KNOW her off top.
It’s like a map and every woman’s body comes with a new set of directions and destination.
In a marriage that should already be set up and known for sure..
I just don’t understand why it gets so far in and THEN people say they wish this and that.
I mean if the person was one way in the beginning and then they just stopped I can see how that would be frustrating…But in other scenarios closed mouths don’t get fed and a lot of times people take off with the emotions from other areas and ignore the full picture of intimacy hoping itll get better or just settling…while later down the line they’re not satisfied.
It’s pretty crazy.
Fortunately I’ve had extremely dynamite experiences and boy did he do everything good. I don’t want to say he did it “right” because there was no right way. It’s just that he did what was good for him and I. What worked for us.
Eye contact, be in the moment, touch me all over. I want to feel desired just as much as I desire him.
Im learning to properly talk about my feelings but I’m pretty certain I just come off as desperate and it’s a turn off.
I don’t have a lover right now, but I really adore men who take their time with foreplay… like gentle kisses on the lips and neck, soft words whispered close, cuddling while their fingers slowly trace down my neck and back… I love when everything builds up slowly before turning wild. Honestly, I can be so unpredictable too, sometimes sweet and tender, other times completely wild… even I don’t know which side will show up.
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More foreplay that is not directly sexual. Kisses on the lips, on the neck, nice words, cuddling with fingers that delicately slide down my neck, back… basically, that everything progresses more slowly to the sexual part. Ngl he is excellent anyway, and I also have a variable character between tender vs wild that even I can’t foresee.
Not much! He’s amazing. Only thing I could say is that I’d like him to talk to me a bit more. Doesn’t have to be dirty talk (although I do like it), he just has such a nice voice. It also helps to keep me present as that’s something I struggle with sometimes. I’ve told him this and he does sometimes but he says he doesn’t know what to say lol
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not snore or kick
cuddles
Foreplay, finger me, and go down on me. He’s kinda a pillow princess lol!!
Initiation. Foreplay. Oral. Talking me through it. Aftercare that doesn’t just equal him falling asleep on top of me then calling it a day.
Look for me more times.
Initiate
Cuddling, kissing, talking after !!!!!!!!!!
in my relationship im the one tryna keep up to speed,
ever been with the type that goes on chrome tryna find out new uncharted styles?
Sleep
make me finish
Not much really he is fantastic, I just we both could somehow match our desire for it lol, he somehow loves finishing a long day with some love making while I rather just sleep and there are times in which I want to get busy with him during day time he preffers it at night lol
More kissing (everywhere) and make more noises.
Turn the fucking lamp off before passing out and making the bed in the morning
Butthole stuff
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These comments make me sad because I felt the same way about my ex of six years. Dead bedroom and very, VERY little intimacy in general. It was crushing my soul tbh but my current partner of a year is absolutely amazing in bed and makes sure I am taken care of every single time and I do the same for them and that shit is life changing. Y’all deserve better!!!
Not much! He’s wonderful. Dirty talk, I guess? I like it sometimes but he hates the stuff lol
Teasing. When he does do it, it drives me crazy!
Initiate
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Let me sleep? 🤣
Fix the bed in the morning 🙂
I’d really love if one would materialize, to start off
Kisssess. He has a blocked nasal passageway so making out is hard cause he can’t breathe.
Be more vocal. Eat me out more than once every 6 months. Listen and do when I ask him to try something. Less tongue kissing. Kiss and caress my tits more. Actually screw me in my favorite position the way that I want it 😮💨
Clean.
Take the initiative. It’s not just about sex; it’s about feeling loved, desired, and pursued.
Sleep well… I sleep great. He doesn’t. It makes me worry about his health (and puts a slight damper on our sex life). I wish I could give him some of my good sleep.
Make some noise moan sigh do something! Let me know what I am doing is working or not. Respond to the stimulus. Don’t be so stoic! I have one constant lover he is really good at pleasing me but when it comes to doing to him what he does to me it is hard to get a reaction…and also while I am at it, also do let me know when you’re going to cum i hate surprises.
Well if you’re foreplay is limited to the bedroom it’s not done right. It should be done hours before, if your partner is not mentally or emotionally engaged you can’t expect a lot
Have sex with me
Take charge and dom me. I want to be put in sub space, preferably while being safely tied up and suspended.
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Put me in the position he wants when foreplay is over and it’s time to do the thing. It would be hot if he “manhandled” me a bit more, flipped me over, etc. He used to, but I think he forgot cause manhandling during pregnancy is not happening. This post made me realize I should ask him to do it again. He always just lets me choose the position.
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Partner always thinks he’s gonna hurt me when I’m asking for a little roughness. It’s really sweet and I appreciate it but sometimes you just want to be spanked
Initiate
Proposal
Anal she won’t let me near the forbidden fruit lol 🍑
Actually gives me some attention or something. She never focuses on me, I always have to do everything for her :/
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Tell me I’m pretty
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Take a pause. I often feel like when sex begins, I have to just hold on until the guy finishes. If they stopped and just focused on kissing a bit I’d feel really cared about. And like it’s more about the experience than the finale
MOOOAAAAN!! He’s so god damn quiet he doesn’t let me know at all if my bj is good or not so I’m asking everytime and he nods and just says “yes” lol. It’s getting boring to pleasure him because I have nothing to really go on if its nice or not, if he’s getting close or not? I’ve asked him to though and during sex now I’ve heard him trying to moan a little in my ear but it’s so obvious its just for me hahhahaa but it’s cute tho, he’s trying at least.
Why are men so scared of being vocal, its an amazing release itself.
Make the bed and fold laundry
Make me cum.
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Slow down. Please don’t go straight to grabbing my boobs like a handsy toddler. Don’t just try to go down on me without any warm up. I want you touching and kissing the rest of my body before my genitals are involved!
Get down there and don’t come up until I’m ready lol
Him initiate sex. But it doesn’t matter anymore. Because now I just tease him until he is literally furious lol and make him pound me because I’ve driven him mad 😆 Gotcha Daddy 🥴😮💨
Stop rushing everything. It’s not a god damn race.
everything is perfect except he won’t look me directly in the eyes for more than 10 seconds. I personally don’t like excessive eye contact in and outside of the bedroom but it made me wonder why he didn’t. when I mentioned it to him he said it would make him finish too quickly if he kept the contact longer than he does.
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Clean it
More sex overall. Lol. 😂
Actually warm up before foreplay. We’ve been working on it but generally I need to be pretty aroused before he even touches my genitals
Make some noise. I’d like to know if he is enjoying it as much as I am
Act like she’s interested, make a move, take control once in a while.
I wish he could last more than 30 seconds… 😔 His premature ejaculation is really affecting our intimacy, and it’s hard for me because I can’t even express my feelings or sexual frustration without the fear of hurting him deeply. I love him so much, and I know it would crush him… 😔 as a high libido woman it’s soo hard.
Not much, just be more vocal and give me more feedback
I always communicated what I wanted. Sex is the final step for my boring self so by that time, I’m comfortable with everything else. I’d feel extremely vulnerable if I had sex I didn’t find satisfying.
Foreplay and showered more
Eat me out without me having to ask, longer build up of foreplay, dirty talk.
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Let me sleep
Show up, I’m still waiting for her to come in my life.
Slow down! Give edging a try!
Go Down and be more sensual. Also more vocal I don’t know why men hate or are not so expressive.
Just make me feel desired. There’s hardly any initiating on his part. When he does, it’s so short lived. Like you can’t last more than 5 minutes? Even when I initiate, he doesn’t last long and I’m rarely fully satisfied.
I rarely get any foreplay. He always gets oral but I never do. I’ve had oral from him a small handful of times. I’m clean and healthy, so I know it isn’t a hygiene thing on my end. This ties into the lack of satisfaction most times. If there was more foreplay, shorter actual sex wouldn’t be as disappointing.
We don’t have sex often anymore either and it’s just… taking a toll kind of =/
I don’t really have complaints. I just wish he wasn’t so shy about showing his bod. I like looking at him!
Exist…
Go down on me better, like 45 seconds of lizard tonguing my vagina not even on my clit is not foreplay.
Clean it
Aftercare 🥺
We’re always so tired after though but I’d really love more aftercare, cuddle and talking
Eat me out. It’s not every time
Foreplay, talking during sex, and just being rougher overall. He’s a gentleman and I love it any other time, just wish he was more dominant in the bedroom
Moan! Make more noise in general. One sexy growl in my ear and I’m crossing the finish line! 🤤
Nipple play. I love it when he bites, licks, pinches, twists my nips. It’s not like he doesn’t do it, but I wish he did it more because it makes me go crazy. Especially if he pinches them when he’s going down on me… omg. I love it. I actually got nipple clamps for that reason but it’s not quite the same. That being said, not every girl likes nipple play. My sister says that she feels nothing so it’s pointless, my friend says that hers are too sensitive and it hurts, and my other sister is like me and loves it lol.
To everyone who posted a desire. Communicate with your partner. You have nothing to lose but so much pleasure to enjoy. And perfect time to talk to him/her? When you are in the grocery store or out for a walk and holding hands anywhere.
“Honey (insert your own term of endearment) the next time we are intimate together will you please consider ________ ”
Then look into their eyes, smile and whisper “thank you”. And continue on holding hands.
Initiate once in a while
I’ve never had that experience to be honest. I’ve been compatible with the few I’ve been with.
Its important also to guide a Man at the beginning if he isn’t doing something you want him to do and or something you do not like.
It’s also important that he shares it with you…In the BEGINNING.. Not years or months later either.
I think many Women or Men are hesitant about saying/asking for what they want..In fear of being looked at differently and or making the other feel not good enough etc
However every woman is different. Women cannot expect a man to just know.
Men for the most part like to be guided…not in a “do better” type of way..But in a “let me help you to help me get there” type of way.
I know women who call men “awful” in bed..Expecting them to KNOW her off top.
It’s like a map and every woman’s body comes with a new set of directions and destination.
In a marriage that should already be set up and known for sure..
I just don’t understand why it gets so far in and THEN people say they wish this and that.
I mean if the person was one way in the beginning and then they just stopped I can see how that would be frustrating…But in other scenarios closed mouths don’t get fed and a lot of times people take off with the emotions from other areas and ignore the full picture of intimacy hoping itll get better or just settling…while later down the line they’re not satisfied.
It’s pretty crazy.
Fortunately I’ve had extremely dynamite experiences and boy did he do everything good. I don’t want to say he did it “right” because there was no right way. It’s just that he did what was good for him and I. What worked for us.
Eye contact, be in the moment, touch me all over. I want to feel desired just as much as I desire him.
Im learning to properly talk about my feelings but I’m pretty certain I just come off as desperate and it’s a turn off.
I wish he would be more romantic about it instead of jackhammering me every time.
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Exist
Talk to me more, not necessarily dirty talk but just like telling me what he’s doing or what he wants to do ect
Neck and ear kisses😭 Pull me in and hold me!
Finger me from behind … just saw the movie Baby Girl and yeah I want more of that
I don’t have a lover right now, but I really adore men who take their time with foreplay… like gentle kisses on the lips and neck, soft words whispered close, cuddling while their fingers slowly trace down my neck and back… I love when everything builds up slowly before turning wild. Honestly, I can be so unpredictable too, sometimes sweet and tender, other times completely wild… even I don’t know which side will show up.
I don’t have lover, but cuddling after sex and asking my consent.
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