I’m talking about those small, quiet moments that somehow hit harder than any big fight or breakup.
Could be something you overheard, a subtle change in how they looked at you, or a single word that changed the whole dynamic.
What’s a tiny moment in a relationship that told you everything you needed to know?
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I’ll start.
We were watching a movie, and the girl cheated on her boyfriend. He goes, She’s just doing what all women do, I said I had to pee and never came back.
I said ‘I love you’ and she smiled… but didn’t say it back. Not because she forgot. Because she didn’t want to lie.
After taking my wife back. I had let her back into my life and i offered her a hug.
Within 10 min she had restarted all the toxic shit i had shut out 5 weeks ago.
Im certain now.
Its clear.
It may seem stupid by a few Christmas ago told me everything I needed to know about my ex and my family. It was Christmas and the packers were playing on fucking Christmas. My die hard favorite football team was playing. My parents invited me over to their house knowing goddamn well they were playing. Game time comes on and my parents and ex decided that they weren’t gonna watch the game with me. They all my ex included ate in the kitchen while I just sat out in the living room all by myself watching the game. Laughing and enjoying a time without me. They also were upset I wasn’t joining them in the kitchen.
I would have never ever have invited someone over to my house knowing their favorite team was playing and then act like they couldn’t watch their team.
It spoke volumes about what my ex and my family thinks and respects of me. I haven’t spoken to any of them since. It was the straw that broke my back with them all.
Not really subtle, but… getting what they want but it “doesn’t really count” for whatever reason so they get upset with me. Like getting overly drunk at a bar, but it doesn’t really count because other people bought the shots. Or me doing what I was asked to do, but it doesn’t really count because I was asked to do it (Note: we’re talking within two months of being in a new relationship). Really made me feel like nothing I did mattered and made my life a whole lot more depressed during that relationship.
She made me Nachos without me asking for them.
Women that have told me that don’t have a good relationship with their father.
Their reason could be legit but from past experiences they’ve all been drama heavy and have no self accountability.
I’ve let that comment slide and sympathized in the past but every relationship that involved daddy issues have all been headaches. Red flag to me going forward
My ex would make me lunches when I worked a 5 always appreciated them. One day, she’s assembling it’s at she gets a ca, l so I go over to see what I’ll be eati, g and she has a note she wrote herself about my lunch, saying things like
Carrots so he can see me
Chicken for energy
Pudding cause yay
All kinds of things like that I thought it was cute , that she cared so much about. My work lunch
The fact that I’m away with family and he knows how much my dog loves him so he still took her on a walk without even asking me or anything solely communicating with my sister and mom 🥹 – I think that’s adorable or how he just sent in a post card and it hasn’t even been 2 weeks….