Don’t keep score. The moment I stopped counting who did the dishes last or who paid for dinner more often, our relationship became so much more peaceful. Marriage isn’t a competition.
For me, I would have to say being able to take time away from each other without being totally concerned about what the other one is doing. it represents a special kind of trust.
Always look to serve your partner, and it should go both ways. I work my hardest to make sure my partner has a great day everyday. Could be as simple as putting the dishes away. My partner works 60 hours a week, I make sure she always has a hot meal for dinner every night, the laundry is always done and put away for her, she has her favorite snacks available, and the house is picked up.
She does just as much to make sure my day is great too. When she takes my car (her daily driver is a huge work truck) she fills up my gas tank. The bed is always made. She makes sure, despite her busy schedule, we have 1 day a week where we just hang out and do minimal amounts of work.
Be nice. Don’t expend all your mental energy being nice in surface interactions at work and then come home and snipe at your partner. Your partner should be the person you’re nicest to.
Don’t make fun of “belittling” your partner in front of others. Complaining to relatives and friends making fun of your spouse is a shot in the foot that hurts the bond between the couple
Healthy relationships don’t have unspoken rules. They have communication strategies that work for all parties and they come together to resolve miscommunications when they occur.
Not having to constantly ask someone to do the bare minimum. They just do it.
Similar to this comic where the mental load is pushed onto one individual. You see a clean dishwasher and have the time? Just do it. If someone needs to be asked to do basic household chores then that strain on the other person will chip away at them.
Meeting each other where you are at. Some days you are a 10/10, some days you are a 1. The days when you are both at 10/10 are amazing, but the days when you are both treating each other with kindness and care when you are both a 1 are the days that matter.
Who ever your partner bitches about, agree offer equal insults and never repeat what either of you say to anybody.
One of our fav things is to have a good bitch about our friends and family. Helps us to get rid of frustration and makes sure we don’t hold grudges when we see them next.
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Being open and honest about everything, even when it’s uncomfortable.
Don’t shoot the cat!
Well, one of the good parts of a healthy relationship is good communication. So none of the rules should be unspoken.
Don’t keep score. The moment I stopped counting who did the dishes last or who paid for dinner more often, our relationship became so much more peaceful. Marriage isn’t a competition.
Keeping the toilet lid closed.
Stay loyal, if you have any problem with your partner then talk about it…
Just listen to each other
Don’t sweat the small stuff and communication.
Always showing up for your partner. It should be annoying how reliable you are as a partner.
Approach truths with tact and don’t lie
Forgiveness. Lots and lots of forgiveness.
Respecting each other
Trusting one another
For me it’s trust, understanding and letting each other grow.
Not assuming bad intent. If something is unclear, ask instead of jumping to conclusions
being honest with your partner in everything and respecting their boundaries
Communication is a must
For me, I would have to say being able to take time away from each other without being totally concerned about what the other one is doing. it represents a special kind of trust.
Always look to serve your partner, and it should go both ways. I work my hardest to make sure my partner has a great day everyday. Could be as simple as putting the dishes away. My partner works 60 hours a week, I make sure she always has a hot meal for dinner every night, the laundry is always done and put away for her, she has her favorite snacks available, and the house is picked up.
She does just as much to make sure my day is great too. When she takes my car (her daily driver is a huge work truck) she fills up my gas tank. The bed is always made. She makes sure, despite her busy schedule, we have 1 day a week where we just hang out and do minimal amounts of work.
Be nice. Don’t expend all your mental energy being nice in surface interactions at work and then come home and snipe at your partner. Your partner should be the person you’re nicest to.
Don’t make fun of “belittling” your partner in front of others. Complaining to relatives and friends making fun of your spouse is a shot in the foot that hurts the bond between the couple
The answer to this question must be “Yes”: I like me best when I’m with you.
HAVE THE HARD CONVERSATIONS.
Always do the loving thing.
Always assume the best intentions of the other.
Always listen to understand, not just to reply.
Sometimes the most important thing isn’t fixing the problem — it’s making your partner feel heard.
Trust
Healthy relationships don’t have unspoken rules. They have communication strategies that work for all parties and they come together to resolve miscommunications when they occur.
It’s only cheating if you kiss.
Never go to bed angry.
Communication and looking for compromises is important. It can get difficult in a relationship, but you should always be able to resolve stuff.
Communication is NOT everything. No amount of “talking about it” will compensate for a lack of trust and poor intuition.
Not having to constantly ask someone to do the bare minimum. They just do it.
Similar to this comic where the mental load is pushed onto one individual. You see a clean dishwasher and have the time? Just do it. If someone needs to be asked to do basic household chores then that strain on the other person will chip away at them.
Never ask “what’s wrong?” when they’re aggressively cleaning. Just start wiping a surface and apologize for something vaguely emotional.
Open communication and a willingness to understand without playing the blame game are the building blocks of a healthy relationship
Forgiveness, communication. I feel like sex has a big part too. Sex is where everything comes out
Have a discussion before spending a large sum of money
Meeting each other where you are at. Some days you are a 10/10, some days you are a 1. The days when you are both at 10/10 are amazing, but the days when you are both treating each other with kindness and care when you are both a 1 are the days that matter.
Tell the truth.
Who ever your partner bitches about, agree offer equal insults and never repeat what either of you say to anybody.
One of our fav things is to have a good bitch about our friends and family. Helps us to get rid of frustration and makes sure we don’t hold grudges when we see them next.
RESPECTFUL open communication.
effective communication don’t let things remain “unspoken”
Don’t stab each other in the eye.
when you’re mindful of each other’s feelings and always putting them first before you make a decision.
Shit with the door closed.
Idk how it goes for everyone else but we smile and dance a little whenever we cross paths in the house
Fibre. Wholewheat and fibre.
Ironically…. communication
Support each others mental health
It’s not you versus them.
It’s the both of you versus the problem.
Respect your partner as an individual. Just because you’re together doesn’t mean you’re the same person.