So my boyfriend (38 M) suddenly started saying things… after he stated he wanted to take it slow a few months ago. A few days ago he had mentioned he had a dream about a man and a woman discussing having a baby. Then last night when we were hanging out a friend of his mentioned if I was moving towards him. He looked at me and he said maybe soon hopefully. We went to dinner afterwards and during the middle of eating he turned to me and asked about putting a pretend baby in me. I said what? And he said unless you want to try for a real one soon. Later on we were laying down and he mentioned that sooner or later we are going to want something more in life and need to get better jobs and then started talking about moving together and where we would go. This is all out of no where in just a random day… where once before he was talking about taking it slow. He’s been slowly saying these things this week… why all of the sudden? Any takes on this guys?
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He’s seen enough and going after what he wants. His few months of going slow are over
I mean, he is pushing 40. He’s probably just thinking about the future.
Well he was probably talking to someone else but they shot him down so now he is depressed and trying to settle something going on. Could be alot of things maybe his family said stuff to him like when you going to get a serious gf or something.
He had an epiphany, and realized he couldn’t imagine his future without you in it.
We need a timeline. How long have you been dating and what was the elapsed time between wanting to take it slow and then mentioning children?