What’s one thing about dating you wish you figured out way earlier?

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Like, looking back, what’s some dumb mistake you kept making or advice you wish someone just straight-up told you? I’m talking stuff that actually changes how you handle things now, not the usual “be confident” BS.

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  1. Grand_Raccoon0923 Avatar

    Just because they are a good lay, doesn’t mean they will be a good partner.

  2. ADHD-OCDandWEEDZ Avatar

    That if you can dance you just became one of the hottest dudes in room even if you’re not hot at all.

  3. PillsburyToasters Avatar

    When you like someone, not mincing words. Want to be upfront? Say you like them and ask them out on a date. I have a cousin who’s been dragging his feet with this girl for about a month because he’s too scared to say he likes her, ask out on a date, saying the cues or words she’s used are enough, etc. and he’s making things harder as each day or interaction passes

  4. vertrauenswurdig Avatar

    Dating around is not wrong, it doesn’t make you not be a gentleman.

  5. Complete-Elk-9349 Avatar

    Being with the wrong person feels way lonelier than being alone. Learned that one the hard way.

  6. noir_lord Avatar

    Women are just as nervous as men are when it comes to dating – they want it to work just as much.

    Actually be yourself not some idealised version of what you think a man is or worse an idealised version of what you think women want – just be yourself, yeah that’ll mean some don’t find you attractive but the ones who do will really find you attractive.

  7. Confident_Pattern344 Avatar

    “Don’t take their bullshit”. As an introvert, average looking guy, I didn’t get so many chances to date. So when I did, I would accept all kind of behaviors. Took me some time and therapy too to learn to set boundaries.

  8. SkawPV Avatar

    What they say that they want, sometimes isn’t what they want.

  9. luckystrike_bh Avatar

    Don’t get married.

  10. AddictedToMosh161 Avatar

    Effort affects your chances way less than you are told.

  11. RanOutOfJokes Avatar

    There’s something special about that Asian femboy bussy

  12. Hrekires Avatar

    Not taking anything personally early on in the dating process.

    I had a great mental shift when I started viewing first dates as a chance to get to know a new person and nothing more instead of putting all kinds of pressure on myself about finding a relationship.

  13. Wide_Ad_7607 Avatar

    How simple things are

  14. Strange-Ad-2426 Avatar

    Women talk to their friends about you and share EVERYTHING. Whether its good or bad.

  15. iLoveAllTacos Avatar

    I used to care if women liked me or not. Now I couldn’t care less. Now I just go to have fun and if she likes me, great. If she doesn’t like me, that’s great too. The funny thing is, now that I don’t care, women get attached to me way faster than before.