Appreciation. Not sure about other men out there….but I have a demanding job; I do my fair share of work around the house and am an active father of 3 boys. I’m always on the run. But sadly, women just expect this from the men….and rarely express appreciation. On the flip side, if you don’t express continuous appreciation to the women….you are an ahole. In short it’s nice to be appreciated at other times than just Father’s Day. Oh….and surprise BJs are nice too.
I ask for what I need, because women aren’t mind readers. And I don’t date women who are selfish bitches, so it usually works out for the best even when I don’t get everything I want at least nobody is trying to make me feel bad for asking.
Somehow, ( like the NEVER EVER looking in a woman’s purse)
RANT
It seems to be latent: become legendary, the stuff of ‘bro code’…and folklore among my married buddies;
That if you need to ask for one…its already too late…its something they really dont want to do voluntarily….they would have already offered after 9 years……and asking makes it awkward weird and putting a sense of obligation on them.
And there’s seems to be a perception of a dominant submissive thing too….(on your knees his hand on your head erc) That’s a weird power thing for some.
But in actuality, I am at a person’s mercy when they gave me the charge on orally pleasing me!!!! I’m putty in their hands bc I love it so much)
Of course, my buddies and I eat pussy like its our last meal on earth…..mostly for the fact we get to see them enjoy it.
I may be in a vacuum here as I’m not the most assertive guy.
Ladies…do you feel like you gotta take one for the team?
Why (when I’ve been told my cock is great etc etc) have only like 3 out of 20 women ever gobbled me up? Dudes do it to me ALL the time(bi)…and want more repeat fun…..Im spotless clean well shaved and nicely endowed…..so whassup?
To be complimented and praised for what we have done. Authentic words of affirmation. Men desire them but will never ask for them. The more authentic the comment the more it will truly touch them
Some quiet/peaceful time. Surprise with home cooked meals . And just a little time for me once in a while.loving sharing time with SO. But a little time for me to just ponder or work on my truck or go eat a sandwich on park bench.
Safety—even though a lot of times it lies at the core of our emotional avoidance, detachment, and anger. We just want a place where we can be our whole selves without the crushing weight of judgement or consequence.
Man…. I hear about it all the time but I have yet to see it: someone who puts in the same amount of effort. I’m constantly considering the love languages. When I look at my partner’s approach, it never seems equal.
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More alone time
A boat
Money
A threesome with her hot friend.
Porsche 911 GT3 RS
A compliment. Just one is all we need, and we will remember and carry that with us forever.
Love
I read this quote while scrolling…
“Women need to be shown that they’re loved. Men need to shown that they’re appreciated.”
Sounds right to me.
To make sure we’re okay, ask a few times, 1st and 2nd times will be auto response defence.
A gaming chair 😂
A team player with excellent communication skills
Don’t expect us to drastically change.
Peace
Appreciation. Not sure about other men out there….but I have a demanding job; I do my fair share of work around the house and am an active father of 3 boys. I’m always on the run. But sadly, women just expect this from the men….and rarely express appreciation. On the flip side, if you don’t express continuous appreciation to the women….you are an ahole. In short it’s nice to be appreciated at other times than just Father’s Day. Oh….and surprise BJs are nice too.
hug
Empathy and reciprocity
Peace and quiet. My wife hates when I have down time to just have some peace and quiet
I ask for what I need, because women aren’t mind readers. And I don’t date women who are selfish bitches, so it usually works out for the best even when I don’t get everything I want at least nobody is trying to make me feel bad for asking.
Love, support and for the wife to actually act like a wife
A girlfriend.
Empathy, femininity, respect
Honesty
Respect.
Words of affirmation. Women ask for them a lot but men don’t. Even tho we want them just as much. But not “I love you.” More like
“I believe in you.”
“You are a good man.”
“You make me happy.”
“I want to be the mother of your children. Breed me now.”
A blow job.
Somehow, ( like the NEVER EVER looking in a woman’s purse)
RANT
It seems to be latent: become legendary, the stuff of ‘bro code’…and folklore among my married buddies;
That if you need to ask for one…its already too late…its something they really dont want to do voluntarily….they would have already offered after 9 years……and asking makes it awkward weird and putting a sense of obligation on them.
And there’s seems to be a perception of a dominant submissive thing too….(on your knees his hand on your head erc) That’s a weird power thing for some.
But in actuality, I am at a person’s mercy when they gave me the charge on orally pleasing me!!!! I’m putty in their hands bc I love it so much)
Of course, my buddies and I eat pussy like its our last meal on earth…..mostly for the fact we get to see them enjoy it.
I may be in a vacuum here as I’m not the most assertive guy.
Ladies…do you feel like you gotta take one for the team?
Why (when I’ve been told my cock is great etc etc) have only like 3 out of 20 women ever gobbled me up? Dudes do it to me ALL the time(bi)…and want more repeat fun…..Im spotless clean well shaved and nicely endowed…..so whassup?
Compliments. Sometimes a hug. Sometimes some head.
Peace…
Throatjobs
To be complimented and praised for what we have done. Authentic words of affirmation. Men desire them but will never ask for them. The more authentic the comment the more it will truly touch them
Less talking
Butt stuff, toys, lingerie
Loyalty. Kindness.
Honestly one thing i absolutely loved in my last relationship was just getting caressed or even lightly scratched(i may just be a dog)
Sucky sucky
3sums
Thankfully, I’ve never had to ask this of my wife because she is emotionally mature, and we have a strong foundation of trust.
I value having my own space to pursue my own personal interests and friendships without needing to explain every detail.
I couldn’t be with someone who’s constantly checking in out of jealousy or insecurity. That’s not a partnership, that is control.
“To men, romance is a verb, something you do. To women, romance is a noun, something you get”.
The act of being pursued, of being wanted, of being desired. I know of only two women who put in effort in pursuing me and making me feel wanted.
Time to ourselves.
A bit of appreciation from time to time
Some quiet/peaceful time. Surprise with home cooked meals . And just a little time for me once in a while.loving sharing time with SO. But a little time for me to just ponder or work on my truck or go eat a sandwich on park bench.
Safety—even though a lot of times it lies at the core of our emotional avoidance, detachment, and anger. We just want a place where we can be our whole selves without the crushing weight of judgement or consequence.
First generation Optimus Prime toy….
Tickle the area between my balls and asshole when you give me a bj haha
In all seriousness, be a good listener, kind, good at compromising etc.
Being able to lay on her lap, have her play with my hair, and not worry about feeling weak, being called a child, or assuming I want a mother.
Acknowledgement
Reassurance, head scratches, being the little spoon, Acknowledgment.
Tell us when someone flirted with you (this shows us that you trust in us).
To be left alone from time to time.
And as others have said, acknowledgement.
To be left alone occasionally
being shown love in explicit way. You don’t ask for it but you want it.
Fully Paid For Aston Martin DB12
Man…. I hear about it all the time but I have yet to see it: someone who puts in the same amount of effort. I’m constantly considering the love languages. When I look at my partner’s approach, it never seems equal.