What’s one thing someone can do or say on a first date that makes you go: “Yeah, I’m out”?
What’s one thing someone can do or say on a first date that makes you go: “Yeah, I’m out”?
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What’s one thing someone can do or say on a first date that makes you go: “Yeah, I’m out”?
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Talking with a mouthful of food.
he told me he used to be a gambling addict😭😭😭
One time a guy I was seeing started trying to get me to invest into crypto. He seemed so normal at first 😞
Tell me they have or want kids.
Treat servers poorly.
Bad tipping.
Dude tried to correct my grammar mid sentence. Then asked me for weed money when I was leaving.
Start making long-term plans for me and my life that don’t even involve my opinion.
Not just like “Hey, I wanna see you next week.”
But like “So, once you’re pregnant you’ll move into my mom’s house with me, she can get you a job working at her gas station.”
When the only thing they gonna talk about is there exes
Tell me they’re poly.
Tell me they have kids.
Treat the staff with disrespect.
Unicorn hunt.
Talk/text all night.
Too sexual too soon.
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I voted for Trump.
I’m a Republican.
I’m a Nazi.
I hate Jews.
I’m very religious.
I’m against abortions.
Men and females
Be rude to any kind of customer service employee.
When you can tell he was doing text to talk and then you hear him talk on the date…. Not a smart man!
this wasn’t a date but once a guy I was talkin to in the bar went “so yeah I’m a landlord”
He told me that when he travels, he gets on Tinder “just for attention”. Even if he’s in a relationship.
Someone once told me that people who work minimum wage jobs don’t deserve to feed their families. I left immediately.
“I have/want children.” Okay, I wish you well on future endeavours.
It’s usually something out of pocket that I didn’t know would give me the ick until I heard it
Bringing up their ex 😭 why is it so common??
One guy suggested we should go skydiving as a first date. So…. That.
Mention their porn use
Brag about themselves way too much
Smack when they eat
Racist
Listen to Andrew Tate
Vote for Trump
Have poor personal hygiene
Be rude to a server.
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Rude to a server. Demanding of a server. Flirting with a server. Poor tipper. Talks about sec way too soon. Talks about exes
Um on a first date last night the guy showed up very overweight (deceptive photos) and started talking shit about his ex wife, told me he only sees his kids once every two weeks for a few hours and then told me he wasn’t getting his phone fixed until his next paycheck.
Sigh.
When they brag too much or talk too much about themselves. Or over complementing me on my looks. Makes me very uncomfortable.
Conversation level comprehension
Shallowness
Being rude to employees &/or people in general
Smoking
Nails
not rough working hands I mean nails that dont look hygienic
“I’ve already racked up 600hrs of League of Legends this year” (it was early March).
I don’t talk to my kids anymore
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If we don’t share most of the same values or can’t respect each other’s values for one. There’s things I can agree to disagree on and things that can be a deal breaker. For example, I would want to be on the same page about abortion but could respect the other person’s opinions on stuff like LGBT to an extent. So long as we respect each other’s opinions and find a common ground. If we disagree or we can’t reach a mutual understanding, then it’s a sign to me that it can’t work.
Be rude to me and those around us. Respect is a big thing for me and not just of myself. I would want someone who treats everyone with respect, including me. With that in mind, it’s a huge deal breaker if they start over hating on a group of people. I’ll be honest, I don’t like the other side of the political aisle all that much, but I’m not going to go around and express it to the world. I had a friend who did that about my side of the aisle and when I tried to educate, she doubled down. I don’t talk to her much anymore.
Insists that I change things about myself and who makes me feel bad about myself. I have parts of my life, personality, and values that I bring into potential relationships. One fear I always have and most have shown is that those things aren’t always accepted. I’m lucky to currently have a man I’m pursuing who does accept them and me.
I could probably write a book, but these are just a few.
Trying to impress me by talking about bad things they’ve done (because it supposed to make them cool?)
Trying to impress me with any material possessions.
Being disrespectful (not just to me, but anyone)
Trying to jump to sex or intimacy in anyway
Have poor hygiene or a bad breath. I’ve seen both and it is just so bad id you are clean and appreciate good hygiene. Also, being touchy on the first date.
If they talk about their ex the whole time.
“I’m basically divorced.”
Aka his poor wife is at home clueless.
I’m judgy af because I saw how much my mom struggled. My mom walked so I could run lol.
-If he’s late to the date because he’s getting high.
-If texting happened prior to the date, this dude has legitimately no memory of any of these conversations if they’re brought up during the conversation.
-Has a red flag opinion that indicates he’s looking for someone naive to take advantage of.
-Lives with parents but specifically if his relationship with his family is weirdly subservient. In combination with being Machismo. Not a good combo (Living at home is fine. I’m from a culture where people live at home until they’re married.)
-Tries to follow me to the bathroom.
-I’m from California. If I bring this up and if they’re weirdly too intense about politics and making weird assumptions based off where I’m from. Weirdly intense and hostile about it.
-Too sexual too fast.
-Too expensive of a restaurant on the first date. I personally don’t like this too early on in a relationship.
-Can’t really have a conversation with them. Conversation is too one-sided.
-Paranoid af. Like eating at a normal restaurant is a problem.
-The date location is too isolated. No camping. No hiking. No cruises. Etc.
-I get really annoyed if people’s food orders are weirdly complicated and they don’t tip! And they’re rude.
-I have more but I need to spend more time thinking on it.
Lots are already listed but I’m gonna add some:
-Always late. Honestly if they’re more than 10min late on the first day AND they didn’t communicate it ahead of time and instead last min on the actual time we are supposed to meet, I’m leaving.
-judges you. For example, I don’t drink so anyone who judges me for that is out.
-misogynist
-mansplains
-poor listener/doesn’t ask questions and either talks about himself all the time or wants me to be the one to carry the conversation
-looked like they aren’t even trying to dress to impress/looks like a slob. Poor hygiene
-someone who is still figuring out their dating goals when they’re in their 30s or 40s.
-this might be shallow but bad oral hygiene/crooked teeth, very yellow teeth, very dry lips. There’s no way I can even fathom kissing
-if he’s just texting me like a pen pal or bored and not actually taking initiative to plan a date. Goes back to listening, I appreciate if someone listens and then plans a date on what they think I’d like/we both like based on what we talked about and not something completely out left field.
Imagine being asked by a great guy. You have a great date. Great conversation and great food. And he says, “I want 8 kids.”
Negging or voted t-rump.
Smoke
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