Spending too much time together causes you to slowly fall out of love. A healthy relationship needs space. You need to be able to be independent from time to time. You can’t live a life of only relying on each other 24/7
Number 1 is always a lack of communication or poor communication. Every divorce I’ve know all started with that, people just stop talking with eachother. When nobody feels heard they lose interest. Or poor communication where they think arguments are meant to be blow outs and beating the other person. Or being unable to articulate their feelings or not given the chance too.
Lack or communication. I asked you a question at 10:40 and you responded with an unrelated fb video at 11, and ignored my question, now it’s 2:18 with no response (I know you’re a night owl) ? Fuck that lol
And the lack of understanding that friendship is the foundation of a relationship. Not constant excitement, lust, and thrills – it’s impossible to maintain.
Time? Is it really surprising that people who grow and change, whose priorities grown and change, might grow and change in a way that makes a specific relationship no longer suited to them as people? Especially since we’re all individuals it’s a miracle really that anyone keeps a relationship going long-term. Would you at 16 have dated the kind of person you want as a partner at 30? At 18 I was dating men. If I’d gotten married 30 year old me would have had a mess to clean up.
Dishonesty. Taking the other for granted (flirting with others instead of a partner). Lack of safety (lashing out, explosive anger, shifting the blame, hurtful jokes…).
When one partner starts to treat couple activities and day-to-day communication like chores rather than something they want to do with their partner. Nobody wants to feel like attention paid to them is an imposition.
Not the only thing, but this can definitely be a dangerous thing: working through problems without trying to get your partner involved even in the slightest, in the name of being independent or “not being a burden”.
No one has it together 100% all the time. If you try to let your partner in on your “good sides” and avoid sharing any of your weaknesses, you end up being in a relationship while still feeling very alone and isolated.
Trust your partner with the good and bad parts of yourself. As someone who struggles with multiple mental illnesses, I can tell you that people are a lot more warm and accepting than they may seem. Learn to lean on each other and mostly importantly — accept help! It does not make you look weak and it does not make you an inconvenience.
The assumption that you will never fall for other people. So many people don’t get that being in a committed, monogamous relationship means that you agree to not go after your future crushes, because they assume there won’t be any future crushes. But that is not how most people work. I think this is the route cause of a lot of the resentment and cheating that eventually end relationships.
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Jealousy
Dead bedroom
Spending too much time together causes you to slowly fall out of love. A healthy relationship needs space. You need to be able to be independent from time to time. You can’t live a life of only relying on each other 24/7
Unresolved conflict.
Cheating
Talking to other people about the relationship instead of your partner.
Lack of communication
Resentment
Nagging each other.
Too much alcohol
Lying/Dishonesty
Worklife to much extent.
Taking your partner for granted.
Changing priorities. Nothing matters more than the relationship.
Not having those long, deep conversations.
Number 1 is always a lack of communication or poor communication. Every divorce I’ve know all started with that, people just stop talking with eachother. When nobody feels heard they lose interest. Or poor communication where they think arguments are meant to be blow outs and beating the other person. Or being unable to articulate their feelings or not given the chance too.
Women. Lesbians have the highest divorce rate. Gay men have the lowest.
Lack or communication. I asked you a question at 10:40 and you responded with an unrelated fb video at 11, and ignored my question, now it’s 2:18 with no response (I know you’re a night owl) ? Fuck that lol
Ego, apathy, and selfishness.
Second time I’ve answered a question with these exact three words in less than five minutes, but hey, if the shoe fits ..
Dishonesty
one way love.. not reciprocal..
Lies.
And the lack of understanding that friendship is the foundation of a relationship. Not constant excitement, lust, and thrills – it’s impossible to maintain.
Lack of physical intimacy
Porn
Money and cheating are two biggest issues in life and relationships
Time? Is it really surprising that people who grow and change, whose priorities grown and change, might grow and change in a way that makes a specific relationship no longer suited to them as people? Especially since we’re all individuals it’s a miracle really that anyone keeps a relationship going long-term. Would you at 16 have dated the kind of person you want as a partner at 30? At 18 I was dating men. If I’d gotten married 30 year old me would have had a mess to clean up.
Betrayal of any sort, lack of consideration and lack of effort.
Complacency. You stop DATING your partner.
Lack of emotional intelligence
Unhealed wounds
Lack of communication
Lashing out all the time
Not putting any effort
the woman talking day and night.
Lack of effort, affection and libido. These three in combination slowly, kill a relationship.
Lack of passion, when you start treating your partner as more of a friend or roommate than what they actually are.
miscommunication
Distance.
Alcohol
Entitlement and expectation
Complacency. Don’t take your partner for granted.
Contempt
Insecure attachment.
Studies have shown that the answer is usually contempt
People being too proud to say sorry. Didn’t know that was a skill, but apparently it is since nobody says it.
Lack of trust
Constant lies. It keeps going downhill.
Hiding or being ashamed of kink or fetishes.
Lack of communication – in anything.
Arguments, family conflicts, even just not talking to one another enough hurts relationships.
Lie, lack of dialogue
Boredom
Starting them.
Assuming a marriage just runs itself
Jealousy
Dishonesty. Taking the other for granted (flirting with others instead of a partner). Lack of safety (lashing out, explosive anger, shifting the blame, hurtful jokes…).
Narcissism
Thinking the other person can read your mind when they are just trying to live. Speak up!
Time.
When one partner starts to treat couple activities and day-to-day communication like chores rather than something they want to do with their partner. Nobody wants to feel like attention paid to them is an imposition.
When your wife always yells at you.
Not the only thing, but this can definitely be a dangerous thing: working through problems without trying to get your partner involved even in the slightest, in the name of being independent or “not being a burden”.
No one has it together 100% all the time. If you try to let your partner in on your “good sides” and avoid sharing any of your weaknesses, you end up being in a relationship while still feeling very alone and isolated.
Trust your partner with the good and bad parts of yourself. As someone who struggles with multiple mental illnesses, I can tell you that people are a lot more warm and accepting than they may seem. Learn to lean on each other and mostly importantly — accept help! It does not make you look weak and it does not make you an inconvenience.
Jealousy.
The assumption that you will never fall for other people. So many people don’t get that being in a committed, monogamous relationship means that you agree to not go after your future crushes, because they assume there won’t be any future crushes. But that is not how most people work. I think this is the route cause of a lot of the resentment and cheating that eventually end relationships.