What’s one thing that slowly destroys most relationships?

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What’s one thing that slowly destroys most relationships?

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  1. bread0998 Avatar

    Spending too much time together causes you to slowly fall out of love. A healthy relationship needs space. You need to be able to be independent from time to time. You can’t live a life of only relying on each other 24/7

  2. lanaaa_v Avatar

    Unresolved conflict.

  3. imgonnagetyoub4ck Avatar

    Talking to other people about the relationship instead of your partner.

  4. HerpinDerpNerd12 Avatar

    Lack of communication

  5. cebogs Avatar

    Nagging each other.

  6. Red-Stone-1990 Avatar

    Too much alcohol

  7. pepnme Avatar

    Lying/Dishonesty

  8. TruthApprehensive563 Avatar

    Worklife to much extent.

    Taking your partner for granted.

    Changing priorities. Nothing matters more than the relationship.

    Not having those long, deep conversations.

  9. RoleplayforMore Avatar

    Number 1 is always a lack of communication or poor communication. Every divorce I’ve know all started with that, people just stop talking with eachother. When nobody feels heard they lose interest. Or poor communication where they think arguments are meant to be blow outs and beating the other person. Or being unable to articulate their feelings or not given the chance too.

  10. pyintheface Avatar

    Women. Lesbians have the highest divorce rate. Gay men have the lowest.

  11. Royal_Balance_1869 Avatar

    Lack or communication. I asked you a question at 10:40 and you responded with an unrelated fb video at 11, and ignored my question, now it’s 2:18 with no response (I know you’re a night owl) ? Fuck that lol

  12. Feck-It-All Avatar

    Ego, apathy, and selfishness.

    Second time I’ve answered a question with these exact three words in less than five minutes, but hey, if the shoe fits ..

  13. jjopm Avatar

    Dishonesty

  14. markahooper Avatar

    one way love.. not reciprocal..

  15. Few-Flower3255 Avatar

    Lies.

    And the lack of understanding that friendship is the foundation of a relationship. Not constant excitement, lust, and thrills – it’s impossible to maintain.

  16. Woody-2nd Avatar

    Lack of physical intimacy

  17. Bright-Invite-9141 Avatar

    Money and cheating are two biggest issues in life and relationships

  18. PotatoGirl39 Avatar

    Time? Is it really surprising that people who grow and change, whose priorities grown and change, might grow and change in a way that makes a specific relationship no longer suited to them as people? Especially since we’re all individuals it’s a miracle really that anyone keeps a relationship going long-term. Would you at 16 have dated the kind of person you want as a partner at 30? At 18 I was dating men. If I’d gotten married 30 year old me would have had a mess to clean up.

  19. Safe_Scientist8378 Avatar

    Betrayal of any sort, lack of consideration and lack of effort.

  20. Other_Marzipan8966 Avatar

    Complacency. You stop DATING your partner.

  21. Meli-Honey-Be-Noble Avatar

    Lack of emotional intelligence

  22. Amazing-Beeh Avatar

    Unhealed wounds

  23. Spiritual-Example813 Avatar

    Lack of communication

    Lashing out all the time

    Not putting any effort

  24. milo16web Avatar

    the woman talking day and night.

  25. ruxpin82 Avatar

    Lack of effort, affection and libido. These three in combination slowly, kill a relationship.

  26. Bay_catloverB1 Avatar

    Lack of passion, when you start treating your partner as more of a friend or roommate than what they actually are.

  27. JNorJT Avatar

    miscommunication

  28. GristlyBillow Avatar

    Entitlement and expectation

  29. tc6x6 Avatar

    Complacency. Don’t take your partner for granted.

  30. Similar-Humor3824 Avatar

    Insecure attachment.

  31. prettylemontoast Avatar

    Studies have shown that the answer is usually contempt

  32. cheesemedo Avatar

    People being too proud to say sorry. Didn’t know that was a skill, but apparently it is since nobody says it.

  33. dcrpnd Avatar

    Constant lies. It keeps going downhill.

  34. Illustrious_Spray215 Avatar

    Hiding or being ashamed of kink or fetishes.

  35. General_Writer7556 Avatar

    Lack of communication – in anything.

    Arguments, family conflicts, even just not talking to one another enough hurts relationships.

  36. imaginacaoeansiedade Avatar

    Lie, lack of dialogue

  37. Harris-Hawk Avatar

    Assuming a marriage just runs itself

  38. Unhappy-Common9879 Avatar

    Dishonesty. Taking the other for granted (flirting with others instead of a partner). Lack of safety (lashing out, explosive anger, shifting the blame, hurtful jokes…).

  39. sowdirect Avatar

    Thinking the other person can read your mind when they are just trying to live. Speak up!

  40. loomneedleandhook Avatar

    When one partner starts to treat couple activities and day-to-day communication like chores rather than something they want to do with their partner. Nobody wants to feel like attention paid to them is an imposition.

  41. Heselwood Avatar

    When your wife always yells at you.

  42. woofwoofbarkbarkgrr Avatar

    Not the only thing, but this can definitely be a dangerous thing: working through problems without trying to get your partner involved even in the slightest, in the name of being independent or “not being a burden”.

    No one has it together 100% all the time. If you try to let your partner in on your “good sides” and avoid sharing any of your weaknesses, you end up being in a relationship while still feeling very alone and isolated.

    Trust your partner with the good and bad parts of yourself. As someone who struggles with multiple mental illnesses, I can tell you that people are a lot more warm and accepting than they may seem. Learn to lean on each other and mostly importantly — accept help! It does not make you look weak and it does not make you an inconvenience.

  43. KingJayVII Avatar

    The assumption that you will never fall for other people. So many people don’t get that being in a committed, monogamous relationship means that you agree to not go after your future crushes, because they assume there won’t be any future crushes. But that is not how most people work. I think this is the route cause of a lot of the resentment and cheating that eventually end relationships.