The opinions of others. In my teens and early twenties it was definitely something I cared about. As live went on, I realized it was damaging my mental health and really dragging me down and limiting my experiences in this lifetime.
Politics. I was really active in politics in college but as I got older I didn’t have the mental or physical energy to deal with all the bullshit surrounding it. It’s a full time job to try and figure out what someone’s position on something actually is. And it doesn’t seem to matter anymore because it seems like the voice of the people is gone. That may be a fatalistic view but it is what it is
Top secret UFO conspiracies. Shit or get off the pot. I’m over these documentaries and whistle-blower hearings. Land on the lawn or don’t. Can’t bother thinking about it anymore.
Money. I mean, I guess I still do but I view it differently. When I was young, I always had multiple jobs on the go. Working every hour possible. Only goal to make more and more money. My parents genuinely believe that money is the key to happiness. They are pretty well off, upper middle class to wealthy. But they are never satisfied. Always complaining that they aren’t millionaires and dreaming about winning lotto one day. Despite having a nice house with no mortgage, driving brand new cars and going on international holidays several times a year. If you ask them about money, they will complain about how poor they are. I grew up believing nothing was ever enough. That I had to make millions. I’m now a high school teacher. I make a comfortable living. I have a nice house and I can do the things I enjoy and I’ve realised, it’s enough. I’m happy. What I really value now is my free time and experiences with people I love. I even recently gave up a leadership role and took a massive pay cut because I just think my time is so much more valuable now.
Game consoles. Used to really care which one was the best selling. Now I don’t care and just play older games because I haven’t been bothered to buy a PS5 yet
I used to be a really hardcore Democrat until I realized that most Americans aren’t really 100% Democrat or Republican but our country makes us pick a side every 4 years, so most of us don’t educate ourselves on actual political theories. Learning about the intricacies of politics made me realize that I don’t really fit into either major US party, the parties and how they function are completely ridiculous, and what Americans call “right” and “left”, politically, are both pretty much middle-right.
It’s also kinda pointless to act like the president individually has all the power. Let’s be real, y’all don’t give a fuck about your state level politicians but they dictate more of your lives than the president ever will. Especially if you live in a swing state like I do.
My weight- as long as I’m not severely underweight/obese, idc. I just want to be healthy enough, and frankly calorie counting and weighing EVERY LITTLE THING isn’t a life I wanna live anymore. Idc if I’m a bit heavier now, I missed tikka masala with rice and naan bread and cookie dough (and yes ik you can have those foods and still be skinny, but I have a big appetite and quite literally lose my period if I get below 140ish pounds).
Being republican / evangelical Christian. I’m still a Christian, but a lot more liberal/socialist these days. To sum up: “i just want to smoke weed, shoot fireworks, and wish the two fellas next door a happy honeymoon”
That my house is spotless. You’d of thought I was awaiting a pending white glove inspection. Now? Live alone and don’t give a shit. It’s clean and orderly, just not spotless. So happy…..
Used to be active across all platforms trying to stay in touch with people. Found it too exhausting to sustain and ended up vanishing from all socials except WhatsApp and Reddit.
I’ll answer that question but not like this. Can you tell me how or if its possible to speak to someone with cancer with my microphone? Just so I can talk.
Drug addiction. I’ve been clean for 20 years, and I’m incredibly proud of that. It took everything I had to get here, and protecting my peace is my top priority. I have no interest in sponsoring or supporting others through their journey and it’s not because I don’t care, but because I’ve given enough to this fight. I respect anyone still in it, but I’ve earned the right to live without being pulled back into that world. I hope others find their own strength, just like I had to find mine. Their weight isn’t on my shoulders.
I grew up with a mom that always wanted and encouraged a strong opinion of a subject. It was helpful to think about both sides and formulate a conclusion, but the older I get, the less my option matters or do I care. The vast majority of topics are NONE OF MY BUSINESS. For example I’ve been asked about BLM and Trans issues. I’m a cis white man. So my option is worthless and unnecessary.
I used to love having and wearing fashion trend, designer bags, luxury skin care, sunglasses, etc. it means nothing to me now. Who was I trying to impress? Who cares? The products weren’t necessarily better or lasted longer. I wish I had all the stupid money I wasted. I’d use it to better others….homeless, dogs, etc.
I grew up a huge fan of the zombie genre. When The Walking Dead came out, I felt like there was a show made just for me. I loved it. Right up until I didn’t. I realized I wasn’t having fun, and I didn’t care. It might be the most amazing show these days (doubtful), but I’ll never know because I turned it off one day and never so much as googled to see if it was still on as I’m typing this.
What people think about my looks, clothes, car, etc. I don’t give a shit if you think I’m poor because I wear clothes from a thrift store or because I drive a beater or because I use Android. Whoopty doo.
A home. I used to want to own a nice house to be proud of and call home. Now as long as there’s a roof and is mostly functional I’m calling it good enough.
My brother marrying someone who trapped him into marriage by getting pregnant. Someone who had addiction issues and mental health problems. Someone who we all thought was not good enough for him. I used to really be protective of him and his little kids. Then I stopped once I had my kids. I could not worry about them any longer.
Whether its a board game or a workout, enjoying it for the sheer action/process of learning and doing rather than valuing activities based off what outcome I felt I was most likely to achieve.
If people liked me or not, it consumed me for the first 30 years of my life, always watched my P’s and Q’s, what I wore how I acted, who I talked to now I give no shits if you like me or not, took a new relationship for me to get that way. My partner is a very don’t give a shit person and I think that’s rubbed off on me plus I still live where I grew up and seeing those bitches that used to make fun of me have dumpster fires of lives, makes me think that I wasn’t the issue in the first place.
What people think of me. Or rather, what I thought people may think of me. Took me a few years to realise that most people are too self absorbed to think about others.
My exhusband. The serial cheating used to make me want to hit him with my car. After much deliberation, I know that he’s too much of a POS for karma not to do her thing.
Going to the movies. In my 20s in grad school I went at least once a week. Now I am WELL outside anyone’s target audience. I also just do not like how most movies look these days
Myself. That’s changing again but I don’t know when it happened but I just stopped caring. I’ll have a shave etcetera and I’m never smelly but I just stopped caring about health, fitness and the biggest one, will. My willpower was legendary. I’ve been on a say yes to everything even bad things. I recently had a massive breakdown and it’s entirely because I gave up on myself.
It’s changing again and I’m at the bottom but there’s nothing below me.
If people replied to text messages. Some people just wouldn’t reply, ever. I’d have asked them how they were or something and just pure ignorance. It used to really piss me off but now I couldn’t give a shit!
Comments
myself
Friends
Everyone else around me.
Peoples feelings
Damn I really can’t think of anything. This really made me think.
life
My ex lol
Religion. Other people’s opinions of me.
My fricken job
Being right.
Reddit karma.
Oh wait, I never cared about that…
Politics
Politics
The fat content of butter
If men thought I was pretty.
Don’t give a shit anymore.
My husband
Almosteverything
NCAA basketball and football. No College Athletics Anymore
Men
Other people
The opinions of others. In my teens and early twenties it was definitely something I cared about. As live went on, I realized it was damaging my mental health and really dragging me down and limiting my experiences in this lifetime.
Being right.
Caring about what other people think of me. Which SOME people have issue with
Finding love
How people view me
My job 🙁
Religion. I was super devote then kind of woke up one day and just said fuck it.
Politics. I was really active in politics in college but as I got older I didn’t have the mental or physical energy to deal with all the bullshit surrounding it. It’s a full time job to try and figure out what someone’s position on something actually is. And it doesn’t seem to matter anymore because it seems like the voice of the people is gone. That may be a fatalistic view but it is what it is
What other people think.
Don’t…give…a…fuuuuuuck!!!
My social life I still care but not as much lol.
Myself.
Sportsball. Just don’t have the time anymore.
Politics, society in general
Top secret UFO conspiracies. Shit or get off the pot. I’m over these documentaries and whistle-blower hearings. Land on the lawn or don’t. Can’t bother thinking about it anymore.
Buying drugs
How people see me
Anything.
Apathy will set you free!
Politics
Most of my hobbies and interests.
Politics lol
Playing the piano, being musical and artistic in general, fuck depreshun
Money. I mean, I guess I still do but I view it differently. When I was young, I always had multiple jobs on the go. Working every hour possible. Only goal to make more and more money. My parents genuinely believe that money is the key to happiness. They are pretty well off, upper middle class to wealthy. But they are never satisfied. Always complaining that they aren’t millionaires and dreaming about winning lotto one day. Despite having a nice house with no mortgage, driving brand new cars and going on international holidays several times a year. If you ask them about money, they will complain about how poor they are. I grew up believing nothing was ever enough. That I had to make millions. I’m now a high school teacher. I make a comfortable living. I have a nice house and I can do the things I enjoy and I’ve realised, it’s enough. I’m happy. What I really value now is my free time and experiences with people I love. I even recently gave up a leadership role and took a massive pay cut because I just think my time is so much more valuable now.
Star Wars
What people think. Even though I never fully did
Watching and following football.
finding love – i’ve decided it’s overrated
Make up
My career
What people think about me
climbing the corporate ladder
What other people think. I’m 66 and I came to the conclusion that it is time to put that insecurity away.
Politics. So freeing to just not give a shit about it.
Game consoles. Used to really care which one was the best selling. Now I don’t care and just play older games because I haven’t been bothered to buy a PS5 yet
Myself 🤦🏾♀️
US elections
I used to be a really hardcore Democrat until I realized that most Americans aren’t really 100% Democrat or Republican but our country makes us pick a side every 4 years, so most of us don’t educate ourselves on actual political theories. Learning about the intricacies of politics made me realize that I don’t really fit into either major US party, the parties and how they function are completely ridiculous, and what Americans call “right” and “left”, politically, are both pretty much middle-right.
It’s also kinda pointless to act like the president individually has all the power. Let’s be real, y’all don’t give a fuck about your state level politicians but they dictate more of your lives than the president ever will. Especially if you live in a swing state like I do.
Seeing a doctor when I was sick. Haven’t been in over a year because they do the same thing every time
Achievements.
Video games
My weight- as long as I’m not severely underweight/obese, idc. I just want to be healthy enough, and frankly calorie counting and weighing EVERY LITTLE THING isn’t a life I wanna live anymore. Idc if I’m a bit heavier now, I missed tikka masala with rice and naan bread and cookie dough (and yes ik you can have those foods and still be skinny, but I have a big appetite and quite literally lose my period if I get below 140ish pounds).
The Academy Awards. Used to be a gauge of where the pop culture zeitgeist was at. Now I don’t really give a shit.
Pro sports tbh
America, after they chose a child r*pist and felon… I can’t wait to see it fall rapidly, and I live here.
My education. I don’t know why I bothered, I always wanted to be a mom. 🙃
Being republican / evangelical Christian. I’m still a Christian, but a lot more liberal/socialist these days. To sum up: “i just want to smoke weed, shoot fireworks, and wish the two fellas next door a happy honeymoon”
That my house is spotless. You’d of thought I was awaiting a pending white glove inspection. Now? Live alone and don’t give a shit. It’s clean and orderly, just not spotless. So happy…..
drawing perfectly neat lineart
Life
My organization/company.
Politics. Please follow me
Lead.
Ugh that others around me thought I was a good mom. It was a competition or something 😫now I’m older and I really don’t care
Being a vegan
Social life.
Used to be active across all platforms trying to stay in touch with people. Found it too exhausting to sustain and ended up vanishing from all socials except WhatsApp and Reddit.
Time and pressure makes a diamond! 💎
My ex.
I’ll answer that question but not like this. Can you tell me how or if its possible to speak to someone with cancer with my microphone? Just so I can talk.
People
Making other people understand that I’m right. I’m still right, but now I’m content to just let them be wrong
Politics. Too tired for that shit
Drug addiction. I’ve been clean for 20 years, and I’m incredibly proud of that. It took everything I had to get here, and protecting my peace is my top priority. I have no interest in sponsoring or supporting others through their journey and it’s not because I don’t care, but because I’ve given enough to this fight. I respect anyone still in it, but I’ve earned the right to live without being pulled back into that world. I hope others find their own strength, just like I had to find mine. Their weight isn’t on my shoulders.
What people thought of me and making others happy even at my own expense.
I grew up with a mom that always wanted and encouraged a strong opinion of a subject. It was helpful to think about both sides and formulate a conclusion, but the older I get, the less my option matters or do I care. The vast majority of topics are NONE OF MY BUSINESS. For example I’ve been asked about BLM and Trans issues. I’m a cis white man. So my option is worthless and unnecessary.
I used to love having and wearing fashion trend, designer bags, luxury skin care, sunglasses, etc. it means nothing to me now. Who was I trying to impress? Who cares? The products weren’t necessarily better or lasted longer. I wish I had all the stupid money I wasted. I’d use it to better others….homeless, dogs, etc.
Social media. It’s nothing but a distraction to shift focus away from our swiftly crumbling society.
Being liked by everyone
FOMO, used to be a real thing back in college / high school days, could care less now what other people do and whether or not I’m invited
Nanci
Religion
How I dressed.
These days, if it fits me and it’s clean, I’ll wear it.
Living
Trying to fit in with what society and conventional people want.
I grew up a huge fan of the zombie genre. When The Walking Dead came out, I felt like there was a show made just for me. I loved it. Right up until I didn’t. I realized I wasn’t having fun, and I didn’t care. It might be the most amazing show these days (doubtful), but I’ll never know because I turned it off one day and never so much as googled to see if it was still on as I’m typing this.
What other people think of me. I genuinely don’t care at all.
What people think about my looks, clothes, car, etc. I don’t give a shit if you think I’m poor because I wear clothes from a thrift store or because I drive a beater or because I use Android. Whoopty doo.
Everything.
Coming off as straight and neurotypical for my family
Writing professionally.
There are too many problems within the industry for anyone to consider a career in writing, at any level.
I only write for myself now.
Pokémon Go
People
People
The concept of being forgotten after I die. It used to really freak me out, now I couldn’t care less
What people think.
Celebrity gossip. I used to subscribe to all the magazines and know it all and now I don’t care and barely know anyone’s name
My ex 😂
Watching TV. I’ve got better things to do with my time.
Always being right.
Living lmao
A home. I used to want to own a nice house to be proud of and call home. Now as long as there’s a roof and is mostly functional I’m calling it good enough.
me 😔
BLM movement
People’s views and opinions that disagree with mine.
Looking presentable
My brother marrying someone who trapped him into marriage by getting pregnant. Someone who had addiction issues and mental health problems. Someone who we all thought was not good enough for him. I used to really be protective of him and his little kids. Then I stopped once I had my kids. I could not worry about them any longer.
Leaving the house looking like I’m off to Paris Fashion Week. Nowadays it’s more like Adam Sandler.
Physical books. I still read but now I borrow ebooks from the library instead of having my shelves constantly overflowing.
Making new friends.
Humanity in general.
My popularity….don’t give a rat’s ass now
Winning.
Whether its a board game or a workout, enjoying it for the sheer action/process of learning and doing rather than valuing activities based off what outcome I felt I was most likely to achieve.
dying
Politics. Nihilism, apathy, and inertia won.
I used to care about how much water I used, and how much plastic waste I generated.
If I smell in public or not
If people liked me or not, it consumed me for the first 30 years of my life, always watched my P’s and Q’s, what I wore how I acted, who I talked to now I give no shits if you like me or not, took a new relationship for me to get that way. My partner is a very don’t give a shit person and I think that’s rubbed off on me plus I still live where I grew up and seeing those bitches that used to make fun of me have dumpster fires of lives, makes me think that I wasn’t the issue in the first place.
Eating healthily.
Flip the question. What’s one thing you used not care about, but now care deeply about?
Music sadly….
Sports
What people think of me. Or rather, what I thought people may think of me. Took me a few years to realise that most people are too self absorbed to think about others.
My exhusband. The serial cheating used to make me want to hit him with my car. After much deliberation, I know that he’s too much of a POS for karma not to do her thing.
My Height,
Made peace with it
Going to the movies. In my 20s in grad school I went at least once a week. Now I am WELL outside anyone’s target audience. I also just do not like how most movies look these days
Love Live
Myself. That’s changing again but I don’t know when it happened but I just stopped caring. I’ll have a shave etcetera and I’m never smelly but I just stopped caring about health, fitness and the biggest one, will. My willpower was legendary. I’ve been on a say yes to everything even bad things. I recently had a massive breakdown and it’s entirely because I gave up on myself.
It’s changing again and I’m at the bottom but there’s nothing below me.
If people replied to text messages. Some people just wouldn’t reply, ever. I’d have asked them how they were or something and just pure ignorance. It used to really piss me off but now I couldn’t give a shit!
The Catholic Church
People’s opinion about me
My ex wife
What my family thinks of my life choices
The feelings of transgender people. Fed up of denying fucking reality any longer.