The “FOMO” culture of people thinking there will always be someone even better out there.
I don’t know if it’s social media, dating apps, or what but I’ve seen plenty of promising relationships end too soon because person A is concerned that person B is not completely picture perfect right away, so leaves from anxiety that staying with this person means missing someone even better.
You need to learn how to communicate with your partner, and your partner specifically. We all have different patterns and habits and preferences when it comes to communicating.
I think one of the biggest communication issues happens when people try to shift blame instead of taking accountability. Without accountability, you cannot apologize for your wrongdoing, and therefore can’t really make up for the hurt you caused.
Learn to have those difficult conversations. None of us are perfect, and it takes cooperation to find balance.
Expecting everything while giving nothing, social media, toxic single friends, “grass is greener on the other side” yeah because you’re not watering your own side dumbass
Too much exposure like sobra sobra na yung information na nailalabas sa social media’s. Kahit nga hindi too much I’d rather be in a secret relationship. Also ako lang ba but too much exposure talaga ruins everything, like parang may kung anong magnet na nanghahatak ng negative vibe pag nag fflex or even just posting your date pictures with your partner, like my negative na mangyayari.
Having incredibly important conversations via text that should 100% be taking place face to face. People will say SOOO many things via text they would never have the balls to say in person. Plus the chance that a text will be misconstrued due to the lack of vocal inflection..
Social media expectations, dating apps because it’s made people seem like they have more options and treat people disposable and poor/unhealthy communication.
Before, you were obligated to marry someone and to stay with them for “better or worse”. Nowadays, our culture encourages the idea that we’re free to leave someone if we don’t like even the smallest flaw. I see this situation as the result of our new “freedoms”
social media puts a heavy emphasis on conformity to a certain set of aesthetics, and I think that a person not conforming to the performance of it all can lead others to discount an otherwise healthy relationship
Social media, hands down. Makes it seem like relationships are easy to come by. Makes it look like everyone has a perfect relationship except you. Makes it incredibly easy to interact with other possibilities outside the relationship.
The lack of choosing each other.
Every action is a choice and those choices often communicate something. They could communicate “I care for you and you’re important” or they could communicate “I couldn’t care less about you and your needs”
Great question. Afaik it’s toxic narcissism. People who have one set of rules for themselves and expectations for the other, and no flexibility. They pretend to be one person while hiding their real self while denying they’re doing that when called out. It has reached a social tipping point and we can all talk about it together. Those who are the target of these people know they are not alone.
The mentality that the person you seek must have their life together already. They must have a job, must have the qualities of a partner, etc. There is no building within a relationship anymore. It’s like everything must be pre-packaged so that you don’t have to deal with the hassle. Nobody wants to build anymore.
Poor conflict resolution skills. Insecure attachment. Love/dopamine addiction. Minimal self awareness & accountability. Poor ability to connect in the variety of ways require for healthy romance. Placing unreasonable expectations on the other. Black and white processing…
I like to think people are trying their best, but holy fuck do most people suck at being human
What I mean is, people take everything at face-value and immediately judge any real elements to relationships by sorting things into categories of good or bad without any room for complexity . They don’t care to consider things beyond the idealistic image of relationships we’ve all been fed by social media.
For example, the idea of “if he wanted to he would” and if he doesn’t then he doesn’t love you. Pretty fucked. Imagine expecting mind reading or nothing as a “standard”.
Once I stopped giving a fuck about all the standards and shit online and put more care & effort into what my relationship specifically needs to do well, my boyfriend and I began to thrive together.
I had a 4 leave me (a 9,not kidding)without telling me why lol. All I wanted to be was friends bc she seemed to be a genuine, down to earth girl with similar interests to me and she didn’t even want that lol. Could be bc I nagged her about buying XRP at $0.50, but idk how you could leave someone for giving you the best roi available at the time.
Poverty. A lot of families, friendships, romantic partners, and marriages cannot withstand the stress and schedule caused by the cost of living across many nations.
Trust. Without trust, love feels unsafe, communication gets filtered, and doubt replaces peace. Most people today struggle to give or earn it because of past wounds, distractions, and lack of real accountability.
I’m gonna say politics, and I mean that in the most general sense, and extends to around the globe. I think we as a species are more divided politically than ever before and that will naturally affect relationships when partners, friends, or family butt heads on an issue that is either new or takes on a new form. Usually the catalyst for the end of a relationship will be around a social issue where both have conflicting views and are passionate about their views.
This can be something that is considered a big issue or something smaller but regardless it affects things because of the passion people have. (You could argue we are also more passionate about our politics than most times in history, to the point where relationships become ruined.)
Just my two cents. You could argue it’s certain issues, parties, demographics, etc. but I think it’s the politics at the end of the day. Even nonpolitical people are political about SOMETHING and all it takes is for their partner, friend, or family to passionately disagree about that issue for problems to arise.
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relationships themselves. let’s be honest, they are pointless and only cause pain.
The “FOMO” culture of people thinking there will always be someone even better out there.
I don’t know if it’s social media, dating apps, or what but I’ve seen plenty of promising relationships end too soon because person A is concerned that person B is not completely picture perfect right away, so leaves from anxiety that staying with this person means missing someone even better.
Social media.
Options
Having arguments over text instead of in person or over the phone.
Lack of healthy communication.
You need to learn how to communicate with your partner, and your partner specifically. We all have different patterns and habits and preferences when it comes to communicating.
I think one of the biggest communication issues happens when people try to shift blame instead of taking accountability. Without accountability, you cannot apologize for your wrongdoing, and therefore can’t really make up for the hurt you caused.
Learn to have those difficult conversations. None of us are perfect, and it takes cooperation to find balance.
No real commitment with the “swipe then on to the next” mentality
poor communication
fear as the root cause. It branches out to lack of authenticity, unworthiness, impatience, anger and the list of shadows seem endless.
sex doesn’t mean much in hook up culture anymore
deranged unrealistic expectations
Living too long.
Getting into a relationship for the sake of it / fear of being single.
lack of boundaries
Drinking. Trump.
Expecting everything while giving nothing, social media, toxic single friends, “grass is greener on the other side” yeah because you’re not watering your own side dumbass
Cheating and the capacity to cheat freely
Communication
I asked my mom what a couple was, she said two or three, no wonder they split up.
Selfishness
Comparison
Social media and lack of actual human to human contact.
Immature people who want everything instantly, and have no idea about delayed gratification. Also, no respect for others.
Trust issues
Hookup culture cheating using others for personal gain fake love
Dishonesty.
Lack of communication.
Lack of compromise.
Families butting in 😒
Social media. Everyone wants someone else.
Lack of commitment.
Addiction.
Lack of real communication and too many unrealistic expectations.
Porn and social media
Orbiters
Gender equality. The idea that genders should be the same in all aspects is utterly absurd
Lack of loyalty
Social Media
guys
Porn
Social media for sure.
A lack of emotional intelligence, capacity and dedication to self respect.
The abstinence of healthy communication
social media’s ridiculous theories
Too much exposure like sobra sobra na yung information na nailalabas sa social media’s. Kahit nga hindi too much I’d rather be in a secret relationship. Also ako lang ba but too much exposure talaga ruins everything, like parang may kung anong magnet na nanghahatak ng negative vibe pag nag fflex or even just posting your date pictures with your partner, like my negative na mangyayari.
Illusion of endless options
Social media
Lack of empathy
TEXTING
Having incredibly important conversations via text that should 100% be taking place face to face. People will say SOOO many things via text they would never have the balls to say in person. Plus the chance that a text will be misconstrued due to the lack of vocal inflection..
Money related stress due to the billionaire war on the middle class.
Social media expectations, dating apps because it’s made people seem like they have more options and treat people disposable and poor/unhealthy communication.
Human beings
The internet…. Social media in particular.
Mental illness
Excessive immaturity.
Communication for sure is the big one
I think it’s ridiculous how many people said porn. It’s how the person consumes porn that is the problem not porn itself.
Before, you were obligated to marry someone and to stay with them for “better or worse”. Nowadays, our culture encourages the idea that we’re free to leave someone if we don’t like even the smallest flaw. I see this situation as the result of our new “freedoms”
social media puts a heavy emphasis on conformity to a certain set of aesthetics, and I think that a person not conforming to the performance of it all can lead others to discount an otherwise healthy relationship
Social media, hands down. Makes it seem like relationships are easy to come by. Makes it look like everyone has a perfect relationship except you. Makes it incredibly easy to interact with other possibilities outside the relationship.
Gradual lack of effort from one party
The lack of choosing each other.
Every action is a choice and those choices often communicate something. They could communicate “I care for you and you’re important” or they could communicate “I couldn’t care less about you and your needs”
Great question. Afaik it’s toxic narcissism. People who have one set of rules for themselves and expectations for the other, and no flexibility. They pretend to be one person while hiding their real self while denying they’re doing that when called out. It has reached a social tipping point and we can all talk about it together. Those who are the target of these people know they are not alone.
Social media – the need to show the world that everything is sunshine and daisies in a relationship
They were always incompatible and they rushed into an exclusive relationship before they really knew each other.
Expectations formed from the imaginary world that is social media.
Probably me… 💙💦
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The pride of men and women refusing to understand and empathize with the others point of view and stay stuck in their own echo chambers.
Also the completely normalization of cheating and rise in empathy for cheaters
Global Capitalism
The fucking inability to be emotionally intelligent.
People
The mentality that the person you seek must have their life together already. They must have a job, must have the qualities of a partner, etc. There is no building within a relationship anymore. It’s like everything must be pre-packaged so that you don’t have to deal with the hassle. Nobody wants to build anymore.
Bad decision making
Too many takers ruining the givers
People are not doing enough inner work to be better. Lack of emotional availability, lack of self-awareness, etc.
Poor conflict resolution skills. Insecure attachment. Love/dopamine addiction. Minimal self awareness & accountability. Poor ability to connect in the variety of ways require for healthy romance. Placing unreasonable expectations on the other. Black and white processing…
I like to think people are trying their best, but holy fuck do most people suck at being human
Avoidance
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Women need men less than men need women.
That’s all there really is to it.
Social media and comparison
Lack of communication skills
Tiktok.
Idealism.
What I mean is, people take everything at face-value and immediately judge any real elements to relationships by sorting things into categories of good or bad without any room for complexity . They don’t care to consider things beyond the idealistic image of relationships we’ve all been fed by social media.
For example, the idea of “if he wanted to he would” and if he doesn’t then he doesn’t love you. Pretty fucked. Imagine expecting mind reading or nothing as a “standard”.
Once I stopped giving a fuck about all the standards and shit online and put more care & effort into what my relationship specifically needs to do well, my boyfriend and I began to thrive together.
Social media.
Swaying away from gender roles
Hyperbolic ways of thinking and lack of practical communication skills.
Emotionally unavailable men
Unrealistic expectations
I had a 4 leave me (a 9,not kidding)without telling me why lol. All I wanted to be was friends bc she seemed to be a genuine, down to earth girl with similar interests to me and she didn’t even want that lol. Could be bc I nagged her about buying XRP at $0.50, but idk how you could leave someone for giving you the best roi available at the time.
Narcissism and other toxic behaviors related to it
Poverty. A lot of families, friendships, romantic partners, and marriages cannot withstand the stress and schedule caused by the cost of living across many nations.
Trust. Without trust, love feels unsafe, communication gets filtered, and doubt replaces peace. Most people today struggle to give or earn it because of past wounds, distractions, and lack of real accountability.
Social media , dating apps etc
Perfectionism.
No partner is perfect.
You are allowed your dealbreakers, but also consider giving them leeway for the other minor traits and qualities that they have.
My fiance leaves paper towels everywhere in the kitchen. Drives me crazy. Would not leave him for that, though.
social media
Ego.
I’m gonna say politics, and I mean that in the most general sense, and extends to around the globe. I think we as a species are more divided politically than ever before and that will naturally affect relationships when partners, friends, or family butt heads on an issue that is either new or takes on a new form. Usually the catalyst for the end of a relationship will be around a social issue where both have conflicting views and are passionate about their views.
This can be something that is considered a big issue or something smaller but regardless it affects things because of the passion people have. (You could argue we are also more passionate about our politics than most times in history, to the point where relationships become ruined.)
Just my two cents. You could argue it’s certain issues, parties, demographics, etc. but I think it’s the politics at the end of the day. Even nonpolitical people are political about SOMETHING and all it takes is for their partner, friend, or family to passionately disagree about that issue for problems to arise.
Hypersexuality
Narcissistic tendencies and dishonesty
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