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You are responsible for your own “mental health!” Quit blaming your drug habit, alcohol abuse, and stupid decisions on others or the world, and take responsibility for yourself!
Wherever you go there you are. I’ve learned it to mean I can blame my problems on everything but myself for as long as I can put up with not changing me, the real problem.
Being able to identify what you can’t control vs. what you can, is a skill that takes practice but allows you to understand the mindset of “it is what it is”.
If your happiness is derived from completing your goal, you’ll be miserable. If your happiness is derived from progressing toward a goal, you’ll be much happier.
Outside of a few close friends one else cares. Couldnt get up on time? No one cares. Traffic bad? No one cares. Feeling a bit down? No one cares. They only care if youre pulling your weight.
Don’t be worried about what others think of you. When you’re very young, you always think there’s someone you need to impress. As long as you’re not doing anything immoral or illegal, nobody really cares what you do. Love for you, not other’s opinions of you. That’s none of your business anyway.
Your (and my) life, financial problems, relationships, career, drama, medical problems, and everything in between is just one grain of sand in a massive desert and not a single person gives a damn. Now that outlook can bring relief, or be a depression realization. Outcomes may vary.
Georgia put it perfectly. She’s talking about trauma, but it’s the same for anything in life. Idk how well the automatic subtitles translate, so here’s my try:
Stop making yourself a victim, and if you don’t do anything to not be a victim anymore, stop complaining about being a victim. Yes, life is unfair, and sometimes people happen to come into our life and do things to us that make us a victim for that situation. But whether you stay a victim or not is your decision. And no, that’s not victim blaming and it’s also not turning the victim into the culprit. That’s exactly what it means to take on responsibility for your own shit. You decide whether you define your trauma or whether your trauma defines you. Do you stay a victim or do you become a survivor? Do you make your whole life about what happened to you or do you make what happened to you a part of your life? And do you continue blaming everyone else for your fucked up life or do you finally start taking your own life into your own hands? “I can’t do that, that’s impossible, it’s so difficult, I don’t know how and where to start.“ Yes, you can, yes, it’s possible. If you don’t know where to start, start anywhere, and if that’s simply bringing order into your room on the outside, you you have room to bring order into your mind. And yes, it is difficult, but if the reason you’re leaving everything the way it is is because it’s difficult to change something, then bro, no regard, stop whining. Stop whining, stop complaining, because you’re deciding to leave everything the way it is because “it’s too difficult“. Nobody says it’s easy. Bro, it’s difficult as shit to take on responsibility, to take back control if your own life and to get over things, to process things, but the question is not whether that’s easy or difficult. The question is: Is it worth it to you? You want it to not hurt that much anymore, you want to become happy or at least not feel so bad anymore. Ok, who do you think can make that happen? Always complaining about everything being so difficult is super easy. Bringing easiness back into your life is super difficult. If you want things to be easy, stay where the fuck you are, but don’t moan at me because you have no right to complain because you decide to stay where you are. It’s ok if it’s difficult, it’s ok to fail, it’s ok to doubt, it’s ok to take steps back, it’s ok to take a break. You can take as much time as you need and you can tell everyone who wants to tell you how to heal to shut up, me included. But yes, you can, and yes, it’s possible.
something I have picked up from a lot of posts on here.-mostly street photography and going to the gym
** no one is looking at you and if they are, they don’t care what you are doing **
I am very sorry for the people that get anxious and think that they are being watched – but truly, it is very rare that anyone is caring enough to judge you – and even if they were, they are a stranger and therefore their opinion doesn’t/shouldn’t matter to you
go out and shoot
go to the gym and workout – get sweaty – be overweight to start – it’s all good
You are only the main character in your own life. To others, you are just like a random NPC.
The thing you did and cringe about for months and months ? Often, other people forget it after 5 min. They have their own stuff that they do, to cringe about for months and months, that you forget after 5 min, because they are just NPC in your life.
Stop obsessing about what other people think of you. They don’t think about you that much.
Be kind. Be thoughtful. Apologise when you fuck up. Then you’re probably pretty good going in general.
Everyone needs to be held accountable for their actions, either by themselves or by someone else.
It doesn’t matter what trauma has happened to you in life. If you hurt someone and don’t make amends towards that person (or make even the smallest amount of self-improvement), then you’re no better than those who have hurt you. If no one was held accountable for their actions, then the world would turn into complete chaos and anarchy.
Sometimes, things suck. Bad things happen to you. It isn’t your fault.
But the only thing you can do is pick yourself up and deal with it. A lot of times, no one is going to make you whole. No one is going to help you. You are the only person who you can control, so start making lemonade.
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My first partner in EMS once told someone (not me), “if you’re gonna act a pussy, expect to get fucked.”
Nobody fucking cares.
“Just because you’re offended doesn’t mean you’re right”
If they can cheat with you, they can cheat on you.
It be like that sometimes
Just because you have an opinion about something doesn’t mean it’s right or you’re right.
My use to say it’s not what you know it’s who you know. It’s so true.
When you get to college, nobody cares about how cool you were in high school
If someone says “I don’t know what I want,” they don’t want you. They’re just not ready to say that yet.
Not everything is about you
There’s no help coming.
If they’re abusive, it’s almost guaranteed that they won’t change.
If you thinking you’re too good for that you’re probably going to eat those words someday
People arent that worried about you
When it comes to relationships, most people are only as loyal as their options.
You are responsible for your own “mental health!” Quit blaming your drug habit, alcohol abuse, and stupid decisions on others or the world, and take responsibility for yourself!
Your anger issues are your responsibility- go to the dr and ask for help finding affordable counseling to heal from your past.
Never depend on someone else for finances. Keep them separate. Truth.
You’re responsible for the outcome of your life.
You could be the sweetest, juiciest, ripest peach in the whole world, but the fact is there are people out there who just don’t like peaches.
The world owes you absolutely nothing.
No one is coming to rescue you other than yourself.
Most of us are a lot less funny than we’d like to think we are. So unless you’ve got a real timely zinger, keep your sarcasm in check.
Some times, life just isn’t fair. The world owes you nothing.
You are responsible for your reactions and emotions.
Your opinions are not facts.
Being loud doesn’t make you right.
If everyone else is always the problem, maybe you are the problem.
If they cared about you you’d know
If all the people in your life suck, you’re probably the problem.
If you keep jumping from job to job, and complaining all of them suck… you are the problem, not the job.
Nothing good ever comes easy
Wherever you go there you are. I’ve learned it to mean I can blame my problems on everything but myself for as long as I can put up with not changing me, the real problem.
Your lack of preparation doesn’t make it my emergency. Deal with it yourself.
For men, most problems can be averted by quickly rubbing one out.
Nobody cares in the end. Do you and be your best self
If you want something done right, do it yourself.
“There is no Easter Bunny, there is no Tooth Fairy and there is no Queen of England”
Nobody owes you anything, if you want something get off your ass and make it happen
You can do everything right, make no mistakes and still lose.
Men in America should not get married.
While external circumstances can influence our mood, our mindset and perspective play a significant role in shaping our happiness.
Cultivating gratitude, focusing on the positives, and practicing self-care can help us find happiness, even during challenging times.
Learn to communicate
Your parents got to choose their life- their weddings, their significant others, their careers, etc.
They don’t get to choose yours. If they don’t like it, they can cope with their own feelings.
Set healthy boundaries and enforce them. Go NC if necessary. They can apologize and try again to respect your boundaries.
Just because you feel very strongly about something, doesn’t mean you’re right
Your breath stinks, brush your teeth, or use mouthwash!
No one is coming to save you, it’s all up to you, but you’ve got this
Don’t obsess over a defect or limitation. Fix it or forget it.
No one gives AF about you in the end.
No one is coming to rescue you.
Expectations lead to disappointments…
Most people do not have the skills to be in a healthy relationship and make it successful.
Everyone wants you to do well just as long as you’re not doing as well as them.
Being fat is not healthy.
Proving your point isn’t worth losing a relationship/friendship with someone
You’d be hard pressed to find two people in your life that you can trust implicitly. So be careful with what you share and who you share it with.
Never trust a fart
My mom always said “life ain’t fair” and “don’t sweat the small shit, and most things are small shit”
Excuses are only good for the ppl who make them.
You will never be fully “ready” – just get started!
Everyone is just as dumb as you are they’re just good at faking it
Most people are stupid…don’t waste time on them
Being able to identify what you can’t control vs. what you can, is a skill that takes practice but allows you to understand the mindset of “it is what it is”.
When someone says they are “brutally honest”, the part about “honesty” is usually just an excuse for brutality.
If your happiness is derived from completing your goal, you’ll be miserable. If your happiness is derived from progressing toward a goal, you’ll be much happier.
It’s your parents’ fault for messing you up. It’s your fault for staying messed up.
Nothing is your business.
Getting older is better than the alternative
Feelings don’t negate facts
Outside of a few close friends one else cares. Couldnt get up on time? No one cares. Traffic bad? No one cares. Feeling a bit down? No one cares. They only care if youre pulling your weight.
Don’t be worried about what others think of you. When you’re very young, you always think there’s someone you need to impress. As long as you’re not doing anything immoral or illegal, nobody really cares what you do. Love for you, not other’s opinions of you. That’s none of your business anyway.
If you’re happy and you know it…..keep it to yourself, people are cunts and ruin beautiful things
Donald Trump is an idiot
Your (and my) life, financial problems, relationships, career, drama, medical problems, and everything in between is just one grain of sand in a massive desert and not a single person gives a damn. Now that outlook can bring relief, or be a depression realization. Outcomes may vary.
“The world doesn’t treat you better just because your a nice person”
If you think you’ve tried “everything ” , it’s very likely you haven’t.
Honesty doesn’t need to be “brutal,” there’s a difference between being blunt and being cruel
Georgia put it perfectly. She’s talking about trauma, but it’s the same for anything in life. Idk how well the automatic subtitles translate, so here’s my try:
Stop making yourself a victim, and if you don’t do anything to not be a victim anymore, stop complaining about being a victim. Yes, life is unfair, and sometimes people happen to come into our life and do things to us that make us a victim for that situation. But whether you stay a victim or not is your decision. And no, that’s not victim blaming and it’s also not turning the victim into the culprit. That’s exactly what it means to take on responsibility for your own shit. You decide whether you define your trauma or whether your trauma defines you. Do you stay a victim or do you become a survivor? Do you make your whole life about what happened to you or do you make what happened to you a part of your life? And do you continue blaming everyone else for your fucked up life or do you finally start taking your own life into your own hands? “I can’t do that, that’s impossible, it’s so difficult, I don’t know how and where to start.“ Yes, you can, yes, it’s possible. If you don’t know where to start, start anywhere, and if that’s simply bringing order into your room on the outside, you you have room to bring order into your mind. And yes, it is difficult, but if the reason you’re leaving everything the way it is is because it’s difficult to change something, then bro, no regard, stop whining. Stop whining, stop complaining, because you’re deciding to leave everything the way it is because “it’s too difficult“. Nobody says it’s easy. Bro, it’s difficult as shit to take on responsibility, to take back control if your own life and to get over things, to process things, but the question is not whether that’s easy or difficult. The question is: Is it worth it to you? You want it to not hurt that much anymore, you want to become happy or at least not feel so bad anymore. Ok, who do you think can make that happen? Always complaining about everything being so difficult is super easy. Bringing easiness back into your life is super difficult. If you want things to be easy, stay where the fuck you are, but don’t moan at me because you have no right to complain because you decide to stay where you are. It’s ok if it’s difficult, it’s ok to fail, it’s ok to doubt, it’s ok to take steps back, it’s ok to take a break. You can take as much time as you need and you can tell everyone who wants to tell you how to heal to shut up, me included. But yes, you can, and yes, it’s possible.
The truth is the truth even if no one believes it.
Never get into an argument with someone who believes their own lies.
You’ll be dead one day, and you can’t take anything with you. Make sure the objects you struggle to attain are truly worth the effort.
“Nobody cares about your protest”
People you work with are not real friends.
If they’re talking about them to you, they’re talking about you to them.
No one is ever looking out for you as much as you think or wish they would.
You are up to you.
No one else.
No one.
No-one is coming to save you, so just get on with it.
something I have picked up from a lot of posts on here.-mostly street photography and going to the gym
** no one is looking at you and if they are, they don’t care what you are doing **
I am very sorry for the people that get anxious and think that they are being watched – but truly, it is very rare that anyone is caring enough to judge you – and even if they were, they are a stranger and therefore their opinion doesn’t/shouldn’t matter to you
go out and shoot
go to the gym and workout – get sweaty – be overweight to start – it’s all good
Every opinion that you have does not need to be heard
You are [probably] not as smart as you think you are.
Even if you “pull yourself up by your bootstraps” and work your ass off, you can still be poor
“The world is full of assholes and you’re going to meet most of them…”
Life is suffering. The best you can do is to minimize it.
You are only the main character in your own life. To others, you are just like a random NPC.
The thing you did and cringe about for months and months ? Often, other people forget it after 5 min. They have their own stuff that they do, to cringe about for months and months, that you forget after 5 min, because they are just NPC in your life.
Stop obsessing about what other people think of you. They don’t think about you that much.
Be kind. Be thoughtful. Apologise when you fuck up. Then you’re probably pretty good going in general.
Also “a goal without a plan is a wish”
Everyone needs to be held accountable for their actions, either by themselves or by someone else.
It doesn’t matter what trauma has happened to you in life. If you hurt someone and don’t make amends towards that person (or make even the smallest amount of self-improvement), then you’re no better than those who have hurt you. If no one was held accountable for their actions, then the world would turn into complete chaos and anarchy.
Be the change you want to see.
religion is made up
If u dont try and fail u will never learn and improve.
Happiness is an inside job, looking for other people/events to ‘make you happy’ is a losing proposition.
Beauty standards are not socially constructed
Life is fuckin’ hard.
A relationship is like a fart. If you have to force it, it’s probably shit.
You’re not special- your skills matter a little, it’s how you get along with people that matters- so don’t be a dick”
You’re not special
You never really know how you look through other people’s eyes
Sometimes, things suck. Bad things happen to you. It isn’t your fault.
But the only thing you can do is pick yourself up and deal with it. A lot of times, no one is going to make you whole. No one is going to help you. You are the only person who you can control, so start making lemonade.
Anyone who say they are “just being honest” is a dick.
Don’t put it in crazy.