Use dental dams/barriers when performing oral sex on a woman, especially if you and she sleep with other people. Taking each other’s health seriously and protecting it are sexy.
track your cycle!! Don’t have unprotected vaginal sex when the female is ovulating; it’s the highest likely time of a woman’s menstrual cycle she can get pregnant.
Male sex organs include the Cowper’s gland, which produces pre-ejaculatory fluid (“precum”) during arousal as a sort of urethral lubricant. Though the Cowper’s gland is not a seminal gland (i.e., it does not produce sperm or semen), it *can* carry preliminary or residual sperm/semen along the urethral canal in its clear pre-lubricant fluid; thus insemination + pregnancy can result, even if the male participant has not yet “formally ejaculated.”
TL;DR — sperm may be transmitted before ejaculation; pulling out or “stopping early” aren’t 100% reliable, and, though official data is scarce, these methods are only ~78% effective, perhaps less. I first learned about the Cowper’s gland from Dr. Ruth Westheimer, circa 1984.
Breastfeeding is not a license to do unprotected ding-ding. You can get pregnant while breastfeeding.
Also, all women should take folic acid supplements daily (ask your doctor first, but this is standard CDC advice). It helps avoid neural tube defects in the baby in case you get pregnant.
Most people will get HPV at some point in their life. It alone is not worth freaking out over, but you should go to a doctor to check and see if you have a cancer-causing strain.
Understand that when it comes to STD and STI blood tests, they only reflect a person’s past health status ( 2 to 12 weeks prior to the test for most diseases). This is because the antibodies will only show in a test some time after infection.
In other words, if you have just met someone and do not know or cannot trust their history, don’t rush into sex with them even after an all negative STD/STI test suite. If they were subjected to an infection a week before they did the test, it won’t show yet but still can infect you.
Also specifically ask for HSV 1/ HSV 2 tests (oral and genital herpes) coz your doctor won’t include them in your SDT/STI standard test unless you ask for them by name! They will tell you we tested you/your partner for everything but they forget to mention that they left these out as they are not part of the standard test recommended by the CDC (on their website they give some nonsense reasons for that). That’s an unfortunate reality of the US health system.
Actually talk to your sexual partners. About preferences, expectations, sexual safety, etc.
Too many people are shy/nervous/hesitant about simply talking about sex even when they aren’t nearly so skittish to have it. Talking with a prospective sexual partner before you engage in sexual activity can tell you a lot about them and potentially save you from some sticky (pun kind of intended) situations.
Also, the only valid consent is enthusiastic consent. ✌️
At your age, you’re going to have a lot of urges. You’re going to want to take off your clothes, and touch each other. But if you do touch each other, you will get Chlamydia… and die. – Coach Carr, maybe.
In terms of taking care and avoiding causing undue pain to your partner, communicate and take your time with foreplay if necessary. Have lube available. This is especially important if you’re a guy like me with massive penis (I recently posted it on my reddit if you want reference). It can more often be problematic than not – pain and hitting the cervix generally isn’t fun 🫠
Take the time to figure out inside vs outside. You can do it wrong, and that makes it more likely to slip off of break.
After you shoot your goo, you want to make sure your goo stayed inside of it. You should be able to see your children down in the tip. pull on the tip of the condom, if it feels vacuum sealed around your dong, it isn’t broken.
If you find it is broken, you should seek alternate family planning solutions, like plan B. If you are not actively trying to avoid baby, you are trying to baby.
Also pulling out doesn’t count as trying not to conceive. It’s got really not favorable numbers.
Never put anything up an ass that doesn’t have a flared base on it unless you want to explain it at the ER or don’t care about losing it. And never put those little jeweled “butt plugs” in your ass, the base is too small and you will be taking some interesting xrays before the doctor goes on their hunt for it later.
If you’re going to fuck a pussy, if she’ll let you then I’d recommend you eat it first, and for five to ten times as long as you think you can fuck it or until she tells you to switch to fucking.
When you eat a pussy, listen up and follow directions. Should there be no directions, here’s some guidelines. Everybody is similar but different, take your time, make sure she’s comfortable then get comfortable yourself. Settle in. Plan on staying a while. Start small, take your time. Unless she grabs you by the hair/ears and pulls you to where she wants you, kinda sneak up on it. Plant kisses around the area. Get closer and closer. If you don’t know what a clitoris is, do some research now do you can pick one out in a lineup. You’re going to be looking for one some day, and you might be using your tongue to find it, so better to get a lay of the land now if you’re unfamiliar.
For my young men out there, you worth isn’t defined by your ability to get chicks or have sex. It’s not that great if they’re just strangers, so don’t just take what you can get.
If you even remotely think that you could have a porn addiction, talk to a therapist before it becomes problematic. It tends to start with a shift into more and more deviant topics, often ending in the arrest of the consumer.
Don’t think about numbers don’t think about what you can trade it for or what is says about you as a person or anything other than mutual fun/pleasure and you’ll all have so much of a better time.
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Use dental dams/barriers when performing oral sex on a woman, especially if you and she sleep with other people. Taking each other’s health seriously and protecting it are sexy.
Go to planned parenthood for your IUD, it’s cheap, they offer nitrous oxide, and they give you apple juice and graham crackers afterwards.
Pulling out isn’t safe sex
Use condom.
Chexk with your OB to know what’s the safest form of birth control for you
If you’re not ready for babies, oral is a safe bet.
A condom doesn’t prevent all STIs like herpes, etc
Make sure there is an emergency release inside.
Condoms are cheaper than babies and doctors visits.
track your cycle!! Don’t have unprotected vaginal sex when the female is ovulating; it’s the highest likely time of a woman’s menstrual cycle she can get pregnant.
Go pee when you’re done
Kids are a long term commitment
When you contract chlamydia , sometimes you don’t even realize, especially if you are a man. It can lay dormant for years. Get tested!
HPV look it up
If anyone you don’t know intimately tells you to not worry about using a condom you need to worry quite a bit about using a condom
Get hpv vaccine to prevent cancer. It can cause penis cancer, cervical cancer, and even throat cancer.
Normalize getting tested before sleeping with somebody.
Dont put your dick in crazy
Don’t go around having sex with random people, period.
Male sex organs include the Cowper’s gland, which produces pre-ejaculatory fluid (“precum”) during arousal as a sort of urethral lubricant. Though the Cowper’s gland is not a seminal gland (i.e., it does not produce sperm or semen), it *can* carry preliminary or residual sperm/semen along the urethral canal in its clear pre-lubricant fluid; thus insemination + pregnancy can result, even if the male participant has not yet “formally ejaculated.”
TL;DR — sperm may be transmitted before ejaculation; pulling out or “stopping early” aren’t 100% reliable, and, though official data is scarce, these methods are only ~78% effective, perhaps less. I first learned about the Cowper’s gland from Dr. Ruth Westheimer, circa 1984.
Does anyone know the percentage precum can get you pregnant? not advice.. i’m sorry
Don’t be a fool, wrap your tool
Breastfeeding is not a license to do unprotected ding-ding. You can get pregnant while breastfeeding.
Also, all women should take folic acid supplements daily (ask your doctor first, but this is standard CDC advice). It helps avoid neural tube defects in the baby in case you get pregnant.
Most people will get HPV at some point in their life. It alone is not worth freaking out over, but you should go to a doctor to check and see if you have a cancer-causing strain.
Use protection!
Always pee right after. Always.
Stop sleeping around with different people. Unless you’re kinky like that
Flared base. FLARED. BASE.
Don’t have sex with so many people, and be sure you’ve both been tested.
Understand that when it comes to STD and STI blood tests, they only reflect a person’s past health status ( 2 to 12 weeks prior to the test for most diseases). This is because the antibodies will only show in a test some time after infection.
In other words, if you have just met someone and do not know or cannot trust their history, don’t rush into sex with them even after an all negative STD/STI test suite. If they were subjected to an infection a week before they did the test, it won’t show yet but still can infect you.
Also specifically ask for HSV 1/ HSV 2 tests (oral and genital herpes) coz your doctor won’t include them in your SDT/STI standard test unless you ask for them by name! They will tell you we tested you/your partner for everything but they forget to mention that they left these out as they are not part of the standard test recommended by the CDC (on their website they give some nonsense reasons for that). That’s an unfortunate reality of the US health system.
Can’t get pregnant from anal
PLEASEEEE ALWAYS PULL OUT SECONDS BEFORE YOU EJACULATE WITH A CONDOM.
Actually talk to your sexual partners. About preferences, expectations, sexual safety, etc.
Too many people are shy/nervous/hesitant about simply talking about sex even when they aren’t nearly so skittish to have it. Talking with a prospective sexual partner before you engage in sexual activity can tell you a lot about them and potentially save you from some sticky (pun kind of intended) situations.
Also, the only valid consent is enthusiastic consent. ✌️
PrEP alone does not make sex safe, either.
Calendar method
At your age, you’re going to have a lot of urges. You’re going to want to take off your clothes, and touch each other. But if you do touch each other, you will get Chlamydia… and die. – Coach Carr, maybe.
use as much lube as you want, nothing wrong with it
Clear the table first.
On her not in her
Use condoms… apparently 90% of men don’t think they exist
Don’t
If the say you don’t need to wear protection, there’s a good chance you are not the first person they’ve said this to.
Get tested after every intimate partner
In terms of taking care and avoiding causing undue pain to your partner, communicate and take your time with foreplay if necessary. Have lube available. This is especially important if you’re a guy like me with massive penis (I recently posted it on my reddit if you want reference). It can more often be problematic than not – pain and hitting the cervix generally isn’t fun 🫠
The 3 keys to safe sex.
Condoms, sexual health talk beforehand, safeword.
Turn the fucking light on to put on the condom.
Take the time to figure out inside vs outside. You can do it wrong, and that makes it more likely to slip off of break.
After you shoot your goo, you want to make sure your goo stayed inside of it. You should be able to see your children down in the tip. pull on the tip of the condom, if it feels vacuum sealed around your dong, it isn’t broken.
If you find it is broken, you should seek alternate family planning solutions, like plan B. If you are not actively trying to avoid baby, you are trying to baby.
Also pulling out doesn’t count as trying not to conceive. It’s got really not favorable numbers.
For the women and gay dudes, have sex with ugly guys. We dont get laid enough to have stds
Put a little bit of lube on the inside of the condom as well as the outside
Pee after. It’s been said, but it’s worth restating. PEE AFTER
Don’t have sex
Never put anything up an ass that doesn’t have a flared base on it unless you want to explain it at the ER or don’t care about losing it. And never put those little jeweled “butt plugs” in your ass, the base is too small and you will be taking some interesting xrays before the doctor goes on their hunt for it later.
If you’re going to fuck a pussy, if she’ll let you then I’d recommend you eat it first, and for five to ten times as long as you think you can fuck it or until she tells you to switch to fucking.
When you eat a pussy, listen up and follow directions. Should there be no directions, here’s some guidelines. Everybody is similar but different, take your time, make sure she’s comfortable then get comfortable yourself. Settle in. Plan on staying a while. Start small, take your time. Unless she grabs you by the hair/ears and pulls you to where she wants you, kinda sneak up on it. Plant kisses around the area. Get closer and closer. If you don’t know what a clitoris is, do some research now do you can pick one out in a lineup. You’re going to be looking for one some day, and you might be using your tongue to find it, so better to get a lay of the land now if you’re unfamiliar.
Sex safe is great sex. Better wear a latex because you don’t want that late text 🙃
Have more than one condom. If the condom breaks you both might have trouble stopping.
Communication
For my young men out there, you worth isn’t defined by your ability to get chicks or have sex. It’s not that great if they’re just strangers, so don’t just take what you can get.
Have some self respect.
Don’t stick your dick in crazy.
If you even remotely think that you could have a porn addiction, talk to a therapist before it becomes problematic. It tends to start with a shift into more and more deviant topics, often ending in the arrest of the consumer.
Tastes like chicken keep on licking, taste like trout? Get the fuck out.
If you’re into weird shit in bed, don’t force it on another person without getting explicit consent first.
Sex isn’t an object that you can acquire.
Don’t think about numbers don’t think about what you can trade it for or what is says about you as a person or anything other than mutual fun/pleasure and you’ll all have so much of a better time.
Laughing is a good thing.
Don’t have second unless you are ready for alllll the things that comes from. Not just talking about pregnancy