i’m trying to understand what makes a moment “stick” emotionally.
not the grand gestures, but the small unexpected things that made you feel seen.
like, something that still brings you to tears years later.
curious to know what kind of love moments actually stay with people.
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When my husband and I were doing a spot of long distance and I told him I missed his voice, he recorded himself reading one of our favourite books for me to fall asleep to at night. As you can probably imagine, it was something like 10+ hours worth of effort. It cost absolutely nothing and remains to this day my favourite gift I’ve ever received from a romantic partner.
It’s such a small gesture, I guess, but it makes me smile when I think about it. My boyfriend often blowdries my hair for me because otherwise I either get too lazy to dry it all the way through (my hair is thick and I wear it long) or I just leave the apartment with completely wet hair. (In my defense, I’m from a tropical country where this is quite common and I just got used to that. I’ve also just always been lazy about making myself look nice, I guess.) He gets worried that I’ll get sick.
Years ago, before we went out to go ice skating, a then-boyfriend did the same for me and even pulled out some of my gray hair while he was at it. Which I found both funny and touching because he was a few years younger than me.
It was the smallest, tiniest moment, but he quoted back to me some silly little thing that I say from time to time, and it just made me feel so appreciated. Like he sees my quirks and idiosyncrasies and loves me for them.
I wouldn’t say emotional but the things that got to my heart and made me feel seen were:
-I asked my ex for chocolate and he went a bought it. I was like: wow, you heard me and gave me what I wanted?. As you see, not used to such treatment
-Getting food served. Preparing the whole meal and serving it for me
-It was long distance and he purchased protein and sent it to me via mail
-He said he wasn’t going to pick me up, yet he did. He went to the wrong station but the intention is what mattered lol