Someone once held the door open for me when I was juggling a bunch of stuff, and then cracked a joke about it. It was such a small, thoughtful thing, but it made them instantly more attractive. It’s the little gestures that count!
Me and my boyfriend and I had only been together for a few months, I was invited to the his brothers wedding and wore a blue long gown (was too over dressed and always felt embarrassed about it) we had to take stairs to get to the upstairs venue. The dress was long. I didn’t struggle in it, but as we were walking up the stairs he held the trail of the dress as I walked up and down…. knew I got myself a good-en still togther 8 years on.
He was carrying groceries into his apartment and stopped to help an elderly neighbor pick up some mail she dropped. Just that tiny 30-second interaction showed such genuine kindness. Been married to him for 3 years now.
a long time ago I was making out with a girl that would end up being my girlfriend, I asked her to take her sweater off and she retorted that she wasn’t going to do that because she wasn’t feeling hot. I just loved that sassy retort.
There was this guy in my college study group who always remembered how everyone liked their coffee. One morning he brought me my usual – caramel latte with an extra shot – without me even asking. The thoughtfulness of remembering such a tiny detail really got to me.
While I was talking with a married couple, my “crush” walked over to us, and stood right next to me, our sides practically touching, and joined in the conversation as if we were a couple…..sigh…….
I was walking with someone, and we were crossing the street. Without thinking, they gently placed their hand on the small of my back—not possessive or weird, just protective and natural. It was such a tiny gesture, but it made me feel seen and safe. I remember thinking, oh… okay, this might be something
Once I was sitting outside with a guy and he saw this little beetle bug on its back waving its legs in the air. He grabbed a leaf and put it right side up.
Being honest and candid. When asked about how one is doing or what they like, not giving a cookie cutter answer, but being vulnerable to give real information is incredible energy.
He showed the smallest amount of kindness to me and I fell hard lol. Shared his food with me, opened things for me, told me to be self-confident, and just generally made me smile when we were together. I didn’t think much of the guy when we first met but after all that he was the most beautiful thing I’d ever seen lol. I’m not sure I’ll ever feel that way about someone again
My friend guided me into a coffee shop by gently putting his hand at the small of my back. That simple, guiding gesture instantly endeared him to me. My feelings toward him changed in an instant.
We’ve been married 42 years.
Manners, a man with good manners. Not even big things, but hiding or opening the door, being polite to staff in stores or shops, saying please and thank you, and just noticing things. It’s an instance hit for me
My husband will go out of his way to pick the cat up at any time and he fully settles her so her little front legs hang down over his arm like a jaguar in a tree. She looks so cute and comfy and he just pets and loves on her (all the while saying how much he hates cats). They’re just so cute together and I love seeing his genuine affection for her even if every word out of his mouth is him lying and saying he hates cats.
So I’m not sure if this counts or not, but I was at Subway and this girl was working on an online order. She was reading through the ticket and she started nodding her head back and forth in a “yeah yeah yeah, I read that part already” kind of way. And I just thought it was cute as hell. The reason I don’t know whether or not it counts is because I h̶a̶v̶e̶ had a massive crush on her before that. She probably could have committed murder in front of me, and I would have thought it was cute.
I don’t know if it was really small, but… He put some real effort into giving good, thoughtful support and advice to a shared friend who had asked for it.
In that moment, my view of him changed from “he’s nice, but it’s good that he’s busy a lot or else he’d be a little much” to “I can’t get enough of his company and I’ll make him a priority”.
Overheard a guy behind me on the bus asking to kids if this was there stop, and where they were supposed to get off, they answered that they were going to the end station. In front of them sat the dad and chimed in on the conversation, not in an angry way though. The guy thought that the two young kids were alone on the bus and just wanted to make sure they got off at the right stop.
Not necessarily small or more attractive but when people donate they’re time and money to help the less fortunate ie: homeless and starving people it just shows they have a big heart and have empathy for those people as do I
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The bare minimum of not being sexual upon first few messages
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Being caring
She strongly cared about helping me make good decisions on something she was knowledgeable about. Then she soldered my phone to work again?!
Genuinely helped, like not like it was his job, or that he was paid too. But just wanted to help and did.
Stayed by my side when the power went out because he knew that I was scared of the dark.
eye contact
Gave me a compliment while showing gratitude
Someone once held the door open for me when I was juggling a bunch of stuff, and then cracked a joke about it. It was such a small, thoughtful thing, but it made them instantly more attractive. It’s the little gestures that count!
Me and my boyfriend and I had only been together for a few months, I was invited to the his brothers wedding and wore a blue long gown (was too over dressed and always felt embarrassed about it) we had to take stairs to get to the upstairs venue. The dress was long. I didn’t struggle in it, but as we were walking up the stairs he held the trail of the dress as I walked up and down…. knew I got myself a good-en still togther 8 years on.
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Partner puts on toolbelt and fixes things swoooon
He was carrying groceries into his apartment and stopped to help an elderly neighbor pick up some mail she dropped. Just that tiny 30-second interaction showed such genuine kindness. Been married to him for 3 years now.
a long time ago I was making out with a girl that would end up being my girlfriend, I asked her to take her sweater off and she retorted that she wasn’t going to do that because she wasn’t feeling hot. I just loved that sassy retort.
There was this guy in my college study group who always remembered how everyone liked their coffee. One morning he brought me my usual – caramel latte with an extra shot – without me even asking. The thoughtfulness of remembering such a tiny detail really got to me.
Showing incidental integrity and respect towards a random person they don’t even know and will never see again
While I was talking with a married couple, my “crush” walked over to us, and stood right next to me, our sides practically touching, and joined in the conversation as if we were a couple…..sigh…….
I was walking with someone, and we were crossing the street. Without thinking, they gently placed their hand on the small of my back—not possessive or weird, just protective and natural. It was such a tiny gesture, but it made me feel seen and safe. I remember thinking, oh… okay, this might be something
This drunk woman flashed her pussy at me once, does that count?
Once I was sitting outside with a guy and he saw this little beetle bug on its back waving its legs in the air. He grabbed a leaf and put it right side up.
Being honest and candid. When asked about how one is doing or what they like, not giving a cookie cutter answer, but being vulnerable to give real information is incredible energy.
she sent me videos of her singing and dancing with no hesitation
Sharing a song he liked with me. It was actually life changing moment lol
He showed the smallest amount of kindness to me and I fell hard lol. Shared his food with me, opened things for me, told me to be self-confident, and just generally made me smile when we were together. I didn’t think much of the guy when we first met but after all that he was the most beautiful thing I’d ever seen lol. I’m not sure I’ll ever feel that way about someone again
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My friend guided me into a coffee shop by gently putting his hand at the small of my back. That simple, guiding gesture instantly endeared him to me. My feelings toward him changed in an instant.
We’ve been married 42 years.
Manners, a man with good manners. Not even big things, but hiding or opening the door, being polite to staff in stores or shops, saying please and thank you, and just noticing things. It’s an instance hit for me
My husband will go out of his way to pick the cat up at any time and he fully settles her so her little front legs hang down over his arm like a jaguar in a tree. She looks so cute and comfy and he just pets and loves on her (all the while saying how much he hates cats). They’re just so cute together and I love seeing his genuine affection for her even if every word out of his mouth is him lying and saying he hates cats.
Being just suddenly thoughtful out of nowhere
I find men more attractive when they floss and care about their health/hygene in general. So many sloppy men out there.
So I’m not sure if this counts or not, but I was at Subway and this girl was working on an online order. She was reading through the ticket and she started nodding her head back and forth in a “yeah yeah yeah, I read that part already” kind of way. And I just thought it was cute as hell. The reason I don’t know whether or not it counts is because I h̶a̶v̶e̶ had a massive crush on her before that. She probably could have committed murder in front of me, and I would have thought it was cute.
Genuinely ask if I’m okay, how I’m feeling after something that triggered my anxiety happened.
Initiating eye contact with a smile. It can really lift ny day up from a 3 to a 7 instantly. A look and a smile is all it takes
He fixed something on a piece of equipment. With his hands.
I don’t know if it was really small, but… He put some real effort into giving good, thoughtful support and advice to a shared friend who had asked for it.
In that moment, my view of him changed from “he’s nice, but it’s good that he’s busy a lot or else he’d be a little much” to “I can’t get enough of his company and I’ll make him a priority”.
Overheard a guy behind me on the bus asking to kids if this was there stop, and where they were supposed to get off, they answered that they were going to the end station. In front of them sat the dad and chimed in on the conversation, not in an angry way though. The guy thought that the two young kids were alone on the bus and just wanted to make sure they got off at the right stop.
He listened to hear me not just to respond, I have never felt seen and heard like that before.
pulled out the chair for me
Smiling at me
Touched my penis
People who willing show kindness to others, no matter who it is. Its beautiful.
Not necessarily small or more attractive but when people donate they’re time and money to help the less fortunate ie: homeless and starving people it just shows they have a big heart and have empathy for those people as do I