What’s something someone said that made you feel like a secret superpower of yours had just been discovered?
What’s something someone said that made you feel like a secret superpower of yours had just been discovered?
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What’s something someone said that made you feel like a secret superpower of yours had just been discovered?
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Many people told me that i look mysterious and they find difficult to understand what’s going on my mind.
Yes this a superpower when u barely know someone. But with people you know closely. They can read my face n expressions…they know that I’m not mysterious and whats going in my head most of time..
One time, someone told me I was “too emotional” during a conversation about something that really mattered to me. It made me feel like my feelings weren’t valid or important, which honestly hurt more than the original issue. It took me a while to realize that being emotional isn’t a weakness, it’s just part of how I process things.
I’ve also had people dismiss my concerns by saying “calm down” or “you’re overthinking it.” Instead of helping, it just made me shut down and feel misunderstood. Now, I try to be more patient with others when they’re upset, because I know how damaging those words can be.
A couple of months into dating my ex, we went out to a pub with my parents and their friends. The women eventually ended up grouped together at one end with the men at the other end. I told him I’d be right back and went to chat with the women.
When we got back that night, he told me it’s amazing the way I walk into a group of people and they seem to gravitate around me, the way I lead a conversation, make everyone laugh. He said I’m the life of the party without dominating it.
And it really is my secret superpower. I have terrible social anxiety but I’ve learned that faking it til you make it is the way to go. If you can make yourself seen, make others feel heard, it really relaxes the whole vibe and you won’t feel so out of place. I went from the “I thought you were a bitch when I first met you” stereotype when I was younger to the “yay you’re here, everyone loves being around you” woman once I figured this out.
There have been many times when people comment on how incredible it is that I can “read” people so quickly. One example, my friend group got introduced to this couple, just had a single dinner, and everyone was like omg theyre so sweet blah blah blah. I said something along the lines of I think theres something wrong, he gave me controlling vibes and she gave me drama/cheater vibes. I said that them moving in with our other friend wouldnt last long. Barely made it a month because they would constantly fight, he was an abusive and controlling alcoholic and she would go out and party and cheat to get a rise out of him. I thought it was just normal to clock subtle observations and analyze them.