I’m still friendly with him, but I’m waiting for an invitation from his side. He always says ‘we should do [xyz] some time’, but he never initiates anything. That was one of the reasons I broke up with him. I was tired of making all the decisions.
My ex sexually assaulted me and then spread rumors that I cheated on him and was trying to turn my friends against me so like… you can connect the dots from here
His lies confused me. It will already take me years to get back to the reality of who I really am and what I really want. Contacting him will just add to the clock.
I still resent him but I did forgive him quite some time ago. Only because I refuse to let him have anymore control over me. Even my own feelings 😒 Me reaching out after 9 years of complete no contact, would only feel like I didn’t care about rehabilitating myself, to overcome all the traumas and damage he has caused me….
I think it’s peaceful to think that you were a part of a stage of each others lives, and it’s okay that neither of you are in the stage now- let it be, and embrace the new stage.
Never crossed my mind, and now am realising people do this. Don’t get me wrong I’ve thought about them, but to contact them is not the kind of person I am
He showed me who he really was at the end. I wanted to walk away amicably, but I knew reaching out for closure would just hurt me more because he was incapable of emotional depth and maturity. 🤷🏼♀️
I just remembered the yearning, it was like grieving someone who I was still gallivanting with, it was sooo much more painful than just going no contact completely
He was a very different person when we were dating and was still a good friend when we initially broke up, but then he completely flipped a switch once I started seeing someone else and I don’t want to have a n y contact with the person he is now lol
Always needed to be on call for him but whenever I had a weak moment and needed him, I was alone. Which is a blessing, cause it makes it easier to move on.
The feeling that it would be taking a step backwards. Even when I would visit him home from college, which I did every break, for the second before I entered I would be holding my breath. It felt like back tracking. Now it feels even more like it. I’m about to go back to the old neighborhood for my friends cc graduation and truthfully I’m dreading it. I haven’t been back since the break up. The fear of potentially all of that crashing back down on me. Idk.
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Having broken up with them.
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The lack of any interest or reason to ever do so.
Not wanting to
Self preservation
Knowing who would be answering.
Maturity
I gamified it! I downloaded an app that recorded how many days of no contact there had been (for the A-types that need a goal oriented incentive lol)
I don’t want to go back to the mental abuse. My peace of mind is priceless.
Lack of reason to
Wont mentaly handle to get trigger again by some stuff/words , no more big time. I choose peace
I’m still friendly with him, but I’m waiting for an invitation from his side. He always says ‘we should do [xyz] some time’, but he never initiates anything. That was one of the reasons I broke up with him. I was tired of making all the decisions.
Alcohol
He won’t respond to me
Being able to recognise through self development that it wasn’t healthy, I did things wrong too and I acknowledge.
Not having a reason to.
My ex sexually assaulted me and then spread rumors that I cheated on him and was trying to turn my friends against me so like… you can connect the dots from here
Breaking no contact to the point where there is no interest to reach out again first
Beeing free.
His lies confused me. It will already take me years to get back to the reality of who I really am and what I really want. Contacting him will just add to the clock.
I still resent him but I did forgive him quite some time ago. Only because I refuse to let him have anymore control over me. Even my own feelings 😒 Me reaching out after 9 years of complete no contact, would only feel like I didn’t care about rehabilitating myself, to overcome all the traumas and damage he has caused me….
I think it’s peaceful to think that you were a part of a stage of each others lives, and it’s okay that neither of you are in the stage now- let it be, and embrace the new stage.
Why would I reach out to an ex? Been there, done that. Also OP I love your username 😂🫶🏽
Never crossed my mind, and now am realising people do this. Don’t get me wrong I’ve thought about them, but to contact them is not the kind of person I am
I found out that over the course of the entire 5 years we were together, he was dodging child support for a disabled child I didn’t even know existed.
I left him on “Message Request”.
I have had no reason, interest, or desire to do so, so nothing has prompted that
After I left he called me (this was the early 90s,) told me a coworker gave him a ring so they were now engaged.
I really didn’t want to be part of his drama and this topped his typical bs. I wasn’t mad either just didn’t have time for it.
That they’re a piece of shit
He showed me who he really was at the end. I wanted to walk away amicably, but I knew reaching out for closure would just hurt me more because he was incapable of emotional depth and maturity. 🤷🏼♀️
cease and desist letter 🙂 <3
The fact that I have no wish to ever see or speak to the arsehole again.
Rewatched all the videos I took to remind myself the hell I lived in twice.
I just remembered the yearning, it was like grieving someone who I was still gallivanting with, it was sooo much more painful than just going no contact completely
They’re an ex… Why would I reach out? Why would they reach out to me? It ended. So therefore… the end.
Knowing better.
When I saw he’d changed his profile picture to a selfie of him looking “thoughtfully” into the distance with a soul patch and a fedora.
You want to look like a pick up artist, you do you, dude. Keep it away from me.
Self-respect
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Like others have said, there’s no reason to. I don’t want them back and I also don’t want my exes to be part of my life currently.
The fact that they are an ex
Remembering how he hurt me.
He was a very different person when we were dating and was still a good friend when we initially broke up, but then he completely flipped a switch once I started seeing someone else and I don’t want to have a n y contact with the person he is now lol
Probably the complete blocking and deleting of everything about them from my life
What kind of people do you guys even date to get these kinds of responses?
Always needed to be on call for him but whenever I had a weak moment and needed him, I was alone. Which is a blessing, cause it makes it easier to move on.
he got remarried and has a kid now. Sometimes I wanna reach out just to see how he’s doing, but I refrain out of respect for her.
He’s my Ex.
That he never took me seriously and that already is humiliating to me
He didn’t want me to.
The feeling that it would be taking a step backwards. Even when I would visit him home from college, which I did every break, for the second before I entered I would be holding my breath. It felt like back tracking. Now it feels even more like it. I’m about to go back to the old neighborhood for my friends cc graduation and truthfully I’m dreading it. I haven’t been back since the break up. The fear of potentially all of that crashing back down on me. Idk.
He put his hands on me, I’m not going down that road again. Ever.
Trying so hard to not right now. Jesus take the wheel
Having my husband be better than them.
Preservation. I am my best friend and I would never let my friend hurt herself like that.