When someone dies, and you pay your respects, say something like, “I learned something from him (or her) that has made my life better. What I learned was, How Not to Treat People.”
Toxic positivity. Especially when it’s in communities that might involve a lot of personal growth and other things like that. It’s just this minimum effort thing and people act like they are these great people.
When women describe their boyfriend/husband personality as like a golden retriever. “Golden retriever energy” “He’s just a big golden retriever” etc.
On the surface it’s innocuous enough and is to mean he’s playful, not too serious, loyal, and kind. But I have a golden retriever. He’s a good boy, but he is also the biggest airhead on the planet, has the shortest attention span ever, and is extremely overexcitable. These are all fine traits for a dog. But human beings are more complex than dogs. I find it kind of demeaning and disrespectful.
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“You’re doing so well, considering your circumstances.”
You’re smarter than you look!
“That was a good one, for you”
When someone dies, and you pay your respects, say something like, “I learned something from him (or her) that has made my life better. What I learned was, How Not to Treat People.”
Toxic positivity. Especially when it’s in communities that might involve a lot of personal growth and other things like that. It’s just this minimum effort thing and people act like they are these great people.
Bless your heart
Billie Eilish
“Have you lost weight? You look good”
Sorry you feel that way
“Bless your heart”
When telling someone who is religious that I’m an atheist and they beg the question on why, because “you seem like you’re an intelligent person”. 😅
You clean up nice!
How precious
Bless your heart.
Take care, <insert your name>
You look good for your age.
When someone tells you how strong you are, they’re basically saying they would off themselves if they were you
I can understand how you might see it that way
When people pretend to help with advice but attach some judgments and assumptions to it.
Does that make sense?
Not to be rude but …………
“I admire how confidently you discuss books”
“It’s all in your head. I promise everything is okay. “
When women describe their boyfriend/husband personality as like a golden retriever. “Golden retriever energy” “He’s just a big golden retriever” etc.
On the surface it’s innocuous enough and is to mean he’s playful, not too serious, loyal, and kind. But I have a golden retriever. He’s a good boy, but he is also the biggest airhead on the planet, has the shortest attention span ever, and is extremely overexcitable. These are all fine traits for a dog. But human beings are more complex than dogs. I find it kind of demeaning and disrespectful.
“I’m sorry to hear that…”
You look healthy
“You look tired.”
Either you are tired, it shows, and you look like shit. Or you’re not tired and you still look like shit.
You’re not that old!
“She was Black, but she was really very bright!”
“He’s a Black guy but he’s really good-looking!”
You have such a pretty face -to me a morbidly obese person.
“You’re a lucky man.” In reference to a man’s wife.
Completely socially acceptable way to say, “I’d f*** your wife.”
“It’s just impossible to underestimate you isn’t it?”
You’re pretty. You’d be gorgeous if you lost weight.
For a fat girl you don’t sweat much.
“You make (insert something you don’t like) more enjoyable, when you come with me”