Only unconventional answers. No “communication”, we all know how important that is.
What’s something unconventional you did that made your sex 1000 times better?
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Only unconventional answers. No “communication”, we all know how important that is.
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Pegged the fuck out of him.
And now that I found out he was cheating on me the entire time, I don’t mind telling the whole world….. Including his *best friends*…… That I pegged him 😛
(Especially because he was coercing the other woman, who is now my friend, into doing it too and she honestly didn’t want to but he was manipulating her with lines to break her guard down. So. Fuck him. And I pegged your butthole, Mr. Bass Player)
Bought a small hand mirror. Yeah I know how that sounds but being able to actually see what was happening from different angles was incredibly hot and educational.
Stopped having it with men.
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Learning to love my body
+1 with mirrors, having two wall mirrors in the bedroom lets me see his face all the time, which made some positions much more interesting.
Also including prostate stimulation made things more fun for sure.
Oh and a cozy moisture proof blanket lol, no more post coital sheet changing is a true gift.
..reverse 69 maybe?
Me under, him on top. Idk why I enjoy it more.
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Keep a basket full of rags next to the bed
Having it with someone I actually love
Reading out loud to one another.
It activated our voices and opened up communication. When we both got good at articulating what we want, things took the fuck off!
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Bringing toys into the bedroom 👌
Stopped worrying about my body. Boyfriend and me are wrinkly old fuckers. We do just fine, mostly because we laugh a lot and make accommodations with humor and love. I remember being younger with a new man and worrying so much about what my body looked like. It wasn’t really that enjoyable for me because I was in my head about my body. Well, that shit stopped with my current boyfriend. He made me look at myself and showed me how beautiful I am. Now sex is awesome!
Edging honestly it changed everything for us 😊 and it’s fun .
Talked and actively learned about it.
Told him I trusted him to accept a no so he didn’t need to ask for consent, he could just go for it. He stopped worrying and was able to focus on the right things.
When young, thinking about sex all day long. It was a tip from the magazine Cosmopolitan. “Have sex like a man”.
Now that we have been married over 30 years, sending him spicy pictures during the day. He requested the first one, and I sent a picture of my back. Granny pants on, jeans on, skin. He loved it! Then I began to buy cheap panties to send him pictures. If they didn’t fit (I’m rather large) , I would cut them on both sides and add ribbon to tie them together. And he would come home all excited to meet the new panties.
So, in a way, they’re both the same. I was thinking about sex all day.
I had a pelvic tilt which I was working on correcting for unrelated athletic reasons. When I corrected it during sex suddenly he wasn’t hitting my cervix anymore. 1000x better
Tied up my ex-husband since he wouldn’t listen to me. He thought I was being kinky.
Brought toys into the bedroom with my current husband. We really play. It is wonderful.
Weed
I got a baby wipes dispenser that looks neutral -it’s the oxo one- and put it on the bedside table.
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VCH piercing.
Went off birth control lol. We are actively trying to conceive, and I wouldn’t recommend this for anyone who doesn’t want a baby, but man having my own real hormones regulated has really done wonders for us. We are 5 years in and having sex every second day at least for the last 5 months.
Also, in 2024 we set a goal of how many times we wanted to have sex in the year, as we hadn’t had it much the year before (maybe once a week) and felt we were too early in our relationship for it to be so infrequent. We decided on 120, 10 times a month, and ended up having sex over 160 times 😅 once we started doing it more frequently, and making time for it during the week, it became a much bigger part of our relationship. It did feel a bit like a chore at first, but very quickly stopped and started to feel like when we first started dating!
Embrace the awkwardness and silliness lol I’m not convinced every guy would be into that but, mine is and we have a lot of fun 🤗
Holding my kegels while I work out and lift things at work. Completely changed my vagina.
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Meditate and breathing exercise together before continuing on to sex. I’ll sit on his lap facing him, we’ll take some deep breaths. It helps me really get into my body and sex is so much more powerful
Lube
Changed our definition of sex. Too many people consider PiV the only viable definition of sex but when we opened it to include everything from oral to parallel masturbation our sense of closeness well got even closer.
Went off the pill. Sex was always a bit painful for me until I stopped taking it.
Blindfolds on either him or me. Or lights off. I can only focus on the pleasure when there’s fewer distractions or stimulations
Who has huge jumps in their sex lives like this? I have never done anything that 1000X my sex life. How bad were y’all’s sex lives?
Mirrors.
Actually stopped caring how I look naked
Probably not the answer you’re looking for, but I accepted my gender identity. I realized I didn’t want to be “domme” within the confines of femininity—I just wanted to be dom in a masc way. I’m a lot more comfortable with male-centered language (he, boy, etc) being used during intimacy to refer to me, and having a partner who didn’t just see me as a cis woman (I’m transmasc NB) changed everything.
Embracing my kinks. Fucking people who are educated, experienced, and ethical
Weed
Adding toys to the bedroom during penetrative, best feeling ever for me.
Having sex on an edible. Transcendent.
Started having it with someone who I actually love. Really does make a difference. Who knew?
Getting towels and wet wipes within hand reach before you start. Makes the awkward waddling to the bathroom with your hand between your legs a lot easier and less messy.