What’s something you never got to say to your parents — but still wish you could?
What’s something you never got to say to your parents — but still wish you could?
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What’s something you never got to say to your parents — but still wish you could?
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I appreciate you being you.
At the time, this was confusing and scary. Now that am I am older. I like the belief that I understand you.
You couldn’t even do the bare minimum.
I wish they never had kids. Both my parents have expressed their regret over being parents. My Mom would always tell me as a child how she dreamed of being a flight attendant and travel the world, but couldn’t because she had kids. My father told me to my face, he feels his life would have been better if he never had kids and only wanted sons (he got two daughter). I also would love to tell my father how hurt I was that he got married without telling me and doesn’t see any issue with it.
I wish they wouldn’t have had kids until they were financially stable and healed from their own traumas. My father has shown me what to look for in a partner, my mother what to become as a woman, and both of them what to be as a parent based on all the mistakes they’ve made; I know strive to be dislike them in every way and get very unsettled when they compliment me.
My parents are still alive, but due to our Caribbean/African culture and how taboo it is to bring awareness to your elders’ wrongdoings, I know I’ll never tell them and die with these thoughts.
My mom died when she was 48 and I was 18. I wish I would have asked her what she liked. I’m older or now and it occurs to me from time to time that I never knew her hobbies or interests. I can barely compile a list of foods she liked. We never got to that age of being friends with your mom.
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