What’s something you picked up in your 30s and immediately thought, damn, why wasn’t I doing this ten years ago?
What’s something you picked up in your 30s and immediately thought, damn, why wasn’t I doing this ten years ago?
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What’s something you picked up in your 30s and immediately thought, damn, why wasn’t I doing this ten years ago?
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Let them
Giving less fucks. Honestly.
I wish I would have gotten LASIK at 25 instead of 35.
Consistent exercise and eating clean (but I know why lol)
Weight lifting
Ignoring people trying to stop me in public. I do not care, leave me alone and I don’t owe you anything.
Taking better care of myself, like eating healthy and exercising. And caring less of what people think of me or how I am perceived by others.
Guitar!
Not allowing siblings disrespect and bullying to go unchecked. Anyone can say their piece but intentional disrespect and attempted bullying isn’t flying.
Lifting weights
Divorce
I realized I didn’t need a partner to be happy and have an awesome life. I eventually met an amazing partner after I stopped trying so hard, but I was perfectly happy on my own too.
actually giving a shit about sleep. like, not bragging about pulling all-nighters, but treating sleep like it matters. changed everything — mood, focus, even how i handle stress. wish i figured that out way earlier.
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Saying no!
Daily exercise.
Pilates, kayaking, gourmet cupcake baking, intersex advocacy, snake rescue and rehab.
When I can around clinicals and such, at least.
Investing
Day trading
Anti-anxiety medication. I was afraid of psychiatric medication for so long, but it’s been one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.
Therapy and saying NO without giving a reason.
Jump roping – it’s so fun for me! Great cardio
Being really strict with and about men. I was way too understanding and open to bullshit in my 20s
Quit doing things for the sake of others. Chose myself and my needs
Eating healthy and not working myself to the bone X3
Sobriety. Going to bed early. Consistent exercise
Having a very small inner circle and rarely venturing outside of it. It’s so comfortable and it’s nice to feel like I can call my closest people “home”.
Cutting off toxic relatives
Meditation
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Birkenstocks. Younger me would have laughed at older me lol
My husband
Embroidery. Absolutely love it.
That and saying no to people so I can keep my peace.
Setting boundaries. “No” is a complete sentence
Appreciating my body and not focusing on the parts I don’t like. The confidence boost that came along with it had a positive impact in multiple areas of my life.
Sunscreen
Setting and maintaining boundaries with my mother.
Does getting sterilized count?
Going natural – no makeup, no doing my hair
Watching basketball
Saying no to circumstances, places and people that don’t serve me.
Therapy
Going to bed before midnight.
Who knew sleep wasn’t just for the weak, but actually makes you hot, happy, and less likely to commit crimes?
taking naps
Strength training
Golf.
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Sex…
Using a menstrual cup. No more nasty pads and tampons in the bathroom trash and only have to empty it twice a day. Wish I would have known about these things when I was in my teens.
Stretching. I broke my back at 23 and PT was a friggin joke. Didn’t take stretching seriously until I hit 30 and now my back doesn’t hurt every day!
Boundaries.
Riding my bike to work
40s. Going to yoga class! I did it on YouTube for years but actually going in person is so much better. I love it.
A therapist.
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Setting boundaries.
29, but golf tbh it’s a great sport, competitive but fun with the right people!
Spending more time outdoors, like hiking, camping, backpacking, climbing, paddle boarding
Weight lifting.
Fuck politeness. I taught this to my girl scout troop in an age appropiate way. Using my voice to stand up for myself, especially with men and doctors.
Skin care! I used to treat my skin like an afterthought and I’d regularly get pimple break outs or dry skin. After a friend taught me more about skin care are different types of products and how to use them, I got into it and incorporated it into my daily routine. My skin is so so much better now!
Cleaning on the go. I always clean something up before I leave a room. My apartment is so tidy!
Put myself first (to an extent I do have 3 kids).
Sport
Yoga
Skiing. Would have been way easier to learn when my knees weren’t so crunchy.
exercise and clean eating in my 30s
Actual boundaries.
Driving 💀
Taking my own wants and needs into consideration
Bring flirty for fun!
Ditching work events by claiming I had something on with my kids. Children are a godsend when you’re an introvert, you always have a ready excuse.
Sleeping around.
Investing heavily for retirement, making it a priority.
Saving money 😭😭😭
Ice Hockey
Doing deadhangs regularly! I just started doing 1 minute deadhangs over a week ago, and even after just 2 days of consistently doing it, my posture has improved significantly and my body/back/shoulders feel SO much looser and stretched out! I would highly recommend it. Aside: I started doing them because I want to eventually be able to do monkey bars again(which will take a bit more time).
The greatest health hack: ignoring unsolicited comments/advice from str8 Men©
Regular yoga classes
Ditching the whole people-pleasing thing. Living at home, that’s just how we rolled for everything, so it’s been a hard unlearn. But honestly, every time I manage to say no and stick up for myself, I give myself a high-five.
I’m so over overdoing things and thinking burnout makes me a hero.
Standing up for myself and setting healthy boundaries- especially with family!!
Traveling more. But actually I know the reasons, I had no money back then and no possibility to work because of my studies.
Regretting things, like in the long run.
Eating healthy and walking
Relaxing and letting things happen without stressing about them.
Antidepressants
Living all my days off like I’m in holiday. Paddle boarding, brunching, yoga class.
I loathe wasting my days with a hangover. So I do resort living as soon as I’m off the clock. It’s magical.
Wearing tampons. They used to scare me so much but they are much easier and less messy
Electric toothbrush
less stress, more self-care in 30s
I once read we get about 4,000 weeks to live if we’re lucky— I wasted too many in my 20s postponing happiness. I’m not doing that in my 30s. 1,658 weeks gone already. Focusing on living now.
Expensive shampoo and conditioner and hair routine is very worth it for my hair. Hair used to be the worst mess.
Running, prioritizing sleep and saying NO
Zoloft
Having a weekly cleaning schedule for my home. I used to just wait to do all the big cleaning in one day and it would burn me out and I wouldn’t complete everything I needed to do.
Gym