What’s something you secretly judge other men for, even though you probably shouldn’t?
What’s something you secretly judge other men for, even though you probably shouldn’t?
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What’s something you secretly judge other men for, even though you probably shouldn’t?
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How they carry themselves
Their moral conviction
Partying
If they like pro wrestling, I get concerned.
I don’t know if I *shouldn’t,* because it’s been a pretty reliable indicator on whether we’ll get along, but a limp or weak handshake is difficult for me to stomach. I don’t want to feel like I just held your hand for no reason. There is also such a thing as too firm.
How they treat people in customer service, if you’re a dick ordering a coffee then you’re probably a dick in general lol.
Work ethic.
Let’s be honest, it’s not really any of my business. But, if I see some dong who just puts in minimal effort with his work, whatever that work may be, it irks me.
Don’t get me wrong, I won’t say anything. I’ll keep a lid on it and go on about my merry way. But, in the back of my mind, it drives me nuts. I get that some jobs are not fulfilling, but to me if I’m getting paid to be there I’m going to do the best job I can. It doesn’t matter if the job is crappy, I accepted the position and i’m going to give it all I can to do well. Others have different takes and that’s fine.
Bad grammar
Driving shitty cars. Like broken lights, bumper hanging off, cracked windshield, dents everywhere, that sort of thing.
Unironic “tactical” gear. Backward caps. Bad rim choices on otherwise nice cars. Music tastes.
Whenever I’m in some kind of mixed gender NSFW community and I see dudes try to post thirst trap photos like women do I always kind of think it’s pathetic. Really they’re just doing the same thing women are but when it’s made apparent that nobody is interested in what they’re posting and they do it anyway it’s just pitiful.
Lack of effort in their fashion. Every bar I go to, loaded with men who either gave up decades ago or never even tried to develop some kind of aesthetic identity.
And anytime I see a man and woman in the men’s department of a store and she is the one picking out clothes for him while he just says yeah whatever… Disgusting
Well, I judge everyone by their table manners so that includes men.
Are they worth a shit at work. I fucking hate having to be the guy that fixes other guys short cuts.
The vehicle they drive. If I see a big jacked up truck with huge mud tires I instantly think you’re probably a asshole, Dbag, Boy. The same goes for guys who drive any type of sports car especially mustangs.
How they show up for their children.
Neck, throat, face, head, finger, or hand tattoos. You have a visible tattoo that isn’t on your arms or legs then I’m judging the fuck out of you. They’re called job stoppers for a reason
The way they provide “future outlook” to their kids.
“If you don’t do well in school, you’ll end up like him,” while pointing at a guy who’s working as a garbage man, electrician, mechanic, anything remotely not a “first choice” type of job etc.
Sometimes, when shit doesn’t work out, you make do with what’s available at the time.
Sloppy style and ball caps. 🧢
Their ability to stay married.
If they cannot fix anything. I blame their fathers as well.
If a man’s wife doesn’t take his last name, I secretly judge him for it “even though I shouldn’t.”
Firmness of their handshake.
I judge you if it’s at either end of the spectrum. If it’s super light and you don’t really even take my hand I assume you either don’t take me seriously or you’re weird about physical contact with other men.
If you try to rip my fuckin hand off I assume you have a fragile ego and this is your attempt at a power play which is frankly pathetic.
Just a nice average handshake tells me you’re taking the introduction and me seriously but are aware it’s just a form of greeting and not a dick measuring contest.
The people here forgot the “even though you shouldn’t” part of the prompt, because these judgements seem pretty reasonable.
“I judge other men by the content of their character, even though I shouldn’t.”
No, you should.
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Here’s a proper example. I think earrings on men look stupid, and I’m disinclined to like men who have them, even though I know that’s not fair. Bad fashion doesn’t mean someone is a creep or a weirdo (what the hell are you doing here?) who doesn’t belong here.
How some dudes I know have just gave up and let that gut grow, riding the dad bod excuse. Leaving a hot wife with a fresh Homer Simpson physique. I suppose Forever single isn’t so bad, keeps the wolf in fighting form forever hungry. It’s easy to go south, with all the tasty things, I went there. I hit 275 at the worst and wheeled it back to 190. just had to quit that booze was all. And anything with a drive through.
If they absolutely live for their sports team of choice. There’s no harm in it so I shouldn’t judge.
Lots of answers already in here where you definitely should judge people for doing the thing mentioned.
Everything
Body building. I get being fit, but overly large muscles (when you don’t need them, I’m looking at you Mr IT Network Admin) just seems narcissistic.
I find it weak when i see guys have their girlfriends order for them at the register
If they like pokemon my ex once said.
How they groom/maintain their beard. Sometimes it’s a good indication of how their mental health is.
Modding older luxury cars.
Lexus put a billion dollars into designing the LS430 and your turbo charger and VIP interior only make it worse. Tires should be flat to the ground and the specified size. Of course you aren’t getting a great ride on 22s stuffed into a 19″ hole.
Personal vehicles and how they’re kept/modified
Who they’re dating (or who they married)
Manscaping, and whether or not they can work on a car.
Not being the slightest bit handy.
Its so fucking easy to do very minimal amount of home maintenance or DIY work and yet out of every guy I hear the same shit “Yeah I’m not confident enough to do that myself”. Like bro … its just work, its not rocket science. Watch a youtube video and just wing it until you figure out what you’re doing.
Gun ownership.
There are plenty of legitimate reasons to own a gun and plenty of responsible gun owners, but I associate all of them with the NRA lobbyists who accused the Sandy Hook parents of being paid actors. Doesn’t help that the NRA has a double standard when it comes to defending gun ownership for minorities. (Philando Castile)
Shoes……..seems shallow………but I judge other men by their shoes
I hate men who aren’t doing anything with their lives
No hobbies one minimum wage job no aspirations no long-term goals no girlfriend choosing to stagnate
I hate it. A man should be moving. Maybe at a run, Maybe at a crawl but always moving.
Definitely cheating as it’s not really ever addressed in guys groups
Pot belly.
height. i know its bad but i just do it subconsciously
How big their legs are, may be cause im also a dude into dudes but i think the skinnier another man’s legs, the less i worry about him being a threat
When they say something to me that doesn’t necessarily require a response but look at me too long as if seeking approval. I can intellectually understand the humanness behind that but it still gives me that “ick they’re weak” sensation.
How they treat others that don’t match their sexuality or political points of view. And this is pretty common, having lived with multiple roommates the past decade of my life.
It’s somehow okay to talk about women and sexual preferences of women, but if a guy so much as mentions “I have a boyfriend,” then the next hour behind their back will be “I don’t care if you’re a faggot, but don’t rub it in our faces.”
I’ve seen this a lot in AA groups which is pretty sad considering it’s supposed to be a non-judgmental place for alcoholics to speak freely. Someone mentions they have a boyfriend or gasp they’re MARRIED to another guy, and it’s the topic of conversation for the night after the meeting.
I don’t get how some people don’t see the hypocrisy. So it’s cool for us to talk about ass and pussy and bitches, but a gay guy who, very reluctantly during a time of allowed openness, mentions they have a relationship with the opposite sex, and it’s this big issue. It’s two-faced and makes me feel less inclined to want to have a proper conversation with that person.
Usually aligns with their politics as well, which I won’t dive into. I think it’s healthy to speak politics while trying to remain unbiased and accept when you’re right or wrong. That’s one thing. It’s another when you speak politics and condemn anyone who thinks even slightly different than you.
This isn’t a world of black and white, it’s a world of many colors and shades, and it’s okay to change your mind, defend your beliefs and opinions, or agree to disagree without dragging someone’s character through the dirt.
How you treat others based off their background, sexuality, color, or belief says a lot about you as a man.
Being stupid. They can’t help it.
If you have a pristine truck, I am judging you as a poser.
If they workout/lift regularly
Their gait. So many dudes have horrifically shit gaits.
Having strong opinions on things they couldn’t or can’t do themselves or have no real knowledge on. So most of the internet 😂