What’s something you secretly wish your partner would do in bed, but you’re too nervous to ask for?

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What’s something you secretly wish your partner would do in bed, but you’re too nervous to ask for?

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  1. TheWhitestPerson Avatar

    release one wasp into the room and turn the lights off to create a sense of danger

  2. [deleted] Avatar

    I’m desperate for him to tie me up and just do whatever he wants to me

  3. xsrd__ Avatar

    Being rough with me.

  4. Bimbo-Brittany Avatar

    Try out new kinks just to see if we like anything different

  5. GuybrushFunkwood Avatar

    Stop stealing the fucking duvet.

  6. WomanNotAGirl Avatar

    If I want it I ask for it. If you can’t communicate your needs with someone you are bumping uglies with why are you even exchanging bodily fluids

  7. Creepybobo67 Avatar

    She wants me to finish inside her (without a condom on) but doesn’t want to get pregnant. I want to propose potentially trying anal as a solution, but I don’t think she’d be up for it.

  8. Angelrez_ Avatar

    in the past i was way too nervous to ask someone i was dating if it would be okay for me to eat his ass and give him a foot job lmfao

  9. Better-Werewolfer Avatar

    @F
    how do i ask her to sit on my face

  10. Witchmother- Avatar

    give me some blanket

  11. Mcsmack Avatar

    Any sort of sexual contact at all.

  12. twhoff Avatar

    Stop watching shows on her laptop until midnight or go to the lounge room

  13. IamLiving6 Avatar

    Kissing too long

  14. No-Zucchini2787 Avatar

    Stop rolling in sheets when sleeping. I want sheet too.

  15. HolidayThanks3412 Avatar

    Tickle torture me

  16. Potential_Security43 Avatar

    To be more dominating… More rough.. he’s genuinely such a nice guy that at times he gets so guilty that he’s hurting me not knowing I like it worse.. well it’s not a secret wish… He knows it and he always tries better….

  17. Oxynod Avatar

    Find my prostate.

  18. Raregem_2021 Avatar

    Prioritise my pleasure. Pay attention to my boobs, suck them, play with them a lot or anything.

  19. TailorOk5721 Avatar

    Tie me to a chair and hide me in a closet for 24 hours purely for her use whenever she wants

  20. SteamyJohanne Avatar

    Just absolutely dominate me. He is far too kind and I can’t complain since it is the quality that made us hook up in the first place.

  21. Bumble-Boo77 Avatar

    Just pound the living hell out of me. Nice, sweet, slow sex has its place but sometimes I don’t want that. I want to be banged like a barn door.

  22. Oxofrmbl99 Avatar

    That’s what carnalcalibration is for. There you can find out where you match without embarrsing yourself.

  23. SmartVeterinarian387 Avatar

    i just wanna be loved.

  24. kayae_ Avatar

    I don’t have a partner but sometimes the cat sleeps in my bed. Stop taking the whole pillow you cat!!!

  25. MeandJohnWoo Avatar

    I want her on top and right as we both finish she just punches me dead in the face. Not the nose though cause that hurts. So if you see me with a black eye and a smile than fantasy achieved

  26. tangcameo Avatar

    Forgive me for falling asleep

  27. cheescakess Avatar

    Pound me like a fck toy

  28. anyvaii Avatar

    Be rougher. The sex is good, never complained and I love that we can both make each other feel good. But sometimes I wish she was more open-minded when it comes to kinks, but I respect that she only seems to like vanilla sex. Sometimes I still fantasize about it though, just a thought that I would never bring to action. Even if it’s just light choking or some hair pulling or maybe a few mean words here and there yk? Still, we’re both happy lil lesbians lol

  29. the_bird_and_the_bee Avatar

    I’m not afraid to ask my husband for anything. And he’s not afraid to give it to me. Communication is key to a successful relationship, in and out of the bedroom.

  30. c0smicgutz Avatar

    Take more initiative, like just randomly grab me and have your way with me!

  31. PewPewMrs810 Avatar

    Show some genuine desire.

  32. I_Have_Lost Avatar

    Cock worship. I’m usually much more of a giver in bed and I’m well aware of my “shortcomings” so I’ve always been more than willing to use my tongue and fingers and pull out the toys. But it’d be nice to have an evening to feel like my body, especially that aspect, is worthy on its own.

    But I feel like if I ever asked for it, what I’d get would at best be inauthentic or at worst have her actively turned off. So I keep it to myself.

  33. mamashubby Avatar

    To come back.

  34. Weird-Course9111 Avatar

    Not giving up so fast when giving me oral. I love it and he quits too fast

  35. lostknight0727 Avatar

    Initiating ANYTHING

  36. marceline-vampire Avatar

    scoot. tf. off MY SIDE OF THE BED. its huge why am i on the EDGE

  37. emsesq Avatar

    If you’re too timid to ask for what you want, you’ll never get it.

  38. RevealIntelligent737 Avatar

    Talk dirty to me – that can be so hot

  39. clangley24 Avatar

    he’s pretty receptive of a lot of things. Sometimes though I really want to ✨sit on his face✨. But I don’t think he’d be into it🥲

  40. West_Breadfruit_4621 Avatar

    I like being called names, I like vulgar dirty talk and to be spanked so hard there’s a print on my bum. I doubt I could really get him to do the last one as I’m currently pregnant and I feel he’d probably worry about really hurting me but the other two I genuinely don’t know how to ask for.
    He’s super polite when dirty talking, which I honestly really love but sometimes I just want to be called really dirty degrading names

  41. stinkingyeti Avatar

    Hold me and tell me i’m good enough.

  42. trapcheck Avatar

    I don’t want one and done.

    I want to spend hours laying together just enjoying each others bodies and company and conversation.

    I want the world to just take a back seat to us and to focus on each other and our connection.

  43. DollfaceDeaditeXO Avatar

    CNC however, I’m married to the king of vanilla lol

  44. Cool-Roll-1884 Avatar

    I secretly want to be dominant. But that will probably never happen due to our height and weight differences lol.

  45. trojanphyllite Avatar

    I’d love more dirty talk please. I have been unable to ask this to anyone since I mustered up the courage to tell my first boyfriend this and he got super awkward and went “uh… you… you b*tch!!!!” Then I was laughing my ass off💀 Like Idk anymore, should I tell my partner an example sentence or something?

  46. friedeelguts Avatar

    Not necessarily nervous to ask, but I would highly appreciate it if my partner were to worship me from head to toe and tell me how much he is in love with me and desires me. To do this after spending the afternoon teasing and turning me on with neck kisses and rubbing on me in the areas that get me going while whispering in my ear what he’s going to do to me later >///< . I think that’s really what I want to happen for a while.

    I also want to do the same to him while I have a vibrator turned on inside of him. It sounds so yummy, would love to do so if he would let me.

  47. Rootenheimer Avatar

    Have sex with me

  48. Puzzled-Limit-1255 Avatar

    Being genuinely interested or perhaps being 100% honest about our relationship.

  49. Phalangebanshee Avatar

    Would love it if he would give cunnilingus once in a while without looking for reciprocation, or just gave me head, period.

    Or to care about my orgasm, gave him plenty but none for me…yay…

  50. marenkag Avatar

    Just take me do whatever he wants to me and just don’t even ask. Take your frustration out on me pleeeeeeaaasse 😫😫

  51. 69696969-69696969 Avatar

    Play with my hair and whisper words of praise and encouragement while I munch on a taco. To be clear I would very much like this out of the bedroom as well.

  52. being_human_sucks Avatar

    Dominate me completly. tease me until I’m begging to orgasm, then deny it and start it all over again. The idea of orgasms denial/control makes me very aroused. I mentioned it once i thought denial could be hot, completly embarrassed. Said we could try it but never did. Im too nerious they was actually repulsed by it to bring it up again.

  53. ConsciousAd2100 Avatar

    I secretly wish my partner would kick down the bedroom door dressed as a sexy international spy with a mysterious accent and questionable morals. Like, don’t just take off your shirt—slam a fake passport on the nightstand and whisper, “We don’t have much time.” But do I ask? No. I just casually bring up James Bond during dinner and hope for the best.

  54. bigthisguy1092 Avatar

    All these women want to be dicked down hard haha

  55. Zentavius Avatar

    The number of inboxes getting demolished on the back of this post…

  56. MrKains84 Avatar

    I genuinely want my wife to finger my ass. She did it once at the beginning of our relationship just out of the blue, cuz we were experimenting, and I had one of the strongest orgasms that I have ever had. This was in combination with her stroking me at the same time

  57. Royal_Scholar_6971 Avatar

    Be quiet while I’m sleeping… 💤

  58. zilch123 Avatar

    Sit on my face while you’re on the phone with your sister like you did back in October.

  59. NJ_casanova Avatar

    I just don’t know why. All my girlfriends had trouble telling me what they “Desire”.

    When will they learn that, ‘ you will get what you want if you speak up”.

    And people say, women are better at COMMUNICATION, LMFAO.

  60. Icy_Rub1203 Avatar

    Just once I’d love to be woken up by being sucked off. It’s been the ONE thing I have always wanted, but even when I voiced it to my partner/partners of past, it never came to fruition and I felt too insecure/too selfish to straight up ask for it.

  61. Royal_Ad5187 Avatar

    Pound the hell out of me aggressively and passionately. Eat my ass and pussy like it’s his last meal and he isn’t afraid of really getting in there

  62. freepain1059 Avatar

    be the one to initiate