I’ve recently been realizing how many of my “personal struggles” are actually super common among other men – things like overthinking texts, not knowing how to ask for help, or feeling pressure to always be “okay.” What’s something you thought was just your issue, but later found out a lot of other guys deal with too?
What’s something you thought only you struggled with, until you found out most guys do too?
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I’ve recently been realizing how many of my “personal struggles” are actually super common among other men – things like overthinking texts, not knowing how to ask for help, or feeling pressure to always be “okay.” What’s something you thought was just your issue, but later found out a lot of other guys deal with too?
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Imposter syndrome. I’m 46 years old with my own business and still feel like a bampot with a bank account some days. Knowing people depend on me, overwhelms me just for a wee minute and then I snap out of it, but for that minute I feel like I don’t know what I’m doing.
Depression. Anxiety. No Father. Drugs Abuse. Suicidal Tendencies. The lot really.
After I read the book “No More Mr Nice Guy” it was like reading a book about all the things that confused me about myself. I behave like a good person, think like a bad one, which always left me confused and upset.
I don’t think thats ‘most’ guys, but its a large enough subset of us.
finding meaning.
as a man, I’ve always been taught to work hard, provide, dont cry, “be a man”, but was never told necessarily WHY.
now that im going into my 30s and have had some time to meet people across North America, ive noticed men across different cultures simply dont have a “why”. sure they may believe they do, a family, business, friends, hell even your own personal journey might be your “why”. but you’ve ever been laying in bed late at night, cant sleep but dont look at your phone either so you sit in silence and start asking those “why” questions? and the more questions you ask, the more anxiety builds up? yeah. thats not just there to be there.
Feelings of inadequacy.
Having to get drunk on a first date.
I think most men are deeply lonely, but we’ve just accepted it as normal because we don’t want to burden anyone or seem needy