That everything must be fair and balanced. Nobody else is keeping score and the people who do are always so petty! I don’t want to be petty, I just want things to be fair but that’s not the world we live in. Helping someone doesn’t mean they’re now in my debt until they’ve done something of similar time/value for me. I should be doing these things simply because I want to and I’m comfortable to.
I grew up in a politically right-leaning household, with boomer parents. Obviously, their outdated, ignorant opinions on certain topics had an effect on me. I was a kid, and only ever heard their opinions on certain things, and no one else’s.
I used to be a die hard democrat, after Gaza….I no longer could ever call myself such. I had no idea how much evil Democrats had in them. I cannot support any party that not only supports but also will fund Zionism.
I thought America was civilized and had good educational institutions. The only ones who can afford quality education are the rich kids from Asian and SEA countries since they can pay in full and in cash.
That me being a good communicator and communicating my feelings, especially about the same thing multiple times, meant I was being too needy and overbearing. I wasn’t, I just kept seeing emotionally unavailable people. For the right person you can never communicate enough
I used to believe that no one really got up in the morning plotting how to ruin someone else’ life. Turns out I was married to him, and he absolutely did –every waking moment he wasn’t actually distracted by some comic or computer game…
I was an anti vaxxer before I took microbiology in college. I learned a lot in that class, including that I was way off about how vaccines work and their side effects!!
My aunt was a holistic medicine lady and my mom is a doctor, so I was always kind of caught in between those two worlds. Turns out, there’s a gray area, and science is much more trustworthy than I realized because of how many steps there are to validate studies. 🙂
Leftism. I was basically militant. Now I’m a conservative. Happened over around 6 years or so. Or it feels that way, maybe it was longer.
I’ve come to believe I was very wrong. Maybe I’ll go right back and think I am wrong now. Either way, I went from a diehard leftist to very much against giving government responsibilities (read: power) they can abuse.
Taking Adderall or other ADHD meds is okay to do if you in college.
I used to think it’s cheating if you do that. But mindset change when I took classes are realized how hard the work load is. If people feel like they need meds to study that’s more an issue with the education system than the person and don’t blame them at all.
That I could be anything i wanted to be. Yea, college has pretty much snuffed that light out. “It’s not what you know, it’s who you know,” I interpreted that as, “if you’re not buddy buddy with the hiring manager don’t bother applying.”
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I used to think being constantly busy meant I was successful.
Believed speaking up for myself made me difficult. Now I see it as self-respect.
I used to think saying “I don’t fancy whatever race “ was racist but as I got older I realised it isn’t
Used to see asking for help as weakness—now I see it as strength.
I genuinely thought people would treat me the way I treated them.
Thought healing was this neat, one-time event. It’s actually super messy and ongoing.
Working hard would guarantee success.
I used to think we could change people with our actions, but we can only control our own. How people treat you is a choice you cannot participate in.
Used to think I needed to earn rest. Now I rest because I exist.
That everything must be fair and balanced. Nobody else is keeping score and the people who do are always so petty! I don’t want to be petty, I just want things to be fair but that’s not the world we live in. Helping someone doesn’t mean they’re now in my debt until they’ve done something of similar time/value for me. I should be doing these things simply because I want to and I’m comfortable to.
That I could save people from themselves, if I tried hard enough.
Believed I’d be “behind in life” if I didn’t follow the traditional path.
Immigrants/Immigration = Bad.
Until I turned 15/16, or around that time.
I grew up in a politically right-leaning household, with boomer parents. Obviously, their outdated, ignorant opinions on certain topics had an effect on me. I was a kid, and only ever heard their opinions on certain things, and no one else’s.
I used to be a die hard democrat, after Gaza….I no longer could ever call myself such. I had no idea how much evil Democrats had in them. I cannot support any party that not only supports but also will fund Zionism.
That the United States was the best country in the world!
What others thought about me
I thought America was civilized and had good educational institutions. The only ones who can afford quality education are the rich kids from Asian and SEA countries since they can pay in full and in cash.
I really thought putting others first all the time made me a good person. It just made me burnt out
That me being a good communicator and communicating my feelings, especially about the same thing multiple times, meant I was being too needy and overbearing. I wasn’t, I just kept seeing emotionally unavailable people. For the right person you can never communicate enough
Things will work out
That horses were scary and kind of crazy. Coworkers after many attempts talked me into a trial ride, ended up linking now rode for 5 years.
That people care about other people. And that most people are smart enough to think for themselves
Religion.
That olives were gross. Now I love them
That the universe would reward you for being good.
I used to believe he loved me. I mean, he said he did, but his actions proved otherwise.
Letting go of that belief set me so free.
Used to be a Republican but I became much less of an asshole once I quit drinking.
If you tell cops/court/authorities what’s going on that they’ll help you. Turns out who they decide to help has nothing to do with truth or fairness.
I used to believe that no one really got up in the morning plotting how to ruin someone else’ life. Turns out I was married to him, and he absolutely did –every waking moment he wasn’t actually distracted by some comic or computer game…
Common sense was common :v
That standing up for myself makes me a princess
I thought if i loved the heck out of people that they’d reciprocate that same love. I was deaaad wrong 😂
Used to believe in god lol but i was indoctrinated and found my way out
No self esteem in high school but I should have had. Didn’t think girls liked me but I was way way wrong.
Santa claus
I was an anti vaxxer before I took microbiology in college. I learned a lot in that class, including that I was way off about how vaccines work and their side effects!!
My aunt was a holistic medicine lady and my mom is a doctor, so I was always kind of caught in between those two worlds. Turns out, there’s a gray area, and science is much more trustworthy than I realized because of how many steps there are to validate studies. 🙂
all women deserve respect, turns out that is not true.
Also used to think I existed solely for the benefit of other people. Turns out, I’m a person, too. And, I deserve kindness just like everyone else.
I genuinely believe God had a single church on earth that was His and held His truth.
I was so fucking deluded.
Leftism. I was basically militant. Now I’m a conservative. Happened over around 6 years or so. Or it feels that way, maybe it was longer.
I’ve come to believe I was very wrong. Maybe I’ll go right back and think I am wrong now. Either way, I went from a diehard leftist to very much against giving government responsibilities (read: power) they can abuse.
Taking Adderall or other ADHD meds is okay to do if you in college.
I used to think it’s cheating if you do that. But mindset change when I took classes are realized how hard the work load is. If people feel like they need meds to study that’s more an issue with the education system than the person and don’t blame them at all.
That I could be anything i wanted to be. Yea, college has pretty much snuffed that light out. “It’s not what you know, it’s who you know,” I interpreted that as, “if you’re not buddy buddy with the hiring manager don’t bother applying.”
Meritocracy